There are people who love anal play—and those who haven’t tried it.

Maybe that’s an exaggeration. Some men are too squeamish to even entertain the idea. But for many men, once they’ve released those inhibitions and experienced prostate stimulation for the first time, they find it a fun and intimate addition to their love life.

There are two important rules to remember for safe anal play between monogamous partners.

1). While ass-to-mouth is a personal choice, never, ever (that’s never!) go ass-to-vagina. Not with the cock, not with a finger, and not with a toy that hasn’t been thoroughly cleaned first. It can cause urinary tract infections and other icky and painful ailments.

2). Too much lube is almost enough lube!

Anal play is probably not a topic most men want to discuss outside the bedroom. The best tactic is to make a move in the throes of ecstasy and see how he responds.

These same rules and techniques apply to women and anal stimulation. Although women don’t have a prostate, the anal area contains one of the largest concentrations of nerve endings, making it one of the more sensitive parts of the male or female body.

If you have long nails, place cotton balls in the finger tips of a latex (or in the case of a latex allergy, synthetic rubber) glove. The glove will create a smooth sensation and the cotton will prevent injury due to sharp finger nails. If your nails are already short, make sure they are filed with no rough edges.

Even inserting just a finger, you’ll want to use some lube. You can use your own juices if you’re extremely wet, but a lubricant like Doc Johnson’s Anal Lube will help ensure a good, smooth experience.

Try moving your finger in and out a few times while he gets accustomed to the sensation. You’ll find the prostate a few inches above the anus, on the belly side. Finding it is similar to finding a woman’s g-spot. In fact, it’s sometimes called the “male g-spot.”

Combining prostate stimulation with a blow job or hand job can create unprecedented pleasure. But men can have an amazing orgasm from prostate stimulation alone. Massage the prostate in the same way you would the g-spot, with a rubbing, “come here” motion.

If your guy likes the feeling of your finger up there, you may want to introduce a toy. Anal probes range in size from “starter models,” measuring a slender 1-inch across, to thicker, 2 or 3-inch models with varying-sized bulbs or ribs for increased pleasure.

For beginners, look for a slender butt plug with a thick base; it will be easier to control. Thicker plugs can create a great feeling of being “filled up,” but you’ll want to work your way up to larger models.

This slender jelly toy features a smooth shaft on one side and pleasure bulbs measuring up to an inch on the other, making it a toy that will “grow with you” as you become more adventurous and want the sensation of graduated bulbs.

Anal probes and plugs are usually manufactured from PVC jelly, rubber, silicone or glass. Don’t forget the lube!

You can also try a vibrating probe, such as this waterproof anal vibe from Doc Johnson.

Remember to go slow. It will build up anticipation and minimize pain or the chance of dangerous rips to delicate skin.

Once you and your lover start exploring anal play, you’ll find hundreds of toys, in every price range, available to help.

Everything is e-this, i-that… iPod, iPhone, iVibe. High-tech is in, and it’s not going away.

Doc Johnson, a leader in sex toys, brings high-tech into the bedroom with the colorful iVibe line of powerful vibrators. But Doc isn’t the only one on the high-tech train to orgasmic delight. Straight from the recent Adult Entertainment Expo ’08, we have some of the year’s most innovative toys.

Vibro Pod Digital Music Stimulator – That’s right, rock, roll, and buzz along with your favorite tunes. This next gen vibe from California Exotics lets you hook up your iPod to the controller and enjoy vibrating, pulsating action of the powerful egg-shaped vibe in time with your favorite music.

Cal Exotics’ Vibra Phone - iPhone for uPorn discussed getting porn delivered straight to your cell phone. But what about a cell phone look-a-like that can deliver powerful vibrations to your—well, you know?

At a glance, the Vibra Phone looks like the real thing. There’s no keypad, but if it falls out of your purse, you don’t have to blush in embarrassment.

Reviewers from G4 Network’s Attack of the Show said the vibrations weren’t all that powerful, and the shape seems a bit awkward. But the price is right and this nifty gadget is just too cool to pass up. You can’t beat the convenience for a little lunchtime tryst or an extended…bathroom…break.

Wireless Remote Egg - Wireless remote control vibes are hard to find. Although it’s not brand spankin’ new, we had to put the Wireless Remote Egg from Doc Johnson on the list. The vibrating egg is super comfortable, big enough to hit all the right spots and stay in place all day.

The wireless controller is smaller than the palm of your hand. All this convenience, with 7 functions of vibration and escalation, this toy is sure to make your next dinner date even more exciting. We doubt you’ll make it to dessert!

Wireless Vibrating Panties - We searched long and hard to find these wireless remote control vibrating panties. Let’s face it, having wires trailing from your pants just isn’t convenient—or all that sexy. The tiny, yet powerful, bullet vibe works magic all day long, and you can keep the wireless remote in your own pocket or share it with a lover.

Dream Duet - Rabbit vibes are nothing new, but we love the idea of dual vibes, attached at the base for double the pleasure! With separate control pads on each vibe, you can use each one independently, or lock them together for fun with a friend. Best of all, you get multiple functions of vibration, escalation, and reversible rotating pearls on the shaft!

It will take some creative positioning for both partners to enjoy the Rabbits together, but it’s worth it!

Remember, there’s more than one way to use a Rabbit. For even more couples-fun, try a rabbit vibe attached to a harness.

Since their inception, multi-function rabbit vibes have been considered cutting-edge vibrator technology. Even today, these powerful, versatile love machines don’t have many rivals. Sometimes you just can’t beat a classic!

Does a light smack on the bottom get you wiggling with delight? Have you joked with your lover about being tied up, but never had the nerve to try it? Do pink furry handcuffs seem silly—or sexy? It’s easier than you might think to introduce light BDSM activities into your bedroom!
BDSM stands for bondage & discipline; domination & submission; and sadomasochism (or S&M). BDSM activities evoke intense sexual pleasure through pain, fear or humiliation (or all three) between consenting adults.

As in all sexual activities, trust, communication and safety are paramount.

Experts advise that conversations regarding sex take place outside the bedroom, rather than in the heat of the moment. This is reasonable advice. But I can’t see, “Pass the salt and, oh, I’d like you to tie me up and flog me tonight,” going over well at the dinner table.

Find a time and place that works for you and your partner, whether it’s during a long car ride or at night before you drift off to sleep.

One thing you’ll want to discuss is limits. Maybe you’re comfortable, as a sub,with “anything he wants.” He, on the other hand, is squeamish about doing anything that will hurt you. That’s okay. Plenty of activities don’t involve overt pain, but will evoke desirable, sexy fear and humiliation to satisfy a sub’s cravings. When you make your foray into BDSM, start slow.

A safe word tells the “top” (dominating) partner to stop what he’s doing. It should be a word not normally uttered during play, so it won’t be used accidentally or misunderstood. Some couples use “green,” “yellow” and “red” to indicate “continue,” “continue, slowly,” or “stop.” If you’re using a ball gag, you’ll have to decide on non-verbal cues (or a series of grunts) as a safe “word.”

Whether you’re a top or bottom, BDSM will evoke unique emotions of power and control or fear and pain, respectively. Some subs report that the adrenaline rush dulls the pain while heightening orgasmic pleasure.

A blindfold can create intense anticipation as the sub is left wondering what part of the body might be stimulated next. The loss of sight also intensifies the other senses. The dom enjoys the power and the pleasure of eliciting such extreme ecstasy in his or her sub.

A dom can also take control by restraining his partner with handcuffs, silk ropes or cuff restraints. Many “all-in-one” beginner kits provide the basics to get started.

You may want to try rubber-coated nipple clamps, which create a blend of pain and excitement, or a feather tickler for harmless, yet torturous, fun. Cock rings can be great for male subs, resulting in more intense orgasms…when his Dominatrix finally lets him cum.

If you’ve dreamed of experiencing complete loss of power at the hands of your lover, or being the one in charge during your next adventure, why not give it a try?