Wear Purple October 20 for Gay Pride and Spirit

With 11 gay suicides in the past month, the media has deemed the incidences a gay suicide epidemic. But it is really a larger problem coming to light in a tragic way — the discrimination of gay and lesbian teens and youth and the lack of a support network for them in their schools and home towns.

Most children and teens undergo teasing at some stage of their life, whether their peers view them as too fat, too smart, too dumb, too rich, too poor… Kids can be cruel and words can cause lasting damage, wreaking havoc on an adolescent’s self-esteem, which can have lasting effects even into their adult life.

But for gay and lesbian teens, issues of teasing are amplified, as they may find it hard to gain the support, sympathy or understanding even from parents, school counselors, teachers and other adults. Gay and lesbian teens, when faced with bullying and teasing, may truly have nowhere to turn

New York Takes Action with Dignity for All Students Act

Following the suicide of Rutgers student Tyler Clementi, New York Speaker Christine Quinn addressed the issue at the GLAAD Media Awards in Advertising event. The story was reported on the NEXT Magazine website, where Quinn was quoted as saying, ““This is a serious problem—words and name-calling are much more serious than people think. People write it off like it’s going to be water off a duck’s back and it’s not.”

New York recently passed the Dignity for All Students Act, which is designed to provide schools with the tools and resources in place to provide all students, especially those who are frequent victims of bullying and discrimination, an educational environment where they can thrive.

The law, which does not go into effect until July 2012 and only addresses public schools at the primary and secondary level, is too late for Tyler Clementi and others like him. The young man’s suicide only underscores the importance of such an act.

Worldwide, People Wear Purple to Show Spirit and Support

In more immediate efforts to raise awareness of the problem, a grassroots initiative is asking everyone to wear purple on October 20 to honor the 11 youths who recently committed suicide.

The event started, as so many worldwide events do in the social media age, on Facebook. Facebook members launched the unofficial holiday by setting up an event and asking people to wear purple on October 20 “in honor of the LGBT youth who have committed suicide in recent weeks/months due to homophobic abuse in their homes and schools.”

The Facebook event invitation explains: “PURPLE represents Spirit on the LGBTQ flag and that’s exactly what we’d like all of you to have with you: spirit. Please know that times will get better and that you will meet people who will love you and respect you for who you are, no matter your sexuality.”

So far, 33,348 Facebook members worldwide are “attending” the event by wearing purple on October 20.

Will you be wearing purple October 20?

Squirting: Three Secrets to Female Ejaculation

I once saw a porn scene where it looked like a woman had Niagara Falls coming out of her vagina. I couldn’t help but think this was some form of special effects, even though the flick was relatively low budget. Until the other night.

Yes, female ejaculation of massive proportions is possible — and fun! Although it gets a bit messy and a towel or two is highly recommended for easy clean-up.

If you’ve never heard of female ejaculation, there’s an interesting side to sex you may be missing. But what is it, exactly? Essentially, it’s when a woman “squirts” clear fluid from the vaginal area … it comes from the urethra and the areas around it, specifically, the paraurethral glands. The first time many women squirt, they think they may have peed. But this fluid is clear and odorless and a somewhat different consistency than urine. Some studies note that some urine exists in the fluid.

Like the great debate over whether the g-spot exists or not, people debate over whether women can really ejaculate. This seems like a silly debate — especially if you’ve ever experienced squirting. It can happen.

How can you do it? Follow these steps and have fun practicing!

Play on your own at first. One of the major impediments to female ejaculation is embarrassment. Will our partner be grossed out? Will he think we peed on him? Since releasing your inhibitions is one of the keys to a great sex life — and this aspect is no different — practice on yourself first. You may first try masturbation in the shower, where clean up won’t be an issue.

Use g-spot stimulation. Many people believe female ejaculation occurs through g-spot stimulation. Although yours truly can squirt without such stimulation, it certainly doesn’t hurt. When you feel yourself cumming through g-spot stimulation, do kegels to intensify the orgasm, pushing out forcefully as you release the kegel. At first, you may just feel a few drops of liquid, but this can turn into a full-blown ejaculation. Ejaculation can also occur during clitoral stimulation.

Relax and focus. If you’re stressed about: “Will I or won’t I?” Guess what? You won’t. Relax. Focus on squirting but don’t stress, because you’ll tighten up. If it doesn’t work the first few times you try, don’t give up. Keep focusing and practicing.

Why Would You Want to Squirt?

You may wonder why you want to introduce this element into your sex life. Maybe you don’t, and that’s fine too. But if you’re interested, you’re opening yourself up to a new level of excitement. (Plus, many sex partners find it really hot!) When it finally happens, you’ll experience the most unbelievably intense orgasm of your life. The sensation of release is unlike any other when you can actually see and feel something coming out.

Facts, Info and More Questions about Squirting

- Squirting does not necessarily come with orgasm — it can happen before, after or during.

- Women squirt different amounts, from a few, barely detectable drops to a full-blown geyser effect.

- Yes, porn stars can (and do) fake ejaculation — usually by drinking a lot of water and then urinating on cue.

- There are no solid figures on the number of women who ejaculate. Questionnaire surveys found between 35 and 50 percent of respondents report squirting. Other studies found the numbers between 10 percent and 65 percent.

Keep in mind, once you find the right position and stimulation to provoke squirting, it may not happen every time. But if it’s something you and your partner enjoy, it’s definitely fun when it happens!