Tonight I’m going to fantasize about He-Man

Well, that was my thought two night ago at least LOL  My boyfriend and I had watched Masters Of The Universe and I realized that Dolph Lundgren as He-Man was really, very hot.  There’s just something about a big, strong hero, ya know? LOL

Now, I actually have a pretty active fantasy life and often have long, drawn-out and detailed fantasies that can last several days in a row.  Once I’m done fantasizing I may pick it up the next day/night/whatever and keep it going.  That way it can be a full story.

I tend to fantasize for different reasons; usually to help me fall asleep.  Fantasizing during masturbation often gets distracting for me, in a bad way, so frequently I use porn for those purposes.  However, regardless of that, I still fantasize.  A lot.  And regardless of the reasons, I think having a healthy fantasy life is a good thing.

For starters, it lets you forget about your stressful daily life and live out a fantasy of some other version of you with He-Man or Superman or Fabio or whomever gets your juices flowing.  Secondly, by being able to play out these fantasies in your mind, you can see/feel your reactions to them which can really help you work through and see if some of the elements of your fantasy would be something you’d like to try out in real life with your partner.  I’m sure there are plenty of reasons to fantasize, a good portion of it being that it’s the only way some of these things could happen, such as you being a vampire or being with a superhero.  But these listed are my big ones.

A big thing that I’ve heard though, is that fantasizing is a form of cheating.  Also, I’ve heard that you “shouldn’t have to” fantasize, just as I’ve heard that you “shouldn’t have to” masturbate.  I’m not going to get into the “shouldn’t have to” masturbate thing.  However the “shouldn’t have to fantasize”…well, I don’t have to at all!  I choose to.  And the thing about the cheating … well, with all things you really should talk to your partner.  Let them know that you enjoy fantasizing and also let them know what you enjoy fantasizing about.  Then if they have a problem with it you can discuss it and let them know why you fantasize.  You should also ensure to let them know that you’re perfectly okay with them fantasizing.

Either way, I love fantasizing.  It helps me relax when trying to fall asleep, and if nothing else can really get my juices flowing if I’m in a mood to masturbate and don’t feel like watching porn.  Thing is, my boyfriend is aware that I fantasize and he’s okay with it.  Since I’m not really with anyone else; it’s all in my head and for the most part the me that’s in my fantasies is not a realistic me.  It’s not me as I am right now.  Sometimes I”m a super hero or a secret agent or a vampire or rich or whatever LOL

Hey, it’s what fantasies are for! LOL

What do you fantasize about, and why do you fantasize?  Also — what are your opinions about fantasizing in general?

I’m too easy…

So I am way too easy.  I really am.  And it’s not  a choice thing.  It’s something I have very little control over.  And it’s really, really frustrating.  Sometimes I fight tears because of how easy I am.  Easy to get off that is.

I can orgasm within seconds.  Especially if it’s via clitoral stimulation.  But I cam also very easily orgasm, and quickly, via nipple stimulation, g-spot stimulation and internal vaginal stimulation.  I can also have small anal orgasms, though they’re not as intense; they’re almost a relief from the intense orgasms I can have otherwise.

I’ve always known that I was really easy to get off.  One of my friends can only orgasm after a long, long time of specific stimulation, and thus I’ve always considered myself lucky.  However, I was always forcing myself to feel that way.

Most of the men that I’d been with, prior to my current partner, thought it was so cool that they could make me scream within seconds of touching my clit.  Thing is, at that time I didn’t really know, or have the maturity to say, that it was too much and they needed to stop.  I would always “take it”, thinking I was supposed to and that I was being a good partner.

However, now that I have a partner that actually wants to take time rather than force a quick orgasm out of me so he can get his own rocks off, I really want to experience a full orgasm.  Something that has a beginning, a middle and an end.  For the most part my orgasms are almost instant, and don’t have a middle or an end.  The experience of 90% of my orgasms are climax.  And it’s tiresome.  It causes me to not be able to last as long, which makes my boyfriend have to end sooner as well (thankfully he has enough control of his orgasm that if I need him to finish he can fairly quickly; and he’s willing to, and understanding).

So many women need special positions, toys, breathing exercises, things like that to have an orgasm.  I need to do those things to not orgasm; I need them to make my orgasms last longer, or to just have pleasure without orgasming! Sometimes I specifically request things like only nipple stimulation, or just plain making out (eg – kissing and petting, nothing more) so that I can have sexual pleasure without instant orgasms.

Do you need to do anything to stop, or start, your orgasms??

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Why do I have so many sex toys?

A couple months ago I gave away two boxes full of sex toys.  Vibrators, dildos, anal toys, lube, even some bondage gear.  Now first off, keep in mind that they were all cleaned and sterilized.  And they are sterilizable for future use.   Even after doing that, I still have over 100 sex toys.  That includes dildos, vibrators, eggs, rabbits, anal toys, bondage gear and so on and so forth.  And I love it!  It’s funny because sometimes I feel like a hoarder, having so many sex toys and wanting even more.

Now, how I get my toys is different than most people, probably, in that I review sex toys.  So I share my personal experiences with new toys in exchange for the toy itself.  But even still, it’s not like I masturbate for hours upon hours every day.  Hell, I can go a week or two between masturbation sessions.

And even how I masturbate can be different from one day to the next.  Sometimes I can just give myself a quickie in the shower, be done in 5 minutes.  Other days I can turn my whole living room into Masturbation Central with half my toys out, 3 porns, blankets and 5 kinds of lube ready and sitting out for whatever desire I and my body may have.  As such I find it important for me to have several toys, but it also makes it nigh impossible for me to say that I have any one favorite toy.  The answer varies depending on what kind of toy we’re talking about (dildo, vibrator, egg, anal toy, rabbit, etc) and also what mood I’m in.

This is why I tend to not only favor but almost “push” people to have at least 1 or 2 different sex toys.  Sometimes our body wants something different and there’s not a darn thing wrong with giving into that desire!

Most of my sex toys are in my bathroom closet, however I have a handful by my bed.  Here’s  a few of them: L’Amour Tripler , Petite Silhouette , Thrusting Jack Rabbit .  I also have a couple anal toys and at least one glass dildo as well.  My theory is: whatever my body wants, I can meet it’s needs! LOL

So, what toys do you have beside your bed??? Also, how many do you think is too many sex toys?

Masturbation Under Covers

D’you know what I love?  Discreet sex toys. I love toys like the Kokeshi Girl Doll because not only are they uber cute but you can just sit them out and no one is the wiser! (Unless they know about the toy that is LOL) Moreso though, I love discreet toys that I can take with me, in my purse, pocket or vagina. Yes, vagina.

I love vibrators like the Couture Collection Bliss . There’s just something so hot knowing I have a vibrator in my vagina that’s controlled by a remote control that either I or my boyfriend have.  It’s just so… naughty, ya know?  Naughty in a wonderful way! LOL

But then there’s the joy of vibrators like the Mia. Unfortunately I don’t have the Mia itself, however I do have one very similar to it.  Small and virtually silent this little vibrator is always in my purse.  I have a dream/fantasy of using it in a public restroom.  I unfortunately haven’t had the opportunity yet, but I plan on it.  Soon!

There is one type of vibrator that I kinda wonder about though, and that’s the ones like the Couture Discretion. These sneaky little guys fit around the outer labia sort of like panties do and snuggle in against the clitoris to vibrate.  Then, panties hold it up/in.  Thing is though, it’s button controlled so you just leave it on, there’s no remote control for it.  Part of me wonders if my lips would go numb or something from the vibrations!  LOL  Though, I’d love to see how well I keep my cool out in public with something like that going on.

Regardless of what kind of vibrator it is though, I love masturbating under the cover of anything!  I love knowing that I have a vibrator in my purse and if I get the hankerin’ to twiddle myself (as my boyfriend calls it) I can.  And I can have the added excitement of knowing I’m in public (though in a restroom or something) and no one is the wiser!

Have you ever masturbated or had sex in public?  If so share your story, I’d love to hear it!!

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Sex toys and Mom

So, recently my mother came to visit.  We hadn’t seen each other in almost a year so it was really exciting!  Thing is; I think I spent more time finding my sex toys and porn and hiding it all than I did cleaning!  And as things are wont to do when you spend so much time focusing on them, I realized a couple things.

Firstly I realized that my Mom already knows that I have sex toys.  While she doesn’t know I’m a reviewer, she knows I write for an adult website.  Secondly, my Mom knows that I’m a sexually active adult and thus would have a dildo or two anyway.  Granted, my collection of over 100 sex toys is a lot more than “a dildo or two”, when I was showing her this website I realized that it’s not a big of a deal to me as I was making it out to be.

There’s a couple reasons for this; the main one being that there’s not a damn thing to be ashamed about when it comes to using sex toys! It’s a totally normal thing, it’s in no way cheating and it doesn’t harm anyone or get anyone addicted to vibrators or anything like that.

I actually ended up showing her Icicles #21 glass dildo as she’d never heard of those and couldn’t imagine using something glass “down there” she said.  Plus, with as pretty as it is, she also couldn’t imagine that you’d want something so beautiful for sexual purposes.  To which my response was that you wouldn’t want something ugly! LOL

Anyway, when I first showed her the Icicles line and the post that went along with it her first worry about glass toys was that they’d break.  Which was why I dug out one of mine to show her how sturdy they are.   For one thing, there’s always that joy of shocking a parent, ya know?  LOL  Secondly though, it’s nice to be able to educate my Mom and I think that, in the end, being able to educate and possibly open a mind, even just a smidgen, is worth a little bit of discomfort or embarrassment.

Does your parent(s) know you use sex toys?  If so to what extent and how did they find out?  Share your stories!

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Vibrator.com’s Newest Addition: Pipedream’s Icicles!!

Icicles #12

Now, I love glass dildos.  They’re beautiful, they’re sterilizable and you can make it as warm or cold as your parts want them.  You can wash them in the top rack of the dishwasher and many of them are so pretty you could have them as figurines around your home!!

Pipedream Products has made their own line of glass sex toys called Icicles, and Vibrator.com now carries all of them!!  From #1 thru #24 they are available for you to order right now!

The great thing about the Icicles line is…well, everything!!  The boxes they come in have the dildo snuggled in an ice, thick piece of styrofoam.  The box closes up securely and even has a “window” on the front with a door that secures with a magnet.

The dildos are hand blown with attention to detail and are so unique.  From what looks like a tentacle to a rose whichever Icicle you choose is sure to be the right one!!

Sex drives

So, my boyfriend and I used to have a lot of sex.  A lot.  Every day, sometimes more than once a day, for an hour or two at a time.  It was incredible!  He loves to see where my limits are, for how many different types of pleasure I can take at once.  By this I mean clitoral stimulation, anal stimulation, nipple stimulation, etc.  One of his favorite toys to use is this triple egg/bullet vibrator I have, it’s very similar to this duo egg vibrator, except mine has one slim vibrator and two eggs, all attached to one power pack.   He loves this toy so much because it’s so easy to use and there’s only one power pack, for so many vibrators.

I remember one time he had nipple clamps on me, had the long bullet in my bottom, the two eggs in my vagina plus he used another vibrator on my clit.  Yea, we’re pretty certain the neighbors heard me that night.  I think he really loves the fact that eventually I needed to cry “uncle!” and have him remove some of the stimulations.

The last few months though, we haven’t been having much sex.  Stress has gotten in the way, it totally has sapped our sex drives.  My boyfriend’s went first, but mine quickly went after.  Prior to me loosing my sex drive it was really difficult for me to cope with the very infrequent sex.  Part of me felt like I wasn’t attractive to him anymore, part of me feared he didn’t love me anymore, though he always told me it wasn’t either of those.  He was dealing with some depression and stress, things of that nature.

I’m quite ashamed of how poorly I dealt with it though.  I felt like he should be more willing to use his fingers or mouth on me, or use some of my sex toys on me so that I can at orgasm.  I would blame him, for me not getting off, when all I had to do wasmasturbate.    Happily I got over myself and then eventually started loosing my own sex drive.

Thing is, I felt like since we used to have sex so much, we should always have sex that much.  This is so not the case.  We should have sex when we want it, not because we did yesterday, or two days ago.  Sex can’t be scheduled, that causes it to loose it’s specialness, it looses it’s spur-of-the-moment feel and becomes tedious, almost like a chore.  Makes it seem more like you’re having sex because it’s time to, or you have to, rather than you want to.

Happily, nowadays, we have our sex drive back, and we’re having sex when we want to again.  It’s nowhere near as frequent as it used to be, however it’s damn good when it happens!!

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Crackhead Charlie, what’s next?

Something that never ceases to amaze me is the unique and, quite frankly, weird sex toys that come out.  From a double penetration glass dildo that looks, to me, like a speculum to solar powered bullets it seems like every day there’s something new and fun out there.

This particular love doll is, obviously, Charlie Sheen.  It’s a limited edition and really seems to have taken advantage of some of the things that Charlie has said over the last several months, such as “winning”, “adonis” and “tiger’s blood”.

Now, for me, I’ve never been a user of sex dolls, nor do I really follow celebrity news.  I happen to have friends who do however, so sometimes I catch it when big things happen, and it just happens that what’s been going on with Charlie Sheen has been some of the celebrity news I’ve caught, by proxy.

So anyway, I really have to give props and kudos to those who are sitting there and suddenly get the idea “Let’s make a Charlie Sheen love doll!!”  When I see random celebrity stuff I can say for certain that that’s not my first thought, or second, or even fourth! LOL  However, it seems that someone thought that Charlie Sheen would make an excellent sex toy and figured that he’s “a warlock rockstar from Mars.”

While I can say with certainty that this particular sex toy will not be making it into my collection, I have a suspicion that it will be making it’s way into many homes, if for no other reason than it’s limited edition nature, and taboo collectability.

This whole experience though makes me wonder… “What’s next???”  LOL I for one, can’t wait to find out!!

Rocket Into Adventure With Evolved’s Bottle Rockets!

Vibrator.com would like to invite you all to Rocket into Adventure with an Evolved Nolvelties Bottle Rocket!!

The Contest

We’re holding a contest right here on our blog where you could win one of the following: Nova , Orion , Apollo or the Saturn. They all have adorable pop bottle styled packaging and are waterproof!  Should you be chosen a winner, you can choose which Bottle Rocket you’d like.

Enter The Contest

To enter our Bottle Rocket’s contest all you need to do is leave us a comment on this post describing the most adventurous thing you’ve done with a sex toy!!

Qualify For The Contest

To qualify you must be 18 years old, or older and live in the United States or Canada.  You can enter only once and all entries must be received by Midnight Eastern Time, April 30th.

The Winners

I will email the winners, (we will be picking three!!) and we’d like a reply within 48 hours or we’ll have to choose someone else.

For inspiration, if I could enter the contest my entry would read something like:

“The most adventurous thing I’ve done with a sex toy would be the time my boyfriend and I were trying out a new remote control vibrator.  I inserted the egg and my boyfriend took control of the remote control.  Then we went to our local mall!  As we were walking through the hallways and stores he would enjoy turning the vibrator on when I would least expect it, such as when I was purchasing some candy.  He really enjoyed seeing me trying to control my facial expression and voice as all of a sudden the egg was vibrating inside of me!  Needless to say we had some fun when we got home!  He says that that was the wettest he thinks I’ve ever been.  …we really need to do that again now that we have a better remote control egg vibrator….”

Just Talk About It

So a couple nights ago my boyfriend and I were talking.  I honestly can’t remember how the subject came up, but we ended up telling stories from our past, which I love; even if it involves discussion about exes, sex with other people, and so forth.  You can learn so much about yourself and each other talking about these things!

This discussion ended up with us talking about this couple from my boyfriend’s past who seem to be serial cheaters on each other.  This then lead to the discussion of people who cheat because they’re not sexually satisfied at home.

Now, I can totally, totally understand being worried about what your partner would think of a weird sex desire you have, or a fetish or something like that.  Been there, done that, ya know?  The trick is though, 100% honesty mixed with mature discussions.

My boyfriend and I have had many such discussions.  We have come to an agreement that should one of us have a need for something, that is a true need, but also that the other one of us can’t meet, due to things like not having the right body parts or something like that, that there may be a chance of seeking fulfillment outside of our relationship, so long as both partners approve of the other party.  And of course so long as it’s safe, clean and only for that one specific need.

Now, that arrangement may not work for everybody.  I wouldn’t believe it if someone told me it did.  However there are many other ways things like this can be overcome.  Perhaps the need is really a want, perhaps it’s something the other partner would like too but just hasn’t tried it yet and any other number of scenarios.

The key really is to talk about it, though; through whatever means necessary.  Maybe simply talking about it; maybe buying a book or movie and giving it as a gift, write a letter or e-mail, surprise your partner, there are so many ways to communicate your needs and wants!  By not doing so you’re doing a disservice to yourself, your partner and your relationship.  Not only that but you’re missing out on a hell of a lot of fun, pleasure and sex!!

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240 Love Dolls??

So, the other day I was looking at news online and I came across this article about a British man who owns 240 love dolls.  Holy smokes!  He is also happily married.  Turns out it started about 10 years ago when he bought a mannequin because he liked the way she looked, but then he ended up wanting something more realistic and life like, which is then when he discovered “love dolls” online.  He then bought a $4,000 love doll online that his wife actually helped him purchase…and that it seems, is when the “collecting” began.

When I read this my first action was a few chuckles, then I started thinking “Good Lords, who collects sex dolls…??”  and then I really got to thinking.  “Who am I to talk??”  At one point I had so many sex toys I actually gave close to 50 sterilizable ones away.  And I still have close to 100 sex toys.  No love dolls though LOL

I honestly ended up feeling really bad for my immediate reaction having been laughing.  I mean, who am I to judge, ya know?  I know for a fact that several of the sex toys I have I got simply for the fact of having it; of getting the last of a line, or even quite directly for the sake of collecting.  So I hardly had anything to stand on for that.

Sometimes I think it’s a good thing to have something like that to happen, because, at least for me, it can help a person come back down to reality a little bit; to realize that as awesome as each of us is, we are not perfect.  Along with that though, it kind of caused me to see that I do have a tendency to collect sex toys, because some of them are just damn cool!!  For me, currently I’m working on getting all of the Cal Exotics L’Amour dual stimulators. I currently have the Tripler and the Flutter. All I need now is the Thumper!

So, in the end I guess, this article about a British man who owns over 240 love dolls helped teach me to be a bit less judgmental; I seem to have my own sex toy collections!  Who’da thunk it?