8 Easy Step to Introduce a Vibe to Your Man

Would you like to incorporate vibrators and other sex toys in your bedroom play, but aren’t sure how to introduce the concept to your man? Some men may feel insecure when you bring up the topic of toys, but others may be eager to use them for the first time. The only way you’ll know is to ask him.

Follow these tips to gently add a new element to your love life.

1.    Start small. We mean this literally and figuratively. The 9-inch long, extra-thick vibrating cock may intimidate your man a little. He might be less than enthused to hear it’s got 10 different speeds of vibration, pulsation and gyration. Most men only want to find that many buttons on the remote that controls their electronics equipment, not your you-know-what.

Begin with a slimline vibe that looks nothing like the real thing. Lady Calston’s Feel Good Slim Vibe can help create a great first experience for him or her.

2.    Seek the straight and narrow. Similarly, steer clear of anything that looks like a cock.

3.    Don’t let on that you’re a pro. When you first open your toy box, your man may want to know just how much action your collection has seen. Just smile seductively and say, “I use them now and then.” Deep in the back of your mind, you may know he masturbates daily, but that doesn’t mean you want to think about it. Neither does he.

4.    Demonstrate for him. If your partner seems uncomfortable or unsure what to do, give him a demo. And make it a real show. We promise you he will be so turned on, he’ll do anything you want after that.

5.    Use toys for two. Some clitoral vibes are great to use during intercourse. Your man won’t feel like he’s left out of the equation, and he’s sure to love the resonating vibrations, too. The We Vibe, for instance, is designed specifically for a man and woman to use together.

6.    Discuss it outside the bedroom. You can drop hints about toys you’d like to use by taking your man shopping – online, of course! Surf the Web with him one night and point out some of Vibrator.com’s more interesting, couple-friendly products. Chances are, he’ll be intrigued. If he seems lukewarm to the concept, start a dialogue. “I think these would be fun to use; what do you think?” During an honest discussion, he can air any misgivings and you can reassure him, or at least share your point-of-view.

7.    Toys for him. In some ways, introducing cock rings and pumps might be easier. After all, you merely have to tell him how good it will feel. What man doesn’t want more powerful orgasms and stronger sensations during sex?

8.    What about vibes for him? Once you’ve both gotten used to using vibrators together, he may get curious about experience the vibrations from a closer perspective. Or maybe you will be the one to suggest it.

Use plenty of lube for anal penetration and go slowly. Request that he communicates with you; let him set the pace.

Does color matter? If you think your guy will have hang-ups about something pink, purple or girly, go with a neutral color. On the other hand, some men won’t care at all.

Whatever toy you use, make sure to clean and sterilize it thoroughly before going from ass to vagina. It’s best to keep two separate toys on hand for these purposes if you plan to use vibes for anal and vaginal penetration during a single session. Who wants to get up and clean toys in the middle of sex?