7946437: Are You a Swinger?

As swinger novices, my husband and I sometimes miss opportunities for sex with other couples simply because we don’t realize the opportunities exist. The conversation goes like this: “Hmm, they’re cute. I wonder if they’d be interested?

And the possibility ends there because, “Hey, would you like to have sex with my husband (or wife)?” is not exactly an opening line that’s easy to bring up at your garden-variety cocktail party. Sometimes I’ll get a vibe and start to wonder, but I haven’t been brave enough to pursue it.

I’ve often wished a code existed for swingers to identify each other in public. It turns out there are several, from clothing to bracelets to logos and even (my favorite) a text message!

Just Say It
A search on cafepress.com for the word “Swingers” yields a ton of merchandise—some subtle, some not-so-subtle. Since many people refer to swinging as “the lifestyle,” apparel with these words in a not-so-obvious spot can identify you as a swinger, while most people won’t even notice it. If someone asks, you can always explain it away as another sort of lifestyle. (Use your imagination; or affect a mischievous grin and tell them to use theirs!)

My favorite? “Plays well with others.”

Take a Bite
NASCA International, an association of swing organizations whose mission is to promote swinging as an enjoyable social recreation and lifestyle, uses a logo of an apple with a bite taken out of it to represent “the lifestyle.”

Many other pins and pendants also exist, which might be recognizable to other swingers but just look like a cool piece of jewelry to anyone else.

Some other popular swinger symbols include:

-    A multi-colored chameleon (www.swingersymbol.com)
-    four intersecting male and female symbols
-    a circle with both the male and female symbols (visible on the SwappWatch)
-    Other versions of M, F, M, and F symbol combinations exist, too.

My only fear about wearing a pendant in the shape of an apple? I could be mistaken for a Mac enthusiast!

Give ‘Em Your Number
The most practical way to ask about a couple’s tendency in a crowd might be the text symbol for swinger: 7946437. I wish I had known about this one the other night. The numbers spell out SWINGER.

First you have to get their cell number, of course, but if you’ve already begun pursuing a friendship with the couple or individual—or even just started a promising conversation—that shouldn’t be too hard. If they have no idea what you’re talking about after you send the text, you can always blame the seemingly random numbers on butt-dialing.

Swinger Bracelets
7946437.com offers vinyl swinger bracelets in different colors, which show others not only that you are a swinger, but your preference or level of swinging. (i.e., soft swap only, anything goes, novice swingers still exploring the lifestyle).

Since many people wear these type of different-colored rubber bracelets to promote everything from finding a cure for cancer to showing the gender of your unborn baby, they won’t warrant a second look from the average person. A swinger might just pick up on the numbers and know what you’re looking for.

And if you were wondering, yours truly might be spotted sporting a dark blue and cobalt combination, with a purple thrown in for good measure.

Now it would be neat if someone designed a line of bracelets to show preferences in sex toys and other accessories.

I imagine some readers (myself included!) could wear bracelets up the lengths of both arms:  “Plays with: strap-ons, rabbits, clitoral vibes, wireless remotes, cock rings, handcuffs, nipple clamps, butt plugs…oh, yeah, and others!”

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