Any long term relationship is bound to get a little mundane every now and then. Even the sickly sweet, madly in love couples eventually get distracted with children, bogged down in debt, and stressed by work and social commitments. Having sex with the same person after a few years can be like eating the same meal day in and day out: It may be delicious and your absolute favorite, but something about it leaves your pallet wanting a new taste.

This is common among married couples or long-term partners and is generally not an indication of how you feel for each other. Unfortunately, sometimes the wires get crossed and we react by withdrawing, having affairs, or taking out that unfulfilled anger on our loved ones.

Your relationship does not have to be over. Focus your energy on igniting new desires and sustaining the ones that brought you both together to begin with. Here are a few ideas to help get the blood pumping.

Watch an XXX movie together

While it’s true that many couples initially reject the idea, most will try it at least once. Women like pornography too! (Most don’t like to admit it, but the right kind of movie can turn her on instantly.) It is advisable to steer clear of anything too extreme unless you’re keenly aware of your partner’s interests and fantasies. Remember, this is about turning your partner on and not about sending your partner running for the hills. Exploring what gets you both in the mood can be a new learning experience.

Set the atmosphere

Write your partner a modest song or poem. Lay a trail of her favorite candy from the door to the shower where you’ve thoughtfully placed a dozen roses. Be open with your feelings and don’t be afraid to tell your partner how much you love them. Light some candles or incense. This should set the fire in both of you.

A bit of BDSM

Many people are secretly aroused by the thought of being tied up. Play cautiously in this area as you are exploring each others’ boundaries and trust. Bring an article of clothing like a necktie to bed. Test the waters by gently restraining your partner’s hands and wrists during foreplay. Pay close attention to your partner’s reactions. If all seems well then reach for the necktie and slowly and loosely place the tie around your partner’s wrists. Kiss and caress your partner and take your time! Like in many aspects of your relationship, communication will be key.

Putting food to good use

Strawberries and whipped cream are the staples of erotic foods and can be sensually fed to your partner in or out of the bedroom. Run a honey covered finger across your partner’s lips and see how quickly your finger ends up in her mouth. Covering your lover in whipped cream and licking it off may sounds cliché, but it does work for some. Feeding your partner resembles kissing and fellatio, and if discreetly performed outside the bedroom, act as occasional reminders of sexy things to come. Advancing these ideas in a public place may help you discover the exhibitionist or voyeur in the person you thought you knew so well.

Throughout your fast-paced days, take the time to slow down and be in the moment with the one you love. Listen to each other. Compromise. Be caring and compassionate. Above all else, be attentive to your partner’s needs, both in and out of the bedroom.

Now here’s the funny part: according to a recent observation by Esquire.com’s sexpert, this whole hairless thing actually carries psychological implications. OK…this might be where I would normally draw the line. I mean, is this an indication of an upcoming TV commercial prompting me to “ask my doctor about….” I feel a remedy being concocted by a large pharma company at any moment! But seriously, I got to thinking about the source of it all…it seems that the porn industry compounded with media hype is being blamed for this need in women to strip away their hair down there. And then I understood about the psychological aspect. It is hard enough to have to compete with the unrealistic images of femininity that are shoved in our face from the world of fashion and beauty. We cannot all aspire to be supermodels. But our sexuality is being challenged as well. We have to keep up with the unrealistic images of “sexy” that are fed to us from the porn industry. The worst part is that the media loves it…so therefore we get a spoonful and then some.

OK so what’s the remedy? Do we all grow dreadlocks in rebellion?! I think NOT!! Personally, I am not Jenna Jameson, and never will be. Perhaps the closest I can get to emulating her is to use the Jenna Hot Trimmer!! Another hot tip for those not interested in pain…try the Coochy Shave Cream…it’s super packed with moisturizers so you get that “just waxed” feeling without the screaming…and maintaining good relations with the country of Brazil!

Hugs and Kisses…

Someone who had way too much time on their hands…and it seems a celebrity vendetta, actually came up with butt plugs bearing incredible resemblance to some of your favorite celebrities. These disturbingly large ass invaders come in a variety of personalities; with the ASSQUAKE option. I guess the ASSQUAKE is guaranteed to make your colon shake…but personally…I cannot imagine sticking one of these oversized rubber figurines up my tush! I do like to look at ‘em though…and have a good giggle or two! Hey…you can even make your very own customer celebrity butt plug. This comes with a heftier price tag…but could be worth its weight in gold in laughs.

All of these buttplugs have wonderfully creative and catchy names like the Parass Hilton or the Dingleberry Bonds…which by the way is guaranteed to rip you a new asshole it’s so large. My personal favorite: the Smell Gibson…which is SOLD OUT…go figure!!!

What will those crazy kids think of next?!

Hugs and Kisses…

The University of California, Santa Barbara has recently allocated funds from the Student Finance Board to some expenses involved in their upcoming “Sex Affair“ event. How exciting! The Student Health’s Sex and Relationship Interns get to use those allocated funds for advertising and entertainment costs associated with the Sex Fair, scheduled for May 23-24. This means purchasing some fun and educational knick-knacks for the goodie bags they plan to hand out. No doubt, a stellar supply of condoms should be at the top of that list!

In what seems to be the beginning of trend, The College of William and Mary has hosted another sex fair focusing on sex workers. More than 400 very interested students crammed into the University Center, while over 300 eager beavers had to be turned away. The point of this sex fair was to portray the realities of sex related careers…and the money for this fair was also appropriated from student activities fees. While several reviews were not favorable for the university to be paying for this, it was clearly acknowledged “…it’s not the practice and province of universities to censor or cancel performances because they are controversial.” BRAVO!!!! It is important to give young adults a well rounded education that includes a healthy dose of realistic understanding of the world beyond the classroom.

So what did we learn today children??? That they are finally instituting higher learning at institutions of higher learning. We also learned that it is OK to bring the sex industry out into the forefront of mainstream.

Vibrator.com will be playing their part in bringing sexuality into the every day lives of people. With so many exciting events coming up…it’s hard for me to keep quiet…so let me start by announcing our participation in NYC’s SHECKY”S GIRL NIGHT OUT!!! For those of you unfamiliar: Shecky’s Girls Night Out is an extravaganza of women’s favorite delights. All things that women love are crammed into 5 evenings of communal joy and overall girlie fun. We are so proud to be participating as the first and only Erotic Novelties vendor.

For all those sexy ladies in the NYC area, or those that may be visiting during March 12-16th, come check us out!

Hugs and kisses,

Sally

I have some thoughts on this…and I’d like to share. I would like to begin with the wealth of feelings this event stirs up inside of me…curiosity, jealousy, pride and a minor hint of rage!

Jealousy: I have not been gettin’ any lately…so I guess I am a little envious of exciting sex tales in general. But first and foremost, I have been waiting for my turn to be inducted into this exclusive club. Maybe I should have been a flight attendant…maybe I am misdirected spending all my time on the internet writing about sex instead of on Trans-Atlantic flights screwing sexy movie stars in between beverage service and the distribution of headphones. I hope it’s not too late for a career change…

Pride: Way to go! Yeah! After all, I am in the business of promoting hot and steamy sex lives. Now this is what we mean when we say “empower your sexuality”. I can’t help but feel like in some small way, all of us who promote a sex-positive attitude that includes living out your fantasies, played a part in this…and the millions of other Mile High Club stories that unfold day after day, year after year, flight after flight.

Rage: Here’s where it gets sticky…(no pun intended)…Mr. Fiennes was on his way to India to preach about safe sex and protecting yourself from HIV. Now here’s the conundrum folks….this little quickie in the bathroom was admittedly unprotected. SHAME ON YOU RALPH!!!!! If you’re gonna do it…do it right. This pisses me off! Next time you’re going to give banging in the bathroom a good name…don’t ruin it by being a hypocrite.

Damn do I wish I was on that flight!

Hugs and Kisses,

Sally

Happy Valentine’s Day lovers!

Hugs and Kisses,

Sally

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Hugs and Kisses…

Sally