Tips for Taking Care of Your Sex Toys

Afterglow Sex Toy Cleaning Wipes

Especially with how expensive sex toys can get, it’s important to take care of them.  With as much work as we put some of our toys through, and considering the sensitive places where we use those toys, we really need to work at keeping them in tip top shape.  As such, it’s important to take care of your toys; to keep them clean and store them properly between uses.

The first step in taking care of your sex toys is to keep them clean.  There are many varieties of antibacterial toy cleaners which you can use to clean any type of sex toy before and after use.  It’s important to clean toy before use, as well as after.  Before use, it’s important because the toys can collect lint, dust and other stuff that floats around in the air.  Even just rinsing the toy off first works, as we don’t want that lint and other stuff to get in our parts.  I like to use antibacterial toy wipes before I use my toys as the bathroom is very out of the way and many of many favorite toys are in my bedroom.

For cleaning after sex, it’s important to clean in all the crevices and dips you can find in toys, as fluids can get in there and then dry, which can lead to a lot of bacterial growth.  It’s important to use body safe soap as well as hot water.  For glass, pure silicone and other heat resistant toys without motors you can boil them.  5-10 minutes, depending on the size of the toy and how many you’re cleaning works just fine.  Also, a 10% bleach solution (so 1 part bleach to 10 parts water) works well also, so long as you ensure to rinse the toy completely.

It’s important to remember that unless your toy is completely non-porous, such as 100% silicone, metal or glass, your toy will never be wholly clean, as bodily fluids will get into the tiny pores and you won’t be able to clean them out.  As such, it’s always in your best interest to get totally non-porous sex toys.  Also, when it comes to toys used anally or shard, it’s imperative to get non-porous toys and then fully sterilize them before sharing or use again.  And never, ever take a sex toy from the anus to the vagina without fully sterilizing it first, or using condoms.

As for storing your toys, many toys cannot touch, or else there could be a reaction between the materials they’re made out of, which can ruin your toys.  The safest rule of thumb is to simply just store your toys so none of them touch.  Glass toys, wood or metal toys and ceramic toys are safe to touch each other and toys of the same material.  Plastics, jelly toys and silicone toys really shouldn’t touch each other or toys of the same material as a chemical reaction could occur which would damage the toys.

What I do is I keep each toy wrapped in cloth.  Sometimes I use the same piece of cloth, I just ensure that there is a couple folds of cloth between them.  Also, you can simply use the package that the toy came in, if it came in anything substantial.    Sometimes this is the best way to go, especially if the packaging is awesome and substantial, such as with Evolved toys.

Lastly for storage, it’s important to ensure your toys are safe.  Last thing you want is for them to get broken by accidentally being stepped on, or sliding off of a shelf.

So, the long and short of it is; take care of your sex toys. You spend your hard earned money on them, and you insert them into your bits and use them on your parts.  The better you take care of them, the longer they’ll last and the more you’ll be able to use them.

A breakdown of sex toys.

There’s a lot of different kinds of sex toys out there.  So I thought I’d break some of it down for you, to help separate some of the toys, what they are, what they’re typically used for, and how they’re used.

The Dildo

Perhaps the most recognizable sex toy, the dildo has been around for longer than many people realize.  Dildos come in shapes from realistic (meaning it looks very much like a real penis, typically uncircumcised) to unrealistic, possibly looking like a rose or some other, non-penile shape.

Dildos are typically used for vaginal penetration, though some are also able to be used for anal penetration.  For safety purposes, only use dildos with a flared base and that are also non-porous (so that they may be sterilized) for anal penetration.

Typically non-intimidating, a dildo is often the first sex toy a woman will purchase.  They are simple to use, don’t usually require batteries and come in a wide variety of sizes, colors and shapes.

The Vibrator

Vibrators really are more than a dildo that vibrates. For the most part, vibrating dildos are simply dildos that have a slot for a small vibrator (typically a bullet.)  They are typically realistic in shape and made of a soft material.  Actual vibrators, on the other hand, are made around the motor and vibrator, meaning that the vibrator is not removable.

Vibrators come in endless colors, shapes and sizes, as well as types.  From rabbits to g-spot vibrators to clitoral vibrators there is a vibrator made for any purpose.  As they sound, g-spot vibrators are made with a “hook” or nub at the end of it, to help the user reach and then stimulate the g-spot.  The clitoral vibrators are round and thin, without much substantial size so that one may target the clitoris.  Many clitoral vibrators can sit snugly between the labia.  Rabbits have a shaft for internal vaginal stimulation as well as a clitoral stimulator, so that both areas may be stimulated simultaneously.

Typically run on batteries, many sex toy companies are getting on the green bandwagon and making their sex toys rechargeable.

Vaginal Balls

Vaginal balls are small, body safe balls that typically are hollow, with another weighted ball inside of them.  Most vaginal balls are two balls, connected by a string with another retrieval string at the end of one of the balls.   A few are single balls with a retrieval string, and also you can find some which have no retrieval string, that you remove by simply using your pc muscles.  Some, like the Luna Balls offer a couple different options, working with one or two balls of different weights.

Vaginal balls are excellent for women who have had children and/or who are experiencing difficult controlling their bladder.  The reason for this is that doing regular exercises with vaginal balls (or kegel exercises without the balls) most certainly help strengthen the pc muscles.  This will increase your continence and there are many instances where this increased muscle control will also increase the pleasure you receive during sex.

The vaginal balls strengthen muscles by you holding them in.  They are weighted, so you squeeze your muscles around the balls, holding them inside your vagina.  By squeezing your muscles, holding the balls in, then releasing your muscles you exercise the muscles just like you exercise any other body part.

Anal Plug

Anal plugs are anal safe sex toys that get inserted into the rectum and then kept there.  They come in several materials, from silicone which is best for beginners as it gives, to steel which is more advanced, as there’s no give to it. Typically they do not vibrate and simply sit there.  While this may seem unexciting, there are many good reasons to use anal plugs.

First, you can work your way up from small plugs to larger ones to get your bottom used to having something larger in there.  This is a great thing to do if you wish to experiment with anal sex at some point in time.  Secondly, it can simply be enjoyable for the different sensations having something in your bottom can give.  Thirdly, using an anal plug is an awesome way to experience double penetration for women; having something both in your butt and vagina.

Anal plugs are great because you can wear them for long periods of time.  You can put an anal plug in then go do your errands!  This is a lovely and erotic way to spend some time during your day as no one else will know you’ve stuck something in your bum!  This can be a naughty secret between you and your lover, or something only you know.

Anal Probe

Basically, anal probes are anal vibrators.  They come in many shapes and sizes and are made specifically for anal use.  It’s always important to ensure that they’re non-porous so you can fully clean and sterilize them as well as ensure there’s a large flared handle so that it won’t get stuck up there; you can’t push things out of your bottom the same way a woman can push something out of her vagina.

Many anal probes are made specifically for men and thus are designed to simulate the prostate.  This is a wonderful and healthy thing for men to do as it can give a unique orgasm all of it’s own; it also does not, in any way, mean someone is bi or homosexual.

Anal Beads

Anal beads are sort of like anal plugs, but they are smaller and longer.  Anal beads are  an excellent thing to start with if you’re a beginner to anal play.  They have several beads or bumps on a body safe string or piece of silicone.  You can pop one in then after a few seconds of acclimation go ahead and put in the next one, which is a tad bit bigger.  You can then keep going (each bead/bump is a tad bit bigger than the one before) until you’ve inserted them all, or until you’ve reached the largest one you wish to use.

Also similar to anal plugs, these can be worn for extended periods of time while you are having sex, doing chores or running errands.  Anal beads are wonderful to have in while having sex.  You can experience double penetration, but also, typically, the man can feel the beads on his penis through the vaginal/anal wall which will give him unique sensations and increase the uniqueness and pleasure during sex.

The one sex toy I couldn’t live without…

Now… yes.  My favorite sex toy is my boyfriend.  However, when it comes to actual vibrators, rabbits are my favorite. I would go nuts without a good rabbit vibrator! (And when it comes to rabbits, my favorite is the L’Amour Tripler ) There are many reasons why I enjoy a good rabbit.

First off, it allows me to have both vaginal and clitoral stimulation without having to use two separate toys.  Holding a vibrator on my clit while also having vaginal stimulation can be logistically difficult.  There’s not a whole heck of a lot of room down there and so having more than one toy down there can be difficult.  Not only that but having to maneuver two toys at once, you can get rhythm going that works for one but not the other, and all sorts of stuff like that.

Secondly, my clitoris is very, very sensitive.  So this frequently can give me problems with over-stimulation and my clit being so sensitive I can’t stand any kind of touch on it.  So, having the “ticklers” that many rabbits boast frequently makes it easier for me to accept the stimulation as it’s usually not very intense.  For me, being able to genuinely be able to thoroughly enjoy clitoral stimulation without having to focus on simply being able to accept it is unique and a joy.

Thirdly, I love rabbits because so many of them have rotation settings on the shafts of the vibrators. Rotating rabbits and other similarly unique functioned rabbits offer one-of-a-kind experiences that many other sex toys don’t give.

Rabbits, of any kind, allow you to just insert, turn it on and lay back letting the toy do it’s job; give you incredible sexual sensations and pleasure and bring on orgasms that no other toy or stimulation will bring.

My favorite is the L’Amour Tripler .  What’s your favorite rabbit vibe??

Strap-On Condom? YUP. Strap-on condom.

So this…invention… is called the Sensis sheath.  It’s a strap-on condom that, as far as I’ve been able to research, is being marketed for those who are too drunk to be able to put on a standard condom.  I guess it’s easier to pull the straps to slide the condom on, rather than simply putting your fingers around the penis to slide it up.

Now, I have a few thoughts about this.  Not the least is that if you’re so drunk you can’t put a condom on you probably shouldn’t be having sex anyway.  If you frequently have sex with people when you’re drunk perhaps you need to look at your drinking habits and/or your behavior while drinking.

At the same time, if you are aware of this behavior and are taking measures to be protected, then that’s good!  I wish more people would be prepared like that.  Reduce unplanned pregnancies, reduce the spread of some venereal diseases and so forth.

This is one of those things that, in my opinion, is both “too much” and a good thing.  I mean, the idea that someone is so drunk they need a strap on condom just proves that they shouldn’t be having sex.  However, if they’re that determined to have sex at least there’s something out there to help them be protected during it.

What are your thoughts about the strap on condom??

EDIT –

After some thought and discussion with other’s it’s come to my thought (and others as the comment shows) is that this could really help persons with disabilities.  If you have dexterity issues, or other issues using your fingers or hands, then this little invention is something that could really help you use condoms, which is a very important thing.

So in this sense, major kudos to the inventor of this product.  I sincerely hope it gets marketing so that those who need it can use it.

Tips For Buying Sex Toys Online

Buying sex toys in a brick and mortar store does have a couple upsides in that you can actually pick up the toy, feel it, and see the size of it with it right there in your hand.  Granted it’s in it’s package, but it’s still a lot easier to make a decision on what to purchase by touching it, feeling it’s weight, seeing it in your hand and so forth.  However, you also have to stand in that store with other people shopping there as well, seeing what you’re purchasing, you have to see what they’re purchasing and so on and so forth.

The main con with buying sex toys online is not being able to feel the toy; check out the severity of any ribbing or texture, have a more realistic vision of what the size is really like.  However online stores like Vibrator.com have a much larger inventory than brick and mortar stores, which gives you the ability to choose the toy that you really want and you invariably get a much better price, despite often having to pay for shipping.

I much prefer shopping for my adult items online, for many reasons.  You get better prices and have a much wider selection so I can really look through everything and find exactly what I’m looking for.  Plus, I can read reviews of the item(s) and get other’s takes on it; is it well made, how’s the texture, is it bigger than it seems like it is, and so forth.  Also, I love the availability of kits online can let you get all the things you’d need for something, such as romancing your partner or beginning anal sex, at a reduced price.

The biggest tip that I can give when shopping online for sex toys is to pay attention to the details given, for the item.  Is it waterproof?  What’s the texture like and what’s the material?  If it’s silicone do you have a water based lubricant?  What’s the size of it?  Grab a tape measure if you have to so you can get a better idea.  2 1/2″ thick doesn’t sound like much, but it’s more than one would think it is.

The second most important tip I can give is to read sex toy reviews.  There are two main types of reviews out there; the short ones you see on the toy’s page on the sex toy site, and the other are the longer reviews put out by dedicated sex toy reviewers such as this one.

So in other words…Viva La Online Sex Toy Shopping!!

What do you think of shopping online versus brick and mortar stores?

Vibrator.com now carries Brandie’s favorite lube!!!

I’m so excited to let y’all know that Vibrator.com now carries my favorite line of personal lubricant; Climax Bursts!  YAYY!!  There are several varieties of it: Aphrodesiac , Cooling (my personal favorite), Warming , Anal and some of the best Sex Toy Cleaner that I’ve ever used.  They are great for both masturbation purposes and sex itself.

What’s really cool about these lubricants is that they are very thick, yet still water based.  Plus, they all have little beads of Vitamin E in them (thus the “bursts” in the name) that burst upon contact with our skin (you don’t feel it) and it releases that Vitamin E into your skin.  This helps keep our skin moist and the lube active.  The same beads are in the toy cleaner and that really helps your toys stay in good working condition and safe for use.

Not to mention the tops of the bottles look like nipples! LOL

Also, each variety is a different color. Cooling is blue, Anal is black, Sex Toy Cleaner is green, Aphrodesiac is orange and Warming is red.  Climax Bursts is an awesome lubricant and despite being water based (thus it’s safe to use with any kind of sex toy) it rarely needs re-applying unless you’re using it for a good half hour or more.

I *highly* recommend any and all of the Climax Bursts products.  My favorite is the cooling lube, and what we love to do with it is to put it in the fridge.  Hehehe

Anal Lube

Aphrodesiac, Cooling and Warming Lubricant

Sex Toy Cleaner

Plus Sized Sex

So often when reading about sex and sexuality and sex toys and all that, there are many issues which are addressed.  Different sexual orientations.  Issues resulting from sexual abuse.  Transgender issues.  It’s very rare though, to see someone talking about issues surrounding being plus sized.  Sure there’s plenty of discussion of self esteem and how it’s healthy to masturbate, but how often do you see suggestions on sex toys that are easier for larger women to use?  How often do you see suggestions on sex positions that are easier for plus sized people to get into?

Personally, I’ve only seen one book where plus sizes were addressed and the only suggestions on toys for plus sized women was a post written by me quite some time ago.  So, in the interest of promoting awesome masturbation for us plus sized girls, here’s a couple of my favorite toys, and some tips for us plus sized women!

Evolved Bendable You Too —  While this vibrator, unfortunately, doesn’t have Evolved’s standard rockin’ tins to keep it in, it’s bendy nature and lengthy size make it great for reaching hard to reach places!  It’s almost 9″ long, so when you have it elongated and not bent it can easily reach around extra flesh, it can easily fit inside thick labia and can help you reach if you’re unable to reach your fingers or hands down there.  Plus, with how bendable it is you can easily shape it exactly how you want and need it.  Not to mention the long cord for the power pack, so you don’t have to worry too much about where it is or how far away it is.

Share Dildo — Now, yes.  The intended purpose of this dildo is to be inserted into one female, and then that female has sex with someone else using the dildo as it’s inserted into her vagina.  However.  Look at the size and shape of this baby! That short end makes a perfect handle!  So it’s super easy for you to lay back, hold onto it and it’s size and length makes it easy to reach around extra flesh and still make it into your vagina so you can pleasure yourself.

TIPS:

Position aids, like the Liberator Wedge are really a girls best friend.  First off then can help you (anybody really) get into positions that may otherwise be difficult to achieve.  One thing though, to try, is if you’re in doggy style slap a pillow two under your belly. This will help to not only give your upper body some support so your arms dont’ have to take all the weight but also it can help give your stomach support so it’s not all pulling on your back.

If you want to have a leg or two in the air try laying on the couch and putting one up on the back of the couch.  By hooking a foot up there you can have a leg up without having to hold it up yourself or have your partner hold it for you.  That way you either don’t have to worry about that, or you and/or your partner can hold your other leg up and you can have the variety of position with a leg or two up.  This position sort of mimics doggy style and also makes it easier to achieve g-spot stimulation.

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Do you have any tips for plus sized people wanting to masturbate and have sex?  Or, are you plus sized and would like tips?  Please, leave a comment!!

Why do I have so many sex toys?

A couple months ago I gave away two boxes full of sex toys.  Vibrators, dildos, anal toys, lube, even some bondage gear.  Now first off, keep in mind that they were all cleaned and sterilized.  And they are sterilizable for future use.   Even after doing that, I still have over 100 sex toys.  That includes dildos, vibrators, eggs, rabbits, anal toys, bondage gear and so on and so forth.  And I love it!  It’s funny because sometimes I feel like a hoarder, having so many sex toys and wanting even more.

Now, how I get my toys is different than most people, probably, in that I review sex toys.  So I share my personal experiences with new toys in exchange for the toy itself.  But even still, it’s not like I masturbate for hours upon hours every day.  Hell, I can go a week or two between masturbation sessions.

And even how I masturbate can be different from one day to the next.  Sometimes I can just give myself a quickie in the shower, be done in 5 minutes.  Other days I can turn my whole living room into Masturbation Central with half my toys out, 3 porns, blankets and 5 kinds of lube ready and sitting out for whatever desire I and my body may have.  As such I find it important for me to have several toys, but it also makes it nigh impossible for me to say that I have any one favorite toy.  The answer varies depending on what kind of toy we’re talking about (dildo, vibrator, egg, anal toy, rabbit, etc) and also what mood I’m in.

This is why I tend to not only favor but almost “push” people to have at least 1 or 2 different sex toys.  Sometimes our body wants something different and there’s not a darn thing wrong with giving into that desire!

Most of my sex toys are in my bathroom closet, however I have a handful by my bed.  Here’s  a few of them: L’Amour Tripler , Petite Silhouette , Thrusting Jack Rabbit .  I also have a couple anal toys and at least one glass dildo as well.  My theory is: whatever my body wants, I can meet it’s needs! LOL

So, what toys do you have beside your bed??? Also, how many do you think is too many sex toys?

Masturbation Under Covers

D’you know what I love?  Discreet sex toys. I love toys like the Kokeshi Girl Doll because not only are they uber cute but you can just sit them out and no one is the wiser! (Unless they know about the toy that is LOL) Moreso though, I love discreet toys that I can take with me, in my purse, pocket or vagina. Yes, vagina.

I love vibrators like the Couture Collection Bliss . There’s just something so hot knowing I have a vibrator in my vagina that’s controlled by a remote control that either I or my boyfriend have.  It’s just so… naughty, ya know?  Naughty in a wonderful way! LOL

But then there’s the joy of vibrators like the Mia. Unfortunately I don’t have the Mia itself, however I do have one very similar to it.  Small and virtually silent this little vibrator is always in my purse.  I have a dream/fantasy of using it in a public restroom.  I unfortunately haven’t had the opportunity yet, but I plan on it.  Soon!

There is one type of vibrator that I kinda wonder about though, and that’s the ones like the Couture Discretion. These sneaky little guys fit around the outer labia sort of like panties do and snuggle in against the clitoris to vibrate.  Then, panties hold it up/in.  Thing is though, it’s button controlled so you just leave it on, there’s no remote control for it.  Part of me wonders if my lips would go numb or something from the vibrations!  LOL  Though, I’d love to see how well I keep my cool out in public with something like that going on.

Regardless of what kind of vibrator it is though, I love masturbating under the cover of anything!  I love knowing that I have a vibrator in my purse and if I get the hankerin’ to twiddle myself (as my boyfriend calls it) I can.  And I can have the added excitement of knowing I’m in public (though in a restroom or something) and no one is the wiser!

Have you ever masturbated or had sex in public?  If so share your story, I’d love to hear it!!

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Sex toys and Mom

So, recently my mother came to visit.  We hadn’t seen each other in almost a year so it was really exciting!  Thing is; I think I spent more time finding my sex toys and porn and hiding it all than I did cleaning!  And as things are wont to do when you spend so much time focusing on them, I realized a couple things.

Firstly I realized that my Mom already knows that I have sex toys.  While she doesn’t know I’m a reviewer, she knows I write for an adult website.  Secondly, my Mom knows that I’m a sexually active adult and thus would have a dildo or two anyway.  Granted, my collection of over 100 sex toys is a lot more than “a dildo or two”, when I was showing her this website I realized that it’s not a big of a deal to me as I was making it out to be.

There’s a couple reasons for this; the main one being that there’s not a damn thing to be ashamed about when it comes to using sex toys! It’s a totally normal thing, it’s in no way cheating and it doesn’t harm anyone or get anyone addicted to vibrators or anything like that.

I actually ended up showing her Icicles #21 glass dildo as she’d never heard of those and couldn’t imagine using something glass “down there” she said.  Plus, with as pretty as it is, she also couldn’t imagine that you’d want something so beautiful for sexual purposes.  To which my response was that you wouldn’t want something ugly! LOL

Anyway, when I first showed her the Icicles line and the post that went along with it her first worry about glass toys was that they’d break.  Which was why I dug out one of mine to show her how sturdy they are.   For one thing, there’s always that joy of shocking a parent, ya know?  LOL  Secondly though, it’s nice to be able to educate my Mom and I think that, in the end, being able to educate and possibly open a mind, even just a smidgen, is worth a little bit of discomfort or embarrassment.

Does your parent(s) know you use sex toys?  If so to what extent and how did they find out?  Share your stories!

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Vibrator.com’s Newest Addition: Pipedream’s Icicles!!

Icicles #12

Now, I love glass dildos.  They’re beautiful, they’re sterilizable and you can make it as warm or cold as your parts want them.  You can wash them in the top rack of the dishwasher and many of them are so pretty you could have them as figurines around your home!!

Pipedream Products has made their own line of glass sex toys called Icicles, and Vibrator.com now carries all of them!!  From #1 thru #24 they are available for you to order right now!

The great thing about the Icicles line is…well, everything!!  The boxes they come in have the dildo snuggled in an ice, thick piece of styrofoam.  The box closes up securely and even has a “window” on the front with a door that secures with a magnet.

The dildos are hand blown with attention to detail and are so unique.  From what looks like a tentacle to a rose whichever Icicle you choose is sure to be the right one!!

Sex drives

So, my boyfriend and I used to have a lot of sex.  A lot.  Every day, sometimes more than once a day, for an hour or two at a time.  It was incredible!  He loves to see where my limits are, for how many different types of pleasure I can take at once.  By this I mean clitoral stimulation, anal stimulation, nipple stimulation, etc.  One of his favorite toys to use is this triple egg/bullet vibrator I have, it’s very similar to this duo egg vibrator, except mine has one slim vibrator and two eggs, all attached to one power pack.   He loves this toy so much because it’s so easy to use and there’s only one power pack, for so many vibrators.

I remember one time he had nipple clamps on me, had the long bullet in my bottom, the two eggs in my vagina plus he used another vibrator on my clit.  Yea, we’re pretty certain the neighbors heard me that night.  I think he really loves the fact that eventually I needed to cry “uncle!” and have him remove some of the stimulations.

The last few months though, we haven’t been having much sex.  Stress has gotten in the way, it totally has sapped our sex drives.  My boyfriend’s went first, but mine quickly went after.  Prior to me loosing my sex drive it was really difficult for me to cope with the very infrequent sex.  Part of me felt like I wasn’t attractive to him anymore, part of me feared he didn’t love me anymore, though he always told me it wasn’t either of those.  He was dealing with some depression and stress, things of that nature.

I’m quite ashamed of how poorly I dealt with it though.  I felt like he should be more willing to use his fingers or mouth on me, or use some of my sex toys on me so that I can at orgasm.  I would blame him, for me not getting off, when all I had to do wasmasturbate.    Happily I got over myself and then eventually started loosing my own sex drive.

Thing is, I felt like since we used to have sex so much, we should always have sex that much.  This is so not the case.  We should have sex when we want it, not because we did yesterday, or two days ago.  Sex can’t be scheduled, that causes it to loose it’s specialness, it looses it’s spur-of-the-moment feel and becomes tedious, almost like a chore.  Makes it seem more like you’re having sex because it’s time to, or you have to, rather than you want to.

Happily, nowadays, we have our sex drive back, and we’re having sex when we want to again.  It’s nowhere near as frequent as it used to be, however it’s damn good when it happens!!

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Crackhead Charlie, what’s next?

Something that never ceases to amaze me is the unique and, quite frankly, weird sex toys that come out.  From a double penetration glass dildo that looks, to me, like a speculum to solar powered bullets it seems like every day there’s something new and fun out there.

This particular love doll is, obviously, Charlie Sheen.  It’s a limited edition and really seems to have taken advantage of some of the things that Charlie has said over the last several months, such as “winning”, “adonis” and “tiger’s blood”.

Now, for me, I’ve never been a user of sex dolls, nor do I really follow celebrity news.  I happen to have friends who do however, so sometimes I catch it when big things happen, and it just happens that what’s been going on with Charlie Sheen has been some of the celebrity news I’ve caught, by proxy.

So anyway, I really have to give props and kudos to those who are sitting there and suddenly get the idea “Let’s make a Charlie Sheen love doll!!”  When I see random celebrity stuff I can say for certain that that’s not my first thought, or second, or even fourth! LOL  However, it seems that someone thought that Charlie Sheen would make an excellent sex toy and figured that he’s “a warlock rockstar from Mars.”

While I can say with certainty that this particular sex toy will not be making it into my collection, I have a suspicion that it will be making it’s way into many homes, if for no other reason than it’s limited edition nature, and taboo collectability.

This whole experience though makes me wonder… “What’s next???”  LOL I for one, can’t wait to find out!!

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The Contest

We’re holding a contest right here on our blog where you could win one of the following: Nova , Orion , Apollo or the Saturn. They all have adorable pop bottle styled packaging and are waterproof!  Should you be chosen a winner, you can choose which Bottle Rocket you’d like.

Enter The Contest

To enter our Bottle Rocket’s contest all you need to do is leave us a comment on this post describing the most adventurous thing you’ve done with a sex toy!!

Qualify For The Contest

To qualify you must be 18 years old, or older and live in the United States or Canada.  You can enter only once and all entries must be received by Midnight Eastern Time, April 30th.

The Winners

I will email the winners, (we will be picking three!!) and we’d like a reply within 48 hours or we’ll have to choose someone else.

For inspiration, if I could enter the contest my entry would read something like:

“The most adventurous thing I’ve done with a sex toy would be the time my boyfriend and I were trying out a new remote control vibrator.  I inserted the egg and my boyfriend took control of the remote control.  Then we went to our local mall!  As we were walking through the hallways and stores he would enjoy turning the vibrator on when I would least expect it, such as when I was purchasing some candy.  He really enjoyed seeing me trying to control my facial expression and voice as all of a sudden the egg was vibrating inside of me!  Needless to say we had some fun when we got home!  He says that that was the wettest he thinks I’ve ever been.  …we really need to do that again now that we have a better remote control egg vibrator….”

240 Love Dolls??

So, the other day I was looking at news online and I came across this article about a British man who owns 240 love dolls.  Holy smokes!  He is also happily married.  Turns out it started about 10 years ago when he bought a mannequin because he liked the way she looked, but then he ended up wanting something more realistic and life like, which is then when he discovered “love dolls” online.  He then bought a $4,000 love doll online that his wife actually helped him purchase…and that it seems, is when the “collecting” began.

When I read this my first action was a few chuckles, then I started thinking “Good Lords, who collects sex dolls…??”  and then I really got to thinking.  “Who am I to talk??”  At one point I had so many sex toys I actually gave close to 50 sterilizable ones away.  And I still have close to 100 sex toys.  No love dolls though LOL

I honestly ended up feeling really bad for my immediate reaction having been laughing.  I mean, who am I to judge, ya know?  I know for a fact that several of the sex toys I have I got simply for the fact of having it; of getting the last of a line, or even quite directly for the sake of collecting.  So I hardly had anything to stand on for that.

Sometimes I think it’s a good thing to have something like that to happen, because, at least for me, it can help a person come back down to reality a little bit; to realize that as awesome as each of us is, we are not perfect.  Along with that though, it kind of caused me to see that I do have a tendency to collect sex toys, because some of them are just damn cool!!  For me, currently I’m working on getting all of the Cal Exotics L’Amour dual stimulators. I currently have the Tripler and the Flutter. All I need now is the Thumper!

So, in the end I guess, this article about a British man who owns over 240 love dolls helped teach me to be a bit less judgmental; I seem to have my own sex toy collections!  Who’da thunk it?

My first dildo

So, I was 27 before I really was comfortable using sex toys.  However I bought my first sex toy when I was 20.  Knowing nothing about sex toys I just chose one that looked like it was a good size and it was a pretty purple color.  It was just a simple jelly dildo, probably cost me less than $10.  I think I bought it more to be able to say that I had one, rather than because I really wanted to use one.

The thing is; I never actually used it.  I was always nervous, almost embarrassed to use it.  I would get really, really horny, and take it out and look at it, but wouldn’t use it.  Eventually I’d insert it maybe once, and then start feeling things I’d never felt before, both physically and emotionally, and I’d get scared so I wouldn’t use it anymore.

Now by that time I had been sexually active, previously.  So I had experienced vaginal penetration by a couple different sized and shaped penises.  So it wasn’t the size and/or shape that threw me off.  I think it was that I was … well, penetrating myself.  While interpreting my feelings so long after the fact I think I felt like I shouldn’t have to masturbate, I never had a shortage of partners so it wasn’t like I wasn’t getting any.

Growing up in the upper Midwest things like sex toys, masturbation, kink and all that were very taboo and hush-hush.  There was something “wrong” with you if you masturbated or wanted unusual things.  It is entirely possible that part of my nervousness with using the dildo came with the fact that the only adult store in my home town was very run down, dark, dank and shabby.  The place that even during the day I wouldn’t ever go into alone.  Granted it’s cleaned up now, when you buy something in a place that’s that creepy the experience leaves it’s mark.

In the end I got rid of the toy; I never really used it.  And I certainly didn’t finger myself.  It wasn’t until a few years later when my husband left me that I got a couple vibrators and actually used them from time to time.  And now I’m an avid sex toy reviewer with bins overflowing with toys!

So, share with us your first experience(s) with a sex toy!  Were you all over it, or nervous like I was?

Photo by: The Chanel ( Sepia Dildos)

10 Sex Toys You Must Add to Your Box

Are you new to sex toys? Updating your collection for safer sex since most toys are now phthalate-free?
Or just want to add some exciting into your sex life with some new additions to your toy box?

Here are our top picks for the types of toys everyone should have. Most of these selections are phthalate free and easy to clean.

1. A classic, slimline vibrator – The Netbook of the sex toy world (because it’s versatile, convenient and easy-to-use — get it?) a classic slimline vibe is great for men or women, anal or vaginal pleasure. It’s perfect for beginners, but will promise years of pleasure for advanced enthusiasts, too. Why not pick up the Berman Intimate Basics Siena Slimline Massager?

2. Rabbit vibe - Popularized by Sex and the City, a “rabbit-style” vibrator promises the next level of pleasure. Rabbit vibes vary widely in their features, styles, shapes and functions, but most offer a “clit-tickler” for clitoral stimulation, a slightly curved head for g-spot stimulation, and a shaft with multiple functions of vibration and pulsation. I keep coming back to my favorite, the Decadent Indulgence 3.

3. Novelty vibrator - Sometimes, we all feel a little silly. That’s when it’s fun to break out I Rub My Duckie in one of his many variations. After all, sometimes good sex makes you giggle.

4. Discreet vibrator - Every lady needs a discreet mini vibe to get a little naughty on a date or for private pleasure at your fingertips any time. Slip this beauty in your handbag and find a little tension release after the big meeting. (Or before… just make sure you don’t leave any tell tale signs, like your skirt on backwards or an unusual flush to your cheeks.) Make the award-winning Lucid Dream #14 your choice to fulfill your daydreams.

5. Waterproof vibrator – Most vibrator styles typically come in waterproof variations, too. Personally, I lean toward waterproof vibes because they’re easy-to-clean and worry-free. Even if you have several non-waterproof vibes, you do want to have at least one high-powered waterproof vibe on-hand for bathtime play. Pick up this cotton candy vibrator for sweeter showers.

6. G-spot vibe - Whether the g-spot really exists or not, the pleasure these uniquely curved vibrators provide is no urban legend. If you don’t have a g-spot vibe, you may be tempted to experiment with all sorts of odd household objects (banana, anyone?) My money’s on “my first g-spot vibe” with its powerful pulsations to get the job done safely and hygienically every time.

7. Always-ready dildo - Batteries die. Vibes malfunction. Even the quietest vibes make some noise. When you want total convenience, ease-of-use, and purely silent operation (except for your moans, of course) you should always have a dildo on call. I like this hygienic glass chessman dong, which is phthalate-free (duh, it’s made of glass) and super-easy to clean.

8. Ben wa balls – I wasn’t a fan of ben wa balls until I started experimenting and really discovered what these ancient toys can do. Now, I recommend every lady adds a set to her collection of sex toys.  Try Fun Factory’s SmartBalls for a modern take on a legend.

9. A massager that really is a massager - The Hitachi Magic Wand started the trend of “personal massagers” with multiple attachments. The cool thing about these toys is they really are effective for massages anywhere. Great for releasing tension in your back and shoulders, the Mystic Wand is an amazing deal for the price, with three attachments including a very naughty dolphin!

10. The “I’d Be Mortified If Anyone Ever Found It” Vibe – Okay, so most people might be a little embarrassed if the cleaning lady stumbled upon even the most basic vibrator model. But I believe every lady needs a giant powered dildo like the All American Whopper with Balls. Even if you never use it, it’s a hoot to bring out at parties and whip drunk guests. (Did I just say too much?)

How to Get Turned on to Ben Wa Balls

With all the horror stories on the Internet about women who get ben-wa balls stuck you know where, the ancient Eastern sex toy may seem a little intimidating.

Sit back, relax… or perhaps lie down, and let me tell you about my first experience with Ben Wa Balls.

Cool textures, smooth feel
I admit after reading the horror stories, I was a bit tentative. The idea of the ben wa balls also didn’t seem very comfortable at first. First, I added some lubricant to the balls, because, honestly, I didn’t see these going in easily without any. I began masturbating with the balls, enjoying the ridged texture and the cool smoothness of the plastic. The weighted balls had a nice — very nice — feel and I soon enjoyed banging them against myself.

I’d often watched porn where a woman enjoys having someone smack her clit — or doing it herself. The balls provided that pulsing sensation without the sting.

It wasn’t long before I was wet enough to insert them easily. And they didn’t need as much lube as I thought. (But I still hold to the adage that you can never, ever have enough lube.)

Once the ben wa balls were inside, I have to admit, they didn’t provide as much pleasure as I thought they would, immediately. Ben wa balls are not a passive sex toy, where you lie there and let them do the work. In fact, they take a bit of creativity — and knowing your body — to really get the most pleasure from them.

I started to go through my usual masturbation repertoire, while also moving the balls around by the string every so often. It was fun but I knew I was missing something.

Contrary to the balls getting stuck, they kept slipping out. Each time, I pushed them deeper, and that’s when the pleasure potential started to hit me. With the balls filling me completely, I began to imagine a lover’s cock inside me along with them. Yes… these balls had an appeal.

Believe What You Read…
I ramped up the hand motion and, as I started to come, I realized the entire purpose — or at least, one of the purposes — of ben wa balls. The ridges caressed the inside walls of my vagina as my body pulsated. The weights inside them seemed to give the balls a life of their own. I detected mild vibrations — not as strong as my favorite vibe, more like a gentle tickling sensation.

By this time, I’d become adept at moving the balls by moving my legs, and was able to manipulate them to keep the orgasm going for minutes of undulating pleasure. Each spasm created another spasm, waves of ecstasy, just as the advertisements promise.

Ben wa balls have several uses and I look forward to experimenting with them all. You can use ben wa balls:

• during masturbation
• during intercourse
• in your vagina during anal sex, to give you a full feeling at every angle
• for kegel exercises
• throughout the day — as you learn to manipulate the balls with subtle movements, you can bring yourself to orgasm anytime, anywhere.

It’s true that these toys require a little bit of knowledge about your body — and some degree of pelvic muscle control — to really enjoy them to their full potential. But once you unlock the secrets of these ancient toys, you’ll become a true afficianado. You may even begin to collect multiple sets of balls in different sizes, styles and materials.

Our Top Picks for Ben Wa Balls
Whether you’re buying your first set or adding to your collection, here are some of our favorite ben wa balls:

Doc Johnson’s Gold Ben Wa Balls – cool, classy, sexy and pthalate-free

Smartballs – my favorite for their texture unique texture and sturdy string for removal

Leopard Duotone Balls – wild and sexy

What’s been your experience with Ben Wa balls? Did they require practice, and did you like them?

One Good Reason to Lock Up Your Vibes

Have you ever had an embarrassing vibrator incident? Perhaps you didn’t remove the batteries and you found the toy turned on when you picked up your checked bags at the airport. Or maybe you left a dildo out when the cleaning lady came over. If you play with vibrators frequently, you probably have at least one embarrassing sex toy incident.

When you’re a parent, these embarrassing moments may involve kids.

Most parents of toddlers know what a challenge it is to find a few minutes alone to go to the bathroom. While he was watching his two-year-old son, my friend Jordan had to go. He brought his son into the master suite with him, closing the bedroom door so his son could wander in the bedroom while Jordan did his business in the attached bathroom.

Jordan knew there wasn’t anything in the master bedroom his son could get hurt on. But the room hadn’t exactly been babyproofed, either. It wasn’t long before Jordan heard dresser drawers and cabinet doors opening and closing.

Jordan began having misgivings about the idea but it was too late for him to get up and do anything about it. Then he heard a telltale buzzing sound. Then he heard his son giggle.

Yes. His toddler had found the wife’s vibrator. Buzz. “Giggle.” Buzz. Buzz. Child’s laughter.

From the bathroom, Jordan began calling his son. “Come here, kiddo. Let me see what you have there. Can you show it to Daddy?”

Of course, the more you want a toddler to do something, the less inclined he is to do it. Children sense this. They also somehow know when a parent is helpless to stop them. Jordan began looking around frantically for something to divert the boy’s attention. He found a toilet paper roll. “Come here, son…”

The boy stepped closer, still playing with the buttons on the vibe and giggling at the funny sounds. This new toy was far more interesting than a toilet paper roll. The boy stood just out of reach of Jordan, who was still pleading with the boy to give the item to Daddy.

Then, of course, Jordan’s son got ready to do another thing toddlers often do. Jordan leapt up from the bowl, trying to catch the boy and grab the vibrator. The toddler stood poised with the sex toy, still buzzing, in front of his open mouth, ready to give it the toddler taste test.

If this isn’t reason enough to buy a locking case for your vibrator collection, I don’t know what is. Even if you think you don’t have to lock up your toys because no one besides you and your partner ever enter the master bedroom and if they do, they surely won’t be rummaging through your dresser drawers — I’m sure Jordan thought the same thing.

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