Halloween isn’t just for kids. Whether you’re planning a night on the town, trying to win costume contest prizes at the local bars bars, looking to turn heads at a party, or anticipating a quiet night at home after all the trick-or-treaters have subsided, it’s the perfect excuse to play dress-up for your lover.

So what’s your lover’s secret fantasy?

I know many men who’d love to see their lady dressed as a schoolgirl. What is it about short plaid skirts? Why not don this sexy set and re-enact a few scenes from a “Barely Legal” video? You’re sure to score an “A.”

Does anyone remember the scene from friends where Ross ravished Rachel in her high school cheerleader costume? I know real-life couples who’ve experienced the same. Who cares if you actually played clarinet in the band in high school? You’re all grown-up now and it’s time to show your partner who’s number one!

If you want to turn the tables on your guy, dress up as a sexy football player and he’ll turn off the TV for some games of his own, with you as the late-night quarterback.

Can’t decide what you want to be for Halloween? You can’t go wrong with the classic French maid. Let your lover arrive home from work to see you bending over as you dust those lower shelves, and it won’t matter that the dishes aren’t done and the bed isn’t made.

Dressing up doesn’t have to include role-play, but it certainly can. How about a doctor and nurse combo? It’s late Halloween night at the hospital, and you and your lover sneak away into a supply closet to release some of that emergency room stress.

Costumes aren’t just for the women either. What’s better than a giant schlong? A thick, hard, supernaturally-long penis that unzips to hold two cans of beer. While this costume is more likely to get you giggling than giddy with desire, laughter often leads to the best sex of your life.

Long after I outgrew knocking on doors for candy, I still love the “make-believe” aspects of Halloween. With all these costume choices, there’s just one more question to ask: who do you want to be this year?

So you want to try anal sex.  You’ve heard about it, read about it, and maybe even had secret fantasies about it.  As an anal virgin you are curious, maybe a bit fearful, and wondering what it’s all about.  We are taught as children that the anus is a dirty, secret place and many of us carry those taboos with us into adulthood.  But, the anus is a very sensitive area, and, when given the proper attention, can bring one to a whole new level of ecstasy.  For men, the anus is the gateway to the prostate, a very sensitive area that many men may achieve orgasm from when stimulated.   Anal expert, Tristan Taormino notes that the “anus, anal canal, and rectum are wonderfully erogenous zones, rich in nerve endings and super-sensitive to stimulation and penetration. At the right angle, many women find that you can indirectly stimulate the G-spot through anal penetration.”  Many sex experts recommend that you arouse yourself in the regular ways, until you are good and hot before attempting anal play and to continue stimulation throughout.

The most important thing to consider with trying anal sex with a partner for the first time is that the person being penetrated is the one in charge.  Communication is essential with any type of sex play and even more so for anal play.  It is important to go slow, get fully aroused, use plenty of lubricant (and then some), and to listen to your partner’s needs and body language.  Because the anus has a very thin lining it is important to be careful not to tear it and to use condoms for safe sex purposes. Always stop if you experience pain or discomfort.

Solo Anal Play

The best way to try anal sex for the first time is through masturbation.  That way you are really in control and can decide how big, how far and how fast on your own.  Self exploration is important as it allows you to discover what feels best and how your body responds.  You also don’t have the pressure of performing or trying to satisfy your partner’s needs.

Warming Up: The Rosebud of Pleasure

Developed by massage therapist and sex educator Joseph Kramer, this is a good way to begin exploring anal pleasure.  First, begin with massaging your buttocks to get the blood flowing.  Try squeezing your cheeks with your fingers, raking your fingernails over your ass, and even slapping it.  Slowly begin to clench and unclench the asshole.  Next, lube your finger very well and rub the pad of you finger around the anal rim, exploring the sensitive rosebud.  Lube up the crack and slide your hand up and down.  Finally, when you feel ready, you can insert a finger inside the sphincter, gently stretching it and massage the silky skin inside.  It is also recommended to stimulate other areas of your body as you would naturally, to get yourself good and aroused.

Sex Toys for Anal Play

There are a large variety of sex toys available for anal play.  These include butt plugs, anal beads, anal vibrators, prostate stimulators, and anal dildos.  They all have different purposes and will give your body different types of pleasure.  Butt plugs have a narrow head and flared base.  They are generally used for anal training, starting from small and slim, to allow you to get used to having something in your anus.  These are inserted and then stay in place for as long as you want to keep them there.  Tantus makes a whole line of excellent butt plugs called Flirts in various sizes all made of medical grade silicone.  Anal vibrators and dildos are more for stroking penetration, similar to regular penile sex play with a partner.  They can often be used on a harness for lesbian penetrative sex and bend-over-boyfriends.  The Rude-Boy prostate stimulator is a great toy for men who want to try a bit of buzz, while the Vivid Red Hots Briana Vibe is a good choice for women.

Prostate stimulators like the Aneros are used to put pressure against the male prostate and are used in a rocking motion rather than in and out.  The male prostate is an area of immense pleasure and will often lead to intense orgasms when stimulated.  Anal beads, like the Bendybeads by Fun Factory, are one of the most non-threatening ways to begin anal adventures for anal virgins and can be used simultaneously with vaginal penetration or clitoral stimulation.  They are inserted one by one and then gently pulled out.

Any anal toy should have a wide base or a retrieval ring so the toy is easily removed.  When first exploring anal play it is important to start small and work your way up to larger sizes.  The most important “toy” for anal play is lubricant!  This cannot be stressed enough.  If you want to have a healthy, happy experience with anal play use lots of lube.  Good ones to try are Moist Anal Lube and Adam and Eve Anal Lube.

Anal Insertion

Like the vagina the anus can also receive enormous pleasure from the insertion of fingers or toys.  Start small, using a fingertip after you have stimulated the rosebud for a while, making sure to use lots of lubrication.  If your fingertip feels good you may want to insert the entire length of the finger, or even try two.  After a while, your anus will get more used to the feeling of fullness and you can try larger toys like slim butt plugs, anal beads, and anal dildos.

At first, anal play will feel strange and you will most likely want to push what is entering back out.  This is after all a natural reaction.  If you relax into it, however, anal insertion can be a wonderful experience that can intensify sexual play and orgasm.

Many people worry about mess during or after anal play.  Be sure to empty your bowels before anal play.  You can also choose to flush yourself out with an anal douche about an hour before play.  I found it much easier to enjoy anal play in the bath tub with toys designed for underwater fun.  It allows you to focus more on the pleasure and sensation, instead of worrying about messy accidents.  Also, a warm bath will help you relax, which is essential for anal play.

Anal Sex with Partners

Now that you’ve experienced a bit of solo play, it’s time to try out your new found passion with your partner.  Both men and women enjoy the experience of anal sex with a partner, no matter if you are GLBT or straight.  Most important is who is in control.  The partner being penetrated should always be in control of the pace and degree of penetration.  Anal sex is not supposed to hurt and if it does you are perhaps not ready or doing it wrong.  To avoid hurting your partner, make sure that you both communicate with each other.  “Mmmm, that feels good,” “More…”, “Back up a bit,” whatever works for you.  Express yourself.  Make sure you are ready for the experience and not being pressured into it just for your partner.  Try to relax, because a tight sphincter muscle can cause pain.  And use plenty of lube.  Oral anal play, called rimming, is a good way to arouse that area and make your partner relax for penetrative anal sex.  Learning the ins and outs of anal play will make you an expert.  For more expert information on anal play I recommend the DVD: Nina Hartley’s Advanced Guide to Anal Sex - For Men and Women; and the following books: The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men and The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women.

Bend Over Boyfriend

Some straight men have some misconceptions about anal sex (getting penetrated) that make them hesitant to try it out with their partner.  The prostrate is a very erogenous zone and the ultimate pleasure zone for men.  Anal sex will not make you gay.  That is a myth and many straight men enjoy anal play once they get over the social taboos.

Make sure your hands are clean or use gloves.  Also, trim your nails first as you don’t want to damage the delicate lining of the anus.  Next, you can saddle-up Cowgirl and move up to a dildo and a harness to give your guy the ride of his life!

Anal Do’s and Don’ts

Anal Do’s

•    Clean yourself and your toys.
•    Use a condom or latex gloves.
•    Trim nails of rough edges.
•    Relax, breath & take it slow.
•    Use lots of lube. I mean lots.
•    Stop if there is pain.
•    Only use toys with a flared base designed for anal play.

Anal Don’ts

•    Insert toys in the anus then the vagina as it may cause infection.
•    Insert sharp or foreign objects or anything too big.
•    Do it if you really don’t want it.
•    Hurry or force it.
•    Pressure your partner into it if they are not ready.

Domina Doll is a sex writer who writes articles and reviews for various magazines, zines and adult toy stores.  Visit her sexuality blog CherryBoxxx at http://cherryboxxx.wordpress.com/.

There’s a little fantasy of mine where I’m sprawled out in my tub, water from the shower cascading down onto my clit, with my vibe tucked neatly right where it belongs… and my husband walks in.

He doesn’t want to join in, just wants to watch me go through my repertoire. Other women may be mortified at the idea, but I can think of few things sexier. Besides, imagine all the tips your lover will pick up by watching you do what you’ve been doing for years?

If I’m feeling particularly imaginative, I’ll add another element to the fantasy, where he asks:  “Can I help?” There’s nothing hotter. And ladies, if you happen to walk in on your man while he’s checking out his porn collection, I encourage you to try the phrase. You may never see a bigger smile (among other things).

So what if you actually do have the opportunity to try out your sex toys with your partner? First, release your inhibitions. If you’ve been playing alone for a while, it might seem strange to have someone else involved in what used to be just you and your Pearl Lotus.

Some men may feel as if they’re in competition with the toy. After all, it might be bigger, more flexible, and it’s definitely got more functions. Make sure not to neglect his part when you bring your battery-operated friend into the bedroom.

Starting off with a toy that looks nothing like a penis may ease any trepidations he may have. You may even start with something small and basic, a standard “beginner vibe” or a small bullet vibe. With a remote control bullet, you can give him the controller, putting all the power in his hands.

Both bullets and basic vibes feel amazing rubbed on your clit during the act of sex. Doggy-style works best, but you can even use the vibe when you’re face to face. If he’s up to it, rub the vibe, on a low setting, gently against his balls. Gauge his reaction and then rev it up. Most men will love it.

If you’ve never experienced double stimulation with an anal vibe in the girl-on-top position, this is a must-try — and something you can’t really do to the same effect alone.

As you get more comfortable with gadgets, there are plenty of couple’s toys on the market, too. The Ultimate Couples Sensuous Sexual Enhancer is a cock ring and clit vibe with pleasure knobs all in one. You’ll both feel the powerful, stimulating vibes.

For powerful internal vibrations during love-making, there’s only one way to go: The unique “We Vibe” vibrator. This waterproof, rechargeable silicone vibe provides pleasure for both partners. And it looks nothing like a cock, just in case you can’t get your man to get over that particular hang-up.

So what are you waiting for? It’s time to take your toys out of the closet!

Lubricants are Essential

Lubricants were first designed for medical purposes, but it wasn’t long before people started using them for sexual purposes as well.  Lubrication is an essential part of sex play, whether it is for partner sex or masturbation.  Personal lubricants turn all sex play into an erotic adventure by adding extra wetness to reduce friction and dryness, enhance pleasure and sensation, and allowing all of your sexual parts to slide.

For Anal Play

For anal sex, lubes are essential as the anus does not naturally produce its own lubricant like the vagina.  Anal lubes are usually thicker than regular lubes and formulated specifically to reduce friction when having anal intercourse or using anal sex toys.  A popular anal sex lube is Anal Lube.  Silicone lubes are also popular for anal sex play as they stay slick much longer.  Some anal lubes contain desensitizing agents that numb the anus like Orajel that numbs a baby’s gums during teething.  Although this may work well for poor baby, I don’t recommend numbing agents in the anus as you are unable to feel pain associated with injury.  Anal play is supposed to feel good and not hurt.  Therefore, if you experience pain during anal sex then you are most likely taking in something too big, too fast.  It is important to be patient and take anal sex slow especially if you are an anal virgin or novice.  Relax, use plenty of lube and remember it is not a race.

For Women Only

Many women need added lubrication at least some of the time for various reasons regardless of age.  Most women need a longer warm-up time before intercourse and lubes can be used as a fun part of foreplay.  As women age, the vagina begins producing less natural lubricant, so adding additional lube during sex or masturbation is important for enhancing those experiences.  Many personal lubricants are formulated especially for women and there are those on the market for everyday use to help eliminate dryness.  For masturbation, lubrication is important as many sex toys both made for insertion and external stimulation tend to by drying. Women who are sensitive or prone to yeast infections should avoid lubes that contain sugars or glycerin which may alter the PH of the vagina.  Lubes with added parabens which can cause irritation and rashes should also be avoided by women who have sensitivity issues.  Nonoxynol-9 is another ingredient that is sometimes added to lubes.  It is a popular contraceptive gel ingredient and has been promoted as a protection against HIV.  However, N-9 is a harsh detergent-like compound that creates tiny abrasions in the mucous membranes of the vagina and anus, creating a greater risk for the transmission of HIV and other STDs.  All women should avoid oil-based lubes as these are not formulated for women’s genitals.  The best lubes for women are water-based and silicone.  Moist Personal Lubricant and Pjur Eros - Body Glide Women are specially formulated for women’s sensitive parts and are available in both water and silicone-based formulations.

Lubes for Guys

For men, there are several types of lubricants available for different types of sex play.  Silicone lubes are great for anal play and/or vagina penetrative sex and include popular brands like Wet Platinum and ID Millennium.  Oil-based lubes like Boy Butter and Elbow Grease are popular lubes for hand-jobs.  Oil-based lubricants are NOT latex condom compatible, however, so shouldn’t be used in penetrative sex (either anal or vagina) unless a polyurethane condom like Trojan Supra or Durex Avanti is used.

To Spit or Not to Spit

While spit can lubricate the genitals at first it dries out quickly and it’s a dirty habit.  Seriously.  The human mouth contains more germs (oral flora and bacteria) than most animals and can cause irritation and infection.  Saliva, like other bodily fluids is capable of transmitting STD’s, herpes and AIDS as well.  So while you may have seen spit-swapping in adult films, remember not everything your see in movies is recommended for real life experiences.

Cooking Oils as Lubricants

Okay, we’ve all heard of people using cooking oils like Crisco and other household products like WD40 as sexual lubricants.  I’ll even admit that I used vegetable oil once for a night of slip-and-slide sex on a plastic sheet.  But, cooking oils and other household lubricants are not formulated for the skin and especially the genitals.  These oils can cause serious irritation, clog pores, don’t allow the skin to breathe, are not condom safe and should never go anywhere near the vagina.  So let’s just leave those cooking oil sex stories to the stupid-human-tricks archive, for we know better in this day and age and don’t need to repeat our parents dumb mistakes.  Never use Crisco, WD40, Vaseline or Baby Oil on your precious private parts.

Personal Lubricants for Sexual Pleasure

Water-based

Water-based personal lubricants are the most versatile for all types of sex play.  They feel more natural and are therefore great for a variety of penetrative sex.  Water-based lubes are water soluble which means they won’t stain fabrics and wash away easily from the body.  They are also compatible with condoms and other latex products so perfect for safe sex practices and won’t ruin your sex toys.  On the downside, water-based lubes dry more quickly than silicone and oil-based lubes, sometimes leaving a sticky residue. Because of this they need to be reapplied often during partner sex or solo play.  Many water-based lubes also contain sugars or glycerin so should be avoided by women who are prone to yeast infections.  Water-based lubricants are also not compatible with water sex play in the bathtub, pool or hot tub as they will wash away.

Oil-based

Oil-based lubricants are the best types of lubes for men who want to jack’n off their beanstalk.  These lubes are super slick, water-resistant and long lasting.  They are also great for anal sex when used with polyurethane condoms.  They should not be used with latex condoms, however, as oils break down latex and make them unsafe.  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: oil-based lubes should stay clear of the vagina as they can attract bacteria and cause infections.  Oils will also stain fabrics and cause dyes to run in sex toys.

Silicone-based

Silicone-based personal lubricants have been promoted as being superior to that of water and oil-based lubes.  This is because they are hypo-allergenic, condom and latex safe, are very long-lasting, and water resistant.  Silicone lubes are great for partner sex, penetration, masturbation and even sensual massage.  These lubes stay on top of the skin creating a slippery glide that will not absorb or dry out.  For this reason, they also don’t wash away as easily as water-based lubes.  They are also not recommended to use with silicone or Cyberskin sex toys as they will cause a chemical reaction that will melt the toy.

Flavored Lubes

These days personal sexual lubricants come in every flavor imaginable from Bubblegum and Watermelon to Pina Colada and Passion Fruit.  Tangy, fruity lubes are a great addition for oral sex and foreplay, making your lover taste juicy and sweet.  ID Juicy Flavored Lubricant is my personal favorite as it contains no sugars or dyes, is water-based and latex compatible.  It comes in a variety to flavors and is not as sickly sweet as some of the other flavored lubes.

Stimulating and Desensitizing Lubes

Some lubricants have stimulating properties that create pleasurable warming, cooling or tingling sensations on the genitals.  Many stimulating lubes or gels are formulated for women to enhance clitoral sensitivity by increasing blood flow to the genitals, but can also be used by men.  Desensitizing lubes containing Lidocaine are formulated for men to prolong erections.  Some stimulating lubes can be very strong and may cause a burning sensation on some people, so caution should be used when trying them.  ID Sensation Warming Liquid is a gentle, pleasant warming lube that enhances sex and masturbation play.  Stud Delay Spray is a popular brand of desensitizing spray for men and I have been told by men that it acts almost instantly so is ready when you are.

Natural Organic Lubes

More and more people are buying organic lubes or all-natural lubricants as alternatives to pharmacy based products.  As people become more concerned about what kind of foods they put into their body, they are also becoming concerned about what they put on their body.  After all, skin is the body’s largest organ and is capable of absorbing 60% of all chemicals you put on it which eventually ends up in the blood stream.   Lubricants may be absorbed through the mucus membranes of the vagina and anus even more so because there is no barrier for protection.  Most certified organic lubricants also contain no irritating parabens, fragrances, chemicals or sugars, so will not cause rashes or yeast infections.  My favorite all time lube is Yes® water-based personal organic lubricant which is currently only available through their website.

Domina Doll is a sex writer who writes articles and reviews for various magazines, zines and adult toy stores.  Visit her sexuality blog CherryBoxxx at http://cherryboxxx.wordpress.com/.

The Pubococcygeus Muscle

The vagina—just like every other part of your body—needs regular exercise to keep it resilient, healthy and happy. Overtime, the vagina and its surrounding muscles on the pelvic floor can weaken, stretch, become torn and no longer offer support due to pregnancy, childbirth, aging, being overweight, abdominal surgery and inactivity. An important part of vaginal health is exercising a muscle called the PC muscle (pubococcygeus muscle). It is a hammock-shaped muscle that stretches from the pubic bone to the tail bone. It forms the pelvic floor and supports the pelvic organs including the bladder, urethra and vagina.

Advantages of Good PC Health

Exercising your PC muscle has numerous advantages because it strengthens the pelvic floor. Strengthening this area will help prevent prolapse (slipping or sagging of the uterus), incontinence (loss of bladder or bowel control) and constipation. For women who are pregnant, a fit PC muscle will help relax muscles during birth allowing for easier deliveries through the birthing canal. After vaginal births, working the PC muscle will benefit you by restoring vaginal muscle tone and promoting perineal healing (the area between the anus and vagina that can stretch or tear during birth).

Some women suffer from painful disorders like vaginismus (pain from vaginal insertion), dyspareunia (painful intercourse) and female sexual dysfunction (loss of sex drive or diminished sexual satisfaction). Working your PC muscles will help make your vagina and pelvic floor stronger and more elastic which means it will stretch easier during sexual intercourse. It will also help stimulate the sex drive by increasing blood flow to the pelvic region which will enhance sensitivity and arousal as well as allow you to achieve orgasm easier. It is important however to consult your doctor if you suffer from any of the above disorders, before beginning any exercise routine.

Enhancing the Sexual Experience

Training your PC muscles is not only for women who suffer from disorders. PC workouts are very beneficial for all women, regardless of your age, your vagina’s physical condition, or whether or not you have given birth. Why? Since the PC muscle also encircles the outside of the vagina, healthy PC muscles will improve sexual arousal, allow you to feel your partner more fully during intercourse and intensify your partner’s pleasure by tightening the vagina cavity, thus enhancing lovemaking for both of you. And, that’s not all. Strong PCs allow you to reach orgasm more easily, experience more powerful and pleasurable orgasms, and may even help you achieve multiple orgasms as you learn to better control and respond to your sexual arousal. Fit PC muscles also improve G-spot stimulation and can help you learn to experience G-spot orgasms and female ejaculation. Rhythmic squeezing of your PC muscles during intercourse will help increase lubrication, stimulate the clitoris, and massage your partner’s penis to take him to new heights of sexual ecstasy.

Finding your PC Muscle

It is very easy to find your PC muscle. You probably use it on a daily basis without even being aware of it. It is the muscle you use when you stop urinating mid-stream. The muscles of your pelvic floor tighten and your vaginal muscles clench when you activate this muscle. A method of locating the PC muscle is to insert a finger or two inside your vagina and squeeze until you feel the muscles gripping your fingers. So now that you’ve found it, how do you exercise it?

Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises are how you work the PC muscles, strengthen the pelvic floor and restore muscle tone to this area. Named after Dr. Arnold Kegel, kegels consist of contracting and relaxing the muscles in rhythmic intervals. There are different types of kegels and different methods for exercising them. Regularity when doing kegels is more important than how many you do in sequence. It is therefore recommended to do any of the following exercises three times a day. You can even mix them up. The exercises become easier the more often you do them. Remember to relieve your bladder first before performing kegels.

Basic Kegel

The Basic kegel is a slow, controlled squeeze of the PC muscle, as you draw upward and inward. Imagine that you are sucking water up through your vagina (you can actually do this in the bathtub when your PC muscles are strong). Each time you do this hold for a count of 3-5 seconds. Repeat 10 times.

Pulsing Kegels

Pulsing kegels involves squeezing and releasing the PC muscle rapidly in quick succession, in a pulsing tempo. It is important to maintain control during these, instead of aiming for speed. It is not a race. Work your way up 25 or 30 pulses.

Kegel Push-Outs

This exercise engages the PC muscles more thoroughly giving a great workout. Slowly squeeze in, taking a deep breath, then slowly, gently push out, releasing your breath. Continue in a slow, in-out sequence, breathing in, and then out in time with each contraction. Repeat 10-20 times.

Elevator Kegels

This is my favorite kegel and I find it really works to tighten those muscles. Imagine that your vagina is an elevator shaft with the opening at the vagina entrance. Slowly pull the muscles in starting at the vagina, continuing to tighten as you go up the shaft like an elevator going up to the top floor. Pause at the top, and then slowly lower in reverse sequence. You will feel the difference just after a few times. Repeat 10-20 times.

Kegels and Sex Toys

There are several “sex toy” products now available on the market that enhances kegel exercises. I think of them as barbells for the vagina. Just as adding weight-training to an exercise routine helps improve strength and muscle tone, adding sex toys to your kegels increases resistance and gives you something to squeeze around, adding an extra benefit to the workout. You can do this as part of your regular kegel workout, or during masturbation. Who knew that doing something so pleasurable could benefit you as well! Try using the following toys while enjoying clitoral stimulation simultaneously to enhance your enjoyment as well as the power of your orgasms.

Duo-tone, Orgasm or Ben Wa Balls

You’ve probably heard of Ben Wa Balls . These are small weighted balls (usually plastic or metallic) that are inserted into the vagina for the purpose of kegel exercises and enhanced masturbation. The balls feel like they move around inside you because of the weights as they boost sensation to the entire area. Use them by clenching and doing kegels with them.

SmartBalls by FunFactory

SmartBalls are my favorite kegel sex toy. Like everything made by FunFactory, Smartballs are both innovative and high quality. Smartballs are two small metal balls inside a coating of silicone connected by an elastomer string that make them comfortable and sleek. They are inserted into the vagina where they vibrate and titillate, giving you a targeted work out for your PC muscles. They are a little larger than most other orgasm balls as well, making them easier to clench on to.

Berman Center Isis Beginning Pelvic Exerciser

The Isis is a dildo type pelvic exerciser made of smooth glass that is bowed at the ends. One end is inserted into the vagina and acts as a resistance to squeeze your vagina and PC muscles around. Try the Isis with any of the former mentioned exercises or during masturbation for enhanced play.

Natural Contours Energie

Natural Contours has designed a great product for doing kegels called Energie. It is weighted vaginal barbell that works the same as the Isis, but even better. The Energie is made of sleek hard plastic that is ergonomically shaped for ultimate comfort. Not only will this barbell strengthen your PC muscles while doing kegels, but it is perfectly shaped for G-Spot stimulation and self-pleasure. One end is slightly larger than the other as well, giving you a bit of variety.

So there it is. An exercise that will benefit your sexual pleasure as well as your health that you can do while masturbating or having sex. Who could ask for anything more? And, don’t underestimate the power of you PC. The first time you squeeze your vagina around your partner’s penis you will be delighted by his response. Not to mention the delight you will feel by your own heightened sexual experience. So, don’t delay. Keep your vagina resilient, healthy and happy. And, as Sue Johanson says: “Use it or loose it!”

The New York premiere of “Sex and the City” took Radio City by storm last night. Not even the scattered showers deterred the die-hard fans and Carrie wanabees. Vibrator.com was there to capture the night in full.

From mid-morning, fans lined up outside of Radio City Music Hall to catch a glimpse of the “Sex” stars and claim their seat for this year’s most sought-after ticket. At one point, the line extended from 50th Street and 6th Avenue to 51st Street and 5th Avenue - an entire city block! Fans were dressed in their best evening attire and the sheer magnitude of the evening felt more like an awards show than a movie premiere. Thousands of Swarovski crystals adorned the pink carpet, and Vibrator.com stickers, t-shirts, and postcards (coincidently of the same color scheme) decorated the lapels and pockets of the masses.

Spokesmodels Desiree and Agathe worked the crowd, spreading a sex-positive message and introducing Vibrator.com to throngs of onlookers already familiar with vibrators like the Rabbit Pearl. While some mothers shielded their daughters’ eyes, many were receptive to Desiree and Agathe and happily accepted the swag. Others couldn’t get enough!

HOT 97 were there to catch Desiree ‘in the act’ with an interview on camera. We’ll be tracking down the footage to post whenever we can get our hands on it.

Cynthia Nixon, Kristin Davis, Kim Cattral, and Sarah Jessica Parker arrived on the pink carpet for photo ops and to greet adoring fans. Celebrities and proud New York residents Donald Trump, Regis Philbin, Ashley Olsen, and Eli Manning all came out for the celebration.

Hundreds of general admission ticketholders were turned away as the 6000 seat Radio City Music Hall became full to capacity.

Two and a half hours later, the Museum of Modern Art (MoMA) hosted the premier’s afterparty, where countless A-list celebs gathered to party like they seem to do in Hollywood every other week. The “Sex and the City” series, and now the movie, depict an iconic New York in which an entire generation fantasized about living. While many of us could never afford an apartment like Carrie’s on a freelance writer’s salary, we can at least afford a movie ticket (and maybe some popcorn) when the film opens on Friday.

One of my favorite forms of foreplay doesn’t involve candlelight dinners, roses, or even porn DVDs. My husband and I like browsing through adult stores. We rarely buy anything in brick-and-mortar stores; we save our shopping for online. But we love pointing out our favorite DVDs, looking at the lingerie, and giggling at some of the sillier sex toys. It helps that we’re both people-watchers, and you certainly encounter characters at the adult store. After a few rounds through the rows of vibrators, though, we’re focused only on each other, thinking of the toys we’ll pull out of our own collection that night. By the time we get in the car, we can barely make it home before ripping off each other’s clothes.

Sometimes we pick out some lingerie, maybe a sexy little teddy or a pretty bra and g-string set. In my opinion (and hubby’s!) there’s nothing hotter than a lady in lingerie. Think you can’t wear something black and slinky? Nonsense! It’s all about the attitude. A confident woman will look great in anything. If you’re feeling self-conscious, soft lights in the bedroom don’t hurt.

For years, I had a hang-up about wearing white lingerie. You know, that old myth about black being slimming and white, well, showing flaws? But every time we picked out a new outfit, hubby preferred white. I started to like it simply because he liked it so much. And I started to feel good in it. On our honeymoon, I packed five different white outfits and wore a new one each night.

It’s been a while since we’ve toured the adult shops in our area. I wonder if there’s anything new. It doesn’t matter what merchandise we spot—the most important thing we’ll find on the excursion is our sense of playfulness and revved up imaginations!

Then again, we can do the same thing from home, browsing Vibrator.com, and I won’t have to worry about the legal ramifications if we get pulled over while I’m giving him a blow job in the car.

Spring is here and in many regions, temps are already rising. Even if you’re still digging out from the latest storm, don’t despair. Sunny days are right around the corner. And warm weather means water fun—pools and Jacuzzis! Why not turn your next wet adventure into something wet and wild with a waterproof vibe?From g-spot vibes to rabbits, you’ll find hundreds of choices. One of my favorites is the Blue Dolphin from Pipe Dreams. This “rabbit-style” vibrator features a dolphin-head clit tickler (the bottlenose of a dolphin seems custom-made for this activity!) and multiple speeds of pulsation and vibration.

Vibrating sponges add a new element to soapy sexual sensations. The Banana in the Pulsabath line can actually create spa-like bubbles right in your tub.

Add romantic ambience to your adventures with a bath kit featuring a floating candle and bath gel, or some soothing yet playful bubble bath.

Whether you enjoy water play in the bath, shower, pool, Jacuzzi–or are daring enough to try an ocean tryst–these tips will keep you safe.

• Make sure your toy is really waterproof! From ruining your new toy to risk of electric shock, bringing non-waterproof toys into a wet environment (we mean the pool or tub, silly!) can have bad consequences. You’re safe with non-powered dildos made from plastic, silicone, or glass and any vibe that says it’s “waterproof” on the package. Stay away from anything with an electrical plug (obviously).
• Inspect the waterproof seal around the battery compartment before you use your toy. You can also “test” the seal by holding the toy under running water.
• Clean toys well after using them in a chlorinated pool or hot tub. The chemicals may erode jelly or cyberskin-type toys after time.
• Because water tends to dry out a woman’s natural lubrication, you may want to use a silicone-based lubricant. Unlike oil-based lubricants, silicone lubes are safe for use with condoms and sex toys, and they won’t wash away like water-based lubes.
• The chlorine in hot tubs and pools may cause the latex in condoms to deteriorate. If you need to use a condom, save intercourse for outside the water—but do enjoy as much foreplay as you want using hygienic sex toys.
• Alcohol and hot tubs don’t mix. Combine cocktails and the Jacuzzi with a sex toy and an orgasm and you’re asking for a fast, messy (and not in a good way!) end to your night. Even sober, avoid staying in a hot tub for more than 15 minutes at a time because it could bring your temperature up to dangerous levels.

Don’t let these caveats scare you, though! If you’ve ever shared a shower with a lover, you know there’s nothing so erotic as sharing kisses while the water cascades down your face, caressing your breasts…

One last water tip… Don’t forget your rubber ducky. Or your wormie…. Or maybe a penguin.

XBIZ NEWS REPORT
By Tod Hunter
Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008

SOUTH PADRE ISLAND, Texas — A pink banner advertising adult products website Vibrator.com that had been flown over spring break destination South Padre Island has been grounded after complaints by residents.

“It’s just a little community, and there are a lot of older folks there,” John from Houston-based National Sky Signs told XBIZ. “We flew it a couple of times and the county asked me if I would not do it anymore. It was an informal request. I said, ‘Not a problem.’ They moved the banner to another place.”

The banner is 25 feet high and 68 feet long, with the words “Got Toys? Vibrator.com” alongside the company’s logo of a silhouetted woman.

“We felt that it’s a great audience for us, spring breakers,” Vibrator.com CEO Keith Levenson told XBIZ. “We know our demographics, and the 18-25 crowd is a big audience for us.”

Levenson told XBIZ that he might pursue the ban through the courts.

“So far as I knew, flying planes and aerial banners was a First Amendment right,” Levenson said. “From what we heard, this was a little airport that took the law into their own hands. We’re contemplating legal action.”

Paper, Plastic, Rabbit Vibrators?!

Sure, everyone knows to recycle bottles and cans, newspapers, and even electronics - but I was pleasantly surprised to learn that facilities in both the US and the UK offer mail-in recycling for (over)used adult toys as well.

SexToyRecycling.com provides details on how to clean and package your toys for recycling, and even offers a $5 voucher for select recycled products at your local sex toy retailer.
In the UK, LoveHoney offers a bloody brilliant deal for Rabbit vibrator users. Send them your old Rabbit vibe and receive a brand-spanking-new Rabbit for half price! They go one step further and donate £1 to a green charity.

Both sites remind you to clean your toys with soap and water before packaging, just like you’d clean out that old peanut butter jar before laying it in the recycling bin.

Many sex toy users are becoming more environmentally responsible and ultimately buying up more “green toys”. Green sex toys include anything made of pyrex, blown glass, silicone, and even stone (!) and are not only earth-friendly but also naturally body-friendly. The peace of mind you’ll have recycling your old toys or buying green is enough to get anybody excited!

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