“Everything But…”

I’d forgotten how much fun dry humping and mutual masturbation can be! Due to medical reasons, your sex-hungry blogger is forced to abstain for six weeks.

Okay, okay, it’s actually a happy reason: all our “research” for this blog and the inspiration we found here at Vibrator.com resulted in the logical outcome, and, yours truly, Desiree Sweet recently gave birth to a beautiful baby girl!

Hubby and I are surviving the sleepless nights as well as we can, but we’ve also found ourselves more in love with—and turned on by—each other than ever before. This was something we were definitely not expecting; we figured six weeks of abstinence would be quite easy to endure amidst dirty diapers, breastfeeding challenges and other decidedly un-sexy aspects of parenting. So what’s a girl to do?

Last night, we stepped back in time, teenagers-in-the-backseat-of-a-car style, to explore each other’s bodies and enjoy “everything but” intercourse. Last night started out with kissing, and lots of it. This sensual activity often gets forgotten as couples rush forward to the main attraction. Lovers focus on a few specific erogenous zones, neglecting the pleasure that can be discovered when four lips and two tongues connect.

Our bodies pressed together in a continuous embrace, all the right parts lined up, I came as I felt him growing against me…and had three more orgasms from the close contact, even through our clothes. Wanting something even more, however, we ended the night with mutual masturbation—lots of clitoral stimulation for me, and a treat of hand-and-mouth for him.

This brings me back to my opening line and what I learned from last night’s experience. It’s a sex advice article cliché to remind readers to enjoy foreplay. But why not turn foreplay into the main attraction every once in a while—even if you have no good reason to do so?

It often takes longer to reach orgasm through these creative methods—and you can stretch out the passion and torture even longer if you keep your clothes on. You’re forced to slow down and appreciate every step of the act, and, with that, everything about your lover.

You can even forego oral sex to find out how many unique ways you can make your lover cum. It may be a great time to introduce toys (keeping the “no penetration” rule in full effect) or see if you can bring your lover to the peaks of passion with words and fantasies alone. (For some women, this can happen!) If you find after this lengthy make-out session that you simply can’t resist intercourse–and have no reason not to–go for it! Rules are made to be broken, after all.

I can’t wait for that first post-pregnancy, passion-filled quickie while our little sweetie naps, but I’ll still be walking around with a secretive smile on my face for the next month or so.

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