Gettin’ with the Bridesmaids
The flowers, the kiss, lonely single girls in big, poufy dresses … there’s something about a wedding that screams “romance”—and not just for the lucky couple.
I recently attended a wedding where one usher went home with two 20-year-old girls and another groomsman spent the night flirting with every lady on the dance floor – from the groom’s grandmother to his 30-year-old (hot, blonde…) niece.
Blogging about how to hook up at a wedding would be an extremely short article. “How do you know the bride/groom?” works as a pick up line. From there, it’s like shooting fish in a barrel — or tossing a bouquet into a raging crowd of single women.
Why do wedding hookups rock so much?
1. You’re both “all cleaned up” already looking your best, so it’s easy to impress.
2. The booze and food is on someone else—how can it get any better?
3. There’s no expectation the relationship will last beyond the night.
4. If you decide you’d like it to last, you already have something in common (your relationship with the bride and groom).
Besides, let’s be brutally honest here. Watching another couple, blissfully in love, whose sole purpose is to share their love on The Biggest Day of Their Lives puts the unattached in close, lonely contact with their single-ness. Whether you’re sitting at the “singles table” or merely scrambling for the bouquet so some lucky bachelor may get to cop a feel while he puts the garter on your leg, few situations make you more aware of your own relationship status or biological clock ticking in double time. (I’m married now, but I’ve “been there, done that,” dear readers.)
This state of mind makes the ladies and the men equally likely to yearn for a partner, even if just for the night. Nobody wants to be alone at a wedding. That’s not to say everyone attending a wedding is desperate for companionship every other day of the week. But let’s face it, from the bride and groom’s first dance, love is in the air.
Why not take the opportunity to challenge yourself? Do you want to be the lucky guy who beds two coeds? Want to make love in the bathroom of a posh hotel. Go for it. When you don that tux or little black dress (or pink taffeta, in the case of bridesmaids) you can become someone else. And when the DJ plays that “Last Dance,” the night doesn’t have to be over until the morning.
Having said all this, here’s a funny story about how NOT to hook up at a wedding.
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Crystal Jacquez on Sat, 14th Nov 2009 10:48 am
San Francisco, CA
50 Million Americans Can’t Be Wrong – Or Can They?
Advertising materials from some of the largest online dating services – Match, eHarmony, True.com and Yahoo Personals – suggest that over 50 million Americans are now using such services.
Internet dating has been portrayed mostly with “success stories”, because many of those who have had bad experiences are too embarrassed to talk about them openly, thinking they are the rarity, or the “unlucky one”. Movies and T.V. have also focused on the lighter side of internet dating and dating websites as opposed to the darker side.
Unfortunately, the online search for true love has often led to a broken heart and a depleted bank account.
The dark side of the story is that the anonymity of internet dating has afforded con artists a new playground for scams, and has allowed people to be anyone they think you want them to be.
Both women and men lie on dating sites, but about different things. According to a recent study conducted jointly by researchers for the University of Chicago and MIT, women on dating sites lie mostly about heights, weights, and ages. Women appear to understate their weight more and more as they get older: by five pounds when they are in their 20’s, 17 pounds in their 30’s and 19 pounds in their 40’s.
Men also lie about their heights, weights and ages – but, more insidiously, their lying is concentrated on their marital status (“Who me? Married!?), their occupations (Oh yes – I’m a famous brain surgeon…), their educations, and their incomes.
Why do men lie about more things than women do? Because it pays off for them – big time! Take education: The study indicates that men reporting a college degree, relative to those reporting only a high school degree, is associated with a 35% increase in the number of first contacts they receive from women.
Occupations? Holding everything else constant, the biggest improvement in outcomes is observed for men in legal professions (77% outcome premium), followed by the military (49%), fire fighters (45%), and health related professions (42%). Manufacturing jobs, on the other hand, are associated with an about 10% penalty.
And finally, the effects of reported income on the success of men online: While there is no apparent effect for anything below an annual income of $50,000, outcomes begin to quickly improve for income levels above $50,000. Above $50,000, the increase in the expected number of first contacts is at least 32%, and as large as 156% for incomes in excess of $250,000.
Does it pay for women to lie online about education, occupation, or income? Apparently not – women’s education, occupations, and income apparently have little effect on their online success.
So what’s a poor girl to do about getting the truth about a guy she’s met online? Until recently, other than perhaps a quick Googling of the guy’s name (and Google was never designed for deep personal back-grounding), nothing. Nothing, that is, until the advent of Guys and Lies.com.
The new Guys That Lie site (www.guysthatlie.com) is essentially an online lie detector designed for women looking to check out men they’ve met online.
According to Crystal Jacquez, managing editor of Guys That Lie , the site enables women to query any of 32 highly personal questions about a guy that she may want to have answered – First she clicks on the question she wants answered – then she types in his name – then she clicks again and gets the real story, instantly! Covered are such basic questions as marital status, age, occupation, education, financial status, criminal background records, and much more.
Where does all this information come from?
“Well, if the guy has ever paid taxes,” says Jacquez, “state, local, or federal – or If he’s ever paid a gas or electric bill, or a telephone or cell phone bill, or a cable bill. If he’s ever owned property, including a home or condo. if he’s ever used a credit card or even applied for credit, or ever brought anything on credit, if he’s ever sued anybody or been sued, we know about him.”
“In short,” she continues, “we have in-depth information on this guy unless he’s recently moved here from another galaxy – or – unless he’s operating under you a phony name. Actually, if he’s operating under a phony name, we have a section that will expose him. The “galaxy” part we’re still working on.”
“And one more thing, Guys That Lie.com,” according to Jacquez, “is apparently also being widely used to check out friends and relations, neighbors, co-workers, bosses, in-laws, teachers, enemies, people in the news, whoever… Who knew?”
Contact:
Crystal Jacquez, managing editor
Guys That Lie.com
415 678-8610
Crystal03@guysthatlie.com
http://www.guysthatlie.com