Guide to Tantric Sex, Part 3: Penetration and Prolonged Orgasm

If you’ve been following our three-part series on tantric sex, you’re eager now to get to the “good stuff.” How do you take what you’ve learned in the art of tantra and use it to have powerful, prolonged—and even multiple–orgasms?

That’s right—this one’s for the guys. But if you can prolong the act of lovemaking and become better in tune with your partner, you will both benefit.

The book The Art of Tantric Sex, which I have used as one of many resources in putting together this series, recommends kegel exercises (for both men and women) as a way to better control your sex organs. This post explains how to do kegels and talks about the many benefits for both men and women. (Yes, men can do kegels, too!)

As you enter the final stage of tantric lovemaking, remember, tantric sex is not about a goal or endpoint, but about enjoying each moment in the process.

Slow Penetration
During the first step of penetration, it’s fun to go very slowly. Let the man slide his penis in very carefully, a centimeter at a time. Stay there for a while as you relish each other’s bodies. Kiss, talk, do whatever feels naturally to you. The woman can perform kegels, squeezing herself around his penis – and might even bring herself to orgasm this way.

Relaxation
To prevent involuntary ejaculation, the man should stay particularly relaxed, perhaps letting the woman lead in an on-top position or by making love side by side. Tantric sex is not frenzied, heated or lustful, but romantic, contemplative and extremely intimate.

Techniques to Delay Ejaculation
A number of tantric techniques permit a male partner to delay ejaculation while still experiencing the passionate throbbing of an orgasm.

1.    Mula Bandha – In addition to kegels, men can practice Mula Bandha, or anal sphincter control, a yogic technique used to delay ejaculation. Lower your head and focus your attention on your pelvis. As you inhale, constrict the muscles around your anus. Do three sets of ten repetitions. You can do these exercises anywhere to practice your technique and be prepared to stop the flow of semen during sex.
2.    Apply pressure – Apply manual pressure using a fingertip (hers or yours) to the perineum (the area between the anus and the scrotum) in the seconds before orgasm. At the same time, keep your breath steady and your mind still. You are not trying to distract yourself from cumming. The goal is to enjoy the orgasm to the fullest, being in the moment, while preventing ejaculation.
3.    Intense concentration – When you feel the climax approaching, focus on the inhaling and exhaling of your breath, in sync with your partner. You may also press your tongue against the roof of your mouth. This will help you approach orgasm in a slow, steady way, so that your orgasm doesn’t lead to depletion and exhaustion, but is merely another step along your lovemaking path.

The Art of Tantric Sex calls lovemaking “a dance of two energies.” Experiment with the different positions in the Kama Sutra, appreciating each for its different angles and the different emotions it evokes.

Don’t be disheartened if you find it difficult to delay ejaculation. If you use only a few of the tips and techniques in these articles to enhance your sex life and become closer to your partner, then you’ve succeeded in understanding the main purpose of tantric sex.  Nirvana awaits.

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