How to Perform Fellatio

Fellatio is the act of performing oral sex on a man (a.k.a. a blowjob). While giving a BJ does focus on his pleasure, there is something to be said about the satisfaction you derive from knowing how to blow his mind.Before proceeding with tips and techniques, you’ve gotta let go of any hang ups you have about the act itself. If you were raised (as so many of us were) to see the penis as dirty, the easiest way to remedy this is by incorporating cleanliness into the experience by suggesting a bath or shower a deux before hand or going down on him while in the water. Let me tell you that the added sensation of the warm water caressing your skin is great coupled with the mouth action! Another common concern is; to swallow or not to swallow. This is entirely your choice. Not swallowing will certainly not take away from his pleasure, as doing so against your will might, so be gentle when discussing this with your partner, but don’t feel guilty for your decision.

Giving great head is not only about sucking away on a man’s penis with the ol’ repetitive up and down motion. Yes the pleasure is focused on the penis, but you can enhance the experience by not neglecting the surrounding area. Like foreplay leading to the foreplay, you can caress or lick his inner thighs and the testicles to get him ready a semi erect penis is a lot easier to work with than a flaccid one! Tease the area and begin to stroke the shaft. Another tip to keep in mind is maintaining eye contact. This may not seem very important, but most men have admitted to being turned on by this (think blowjob scenes in most porno films where the woman will almost always look up at her partner or directly at the camera as if looking at the viewer this is done for a reason!) With penis in hand (while stroking if you are so coordinated), begin to tease the head with licks and light sucks before finally taking it in your mouth. Always be mindful of your teeth; keeping them wrapped under your lips to avoid any ‘accidents’. With penis in mouth, swirl your tongue around the head. Remember that the head contains far more nerve endings than the shaft which means that mastering the art of deep throating is not priority here and you can use your tongue and lips to control the depth to avoid the inevitable gag reflex. If having his penis all consumed is key to him; stroking the shaft while using your mouth is a great substitute.

You can mix it up further with different positions. While we are still on the topic of deep throating; laying on your back with your head hanging just over the edge of the bed while he stands on the floor with his penis over your mouth seems to work well in allowing you to take it in a little deeper. If you’re looking for a bit more control; having him on his back will enable you to take it as far as you like with less chance of him thrusting too deep in all of his excitement.

The most important tip I can offer is to have fun and be safe. You can use all of the tricks in the book, but if you are treating this as a ‘job’ that you don’t want to do it will ruin the experience for all. If your partner’s sexual history is not yet well known, don’t take any chances and be sure to practice safer sex. This can be done easily and pleasurably by using non lubricated, non spermicidal condoms (use a flavored lube for added zing!) or by using a flavored condom.

Play safe and bon app’tit!