There’s nothing quite like a seductive attack on the aural sense, but what do you say and when? No man wants a lover who’s a motor mouth or a mime either. Some women have the knack of knowing just what to say and, let’s be honest, you want that knack, too.

The first key to being an expert at “dirty talk” is knowing that the element of surprise is your best ally. To be effective, you have to pick your time carefully. If you want immediate “action”, be blunt and direct. Approach your man, lay a palm over his genitals, and whisper something like, “I really want some of this. Right now!”

You might prefer the long-time tease approach, so take the hit and run style to heart. Stretch “little hints” throughout the day or night until he just has to have you. Start off with a whisper of “I am going to make your cock so hard. Later.” Then breeze off on an errand before he catches his breath. At various times, drop a comment or two: “I can’t wait to taste you. Later.” Or “I am getting so wet just thinking about what I’m going to do to you. Later.” You see how that little word “later” is a kind of verbal exclamation point that gets your man’s hormones working overtime?

Experts agree that any word can be made to sound “dirty.” That’s another one of the keys of knowing how to talk dirty. Like good comedy, it’s in the timing and your tone of voice. Women generally know that things said with a growl are sexy. So are phrases purred into the ear. Practice your sexy voice when no one is around. It may feel silly at first and that’s okay, too. Eventually you’ll find the right inflection. But don’t use it all the time. Less is more. It’s your own special sexy “voice.“ Use it sparingly and make it count.

So what about your “dirty talk” vocabulary? Do you still feel nervous about using words that may not be “polite”? Well, dirty talk isn’t about politeness, is it? It IS, however, about getting and giving more pleasure. Accept that most men are already nervous about their sexual performance, so telling them what to do just makes them more nervous.

Telling them “Harder! Faster!” sounds bossy. Try a different approach.

Instead, say something like “Mmmmm. You fuck like an animal.” More than likely, he’ll will begin to do just that without feeling he’s been told what to do.

If you’re wise, you’ll leave “bodice ripper” romance novel language out of your “dirty talking” vocabulary. Most of it sounds pretty silly anyway. No man calls his cock a “manroot” anymore than a woman refers to her breasts as a “bodice.“ Use strong language — “men’s locker room words” (cock, dick, balls, fuck, suck, blowjob) — to get strong results. Some words are simply visceral and sex talk is the place for them to be used. Instead of saying “I want you to make love to me,” say “I want to fuck you.”

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