Just Talk About It

So a couple nights ago my boyfriend and I were talking.  I honestly can’t remember how the subject came up, but we ended up telling stories from our past, which I love; even if it involves discussion about exes, sex with other people, and so forth.  You can learn so much about yourself and each other talking about these things!

This discussion ended up with us talking about this couple from my boyfriend’s past who seem to be serial cheaters on each other.  This then lead to the discussion of people who cheat because they’re not sexually satisfied at home.

Now, I can totally, totally understand being worried about what your partner would think of a weird sex desire you have, or a fetish or something like that.  Been there, done that, ya know?  The trick is though, 100% honesty mixed with mature discussions.

My boyfriend and I have had many such discussions.  We have come to an agreement that should one of us have a need for something, that is a true need, but also that the other one of us can’t meet, due to things like not having the right body parts or something like that, that there may be a chance of seeking fulfillment outside of our relationship, so long as both partners approve of the other party.  And of course so long as it’s safe, clean and only for that one specific need.

Now, that arrangement may not work for everybody.  I wouldn’t believe it if someone told me it did.  However there are many other ways things like this can be overcome.  Perhaps the need is really a want, perhaps it’s something the other partner would like too but just hasn’t tried it yet and any other number of scenarios.

The key really is to talk about it, though; through whatever means necessary.  Maybe simply talking about it; maybe buying a book or movie and giving it as a gift, write a letter or e-mail, surprise your partner, there are so many ways to communicate your needs and wants!  By not doing so you’re doing a disservice to yourself, your partner and your relationship.  Not only that but you’re missing out on a hell of a lot of fun, pleasure and sex!!

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