Making Time for Sex

Many factors can dampen someone’s sex drive, including stressful events in your life. Late last year I posted some tips on how to boost your sex drive if stress has created problems in the bedroom. But what if a busy life has just left you flat-out too tired to tango?

This can happen to many couples, including:

-    new parents
-    people working two jobs because of the economy
-    couples caring for aging parents
-    anyone trying to manage a job, family life, and time for themselves!

If you fall into one of these categories, or many I haven’t thought of, there’s still hope for your sex life. Instead of thinking about creating the perfect romantic environment for a night of lovemaking, carve out time in your busy life for quickies. Steal moments whenever (and wherever!) you can.

Working too much? Schedule a lunchtime rendezvous.

Got kids? Remember, a locking bedroom door is your friend, but so is the shower, or that SUV parked in the garage. Check out this post to find other ideas for sex in strange places.

The bottom line? Make sex a priority, and then get creative and work together to find the time for it in your life.

These tips will help you speed up the process in order to get excited, get in, get satisfied and get out before the next emergency needs your attention.

· Gear up beforehand. Start dropping hints in the morning that promise your lover you will find a time for romance come evening. Leave cute notes where he’ll find them, or send him a dirty e-mail. (Make sure not to send it to his work account). Anticipation will make it easier to get revved up for an evening quickie.

·    Use toys and props. Do you typically need a while to get wet? Powerful clitoral vibes offer speedy satisfaction to get you ready for the main attraction, even making multiple orgasms a likely possibility.

·    Use lube. A little lube can also go a long way to get the party started.

·    Fantasize. Just like little teasing love notes, keeping sexy thoughts in your mind throughout the day will make it easier for you to gear up when you can steal a few minutes alone at night.

·    Wear sexy underwear. It sounds cliché, but try it! The feel of soft silk rubbing against your skin all day will make it very easy to get in the mood come evening. You can also take that idea to the next level and insert geisha balls an hour or two before lovemaking… few women would be able to stand the sexy feeling of geisha balls, also called Ben Wa Balls, filling them up all day long. You can remove the balls before sex, or keep them in for a special treat.

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