Sex drives

So, my boyfriend and I used to have a lot of sex.  A lot.  Every day, sometimes more than once a day, for an hour or two at a time.  It was incredible!  He loves to see where my limits are, for how many different types of pleasure I can take at once.  By this I mean clitoral stimulation, anal stimulation, nipple stimulation, etc.  One of his favorite toys to use is this triple egg/bullet vibrator I have, it’s very similar to this duo egg vibrator, except mine has one slim vibrator and two eggs, all attached to one power pack.   He loves this toy so much because it’s so easy to use and there’s only one power pack, for so many vibrators.

I remember one time he had nipple clamps on me, had the long bullet in my bottom, the two eggs in my vagina plus he used another vibrator on my clit.  Yea, we’re pretty certain the neighbors heard me that night.  I think he really loves the fact that eventually I needed to cry “uncle!” and have him remove some of the stimulations.

The last few months though, we haven’t been having much sex.  Stress has gotten in the way, it totally has sapped our sex drives.  My boyfriend’s went first, but mine quickly went after.  Prior to me loosing my sex drive it was really difficult for me to cope with the very infrequent sex.  Part of me felt like I wasn’t attractive to him anymore, part of me feared he didn’t love me anymore, though he always told me it wasn’t either of those.  He was dealing with some depression and stress, things of that nature.

I’m quite ashamed of how poorly I dealt with it though.  I felt like he should be more willing to use his fingers or mouth on me, or use some of my sex toys on me so that I can at orgasm.  I would blame him, for me not getting off, when all I had to do wasmasturbate.    Happily I got over myself and then eventually started loosing my own sex drive.

Thing is, I felt like since we used to have sex so much, we should always have sex that much.  This is so not the case.  We should have sex when we want it, not because we did yesterday, or two days ago.  Sex can’t be scheduled, that causes it to loose it’s specialness, it looses it’s spur-of-the-moment feel and becomes tedious, almost like a chore.  Makes it seem more like you’re having sex because it’s time to, or you have to, rather than you want to.

Happily, nowadays, we have our sex drive back, and we’re having sex when we want to again.  It’s nowhere near as frequent as it used to be, however it’s damn good when it happens!!

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