Seven Sexy New Year’s Resolutions

It’s the first full week of the New Year. That means it’s not too late to make a New Year’s Resolution! I hope no one has actually broken any of theirs yet, unless they were the kind meant to be broken. (Like giving up sex in 2010… definitely a bad idea!)

So, dear readers, what are your New Year’s Resolutions? I’m sure we have the lion’s share of “quit smoking,” “lose weight” and (my personal favorite) “quit procrastinating.” In 2010, your resident blogger has made a resolution to keep this blog up-to-date with exciting, fun and sometimes educational content – just for you.

In that vein, here are some suggestions for New Year’s Resolutions you won’t mind keeping all year long!

1. Do something new with your lover. You can break open the Kama Sutra and play with whatever position strikes your fancy, have sex outdoors, or make a foray into BDSM. Whatever you choose, do something that is a new experience for both of you.

2. Communicate with your lover. Take time, inside the bedroom or out, to reveal your innermost fantasies. What do you love best about his techniques? What do you wish he’d do more often? Here’s a tip, ladies – long talks during car drives work well. The lack of eye contact makes your man more comfortable and it helps that he has something else to focus on while still giving you the attention you need (and deserve!)

3. Buy a new toy. Expand your bedroom repertoire with the help of a new battery-powered friend. Go for something completely different. If you’ve never used a rabbit-style vibe, I recommend the new WOW series. Want something great for anal play? The Slimline Anal Explorer is a great beginner vibe at a great price.

4. Have more sex. Who couldn’t use a little more love in their life? Make arrangements for lunchtime rendezvous, quickies before breakfast, or long Saturday evening romps through every room in your house. If you’re an “only on weekends” couple, add a weekday into the mix. If you currently have sex once a week or less, aim for two or three times, just for a month, to see how you like it.

5. Make (and keep) a weekly date night. After the hubbub of the holidays, everyone begins to settle back into their normal routine. Why not make a weekly connection with your lover part of your regular 2010 schedule? If you have kids, line up a babysitter. If not – you have less of an excuse.

Date night doesn’t have to be expensive. Order Chinese food and then give each other massages by the fireplace. Use your imagination for low-cost, stay-at-home one-on-one time or splurge with a dinner out at your favorite restaurant. You can decide who, er – what’s – for dessert.

6. Do kegels. Kegels – easy little exercises that tone the PC (Pubococcygeus) muscles have well-documented health benefits. Not only do they help prevent incontinence, they can aid in childbirth. They also help women have more intense orgasms. You can do kegels anywhere, at any time (and no one will know). You can also use ben wa balls for a more intense experience.

7. Use a condom. If you’re not in a monogamous relationship, make 2010 the year you vow to practice safe sex with every partner and use a condom. You’ll find so many fun varieties here at Vibrator.com, you can even use a different style, color or flavor every day of the year!

The Ancient Egyptian “Turin Erotic Papyrus”

It seems that about five minutes after paper was invented, someone invented porn. The Turin Erotic Papyrus, sometimes called Papyrus 55001, is a collection of 12 erotic “stories” discovered on ancient Egyptian scrolls.

In each of the 12 pictures, couples enjoy different sexual positions – some highly unlikely, or, at the very least, extremely uncomfortable. Since the scrolls’ discovery, people have been speculating whether the 12 drawings are a message to the gods, a fertility ritual, or  evidence of the earliest erotica. Maybe a combination of all three.

In his report “Eros in Egypt,” scholar David O’Connor describes the scrolls: “In each vignette a grotesquely aroused, unkempt man has sexual relations with an attractive young woman. The woman, while virtually naked, is decidedly more elegant than her partner. The sexual positions are varied and extremely vivid.”

That sounds eerily like the DVD I watched last night. It seems porn hasn’t changed much in 3,200-or-so years.

The scrolls depict Egyptians drinking alcohol, gathered around tables partying, and having sex. More evidence not much has changed.

The most surprising thing about the scrolls is that it seems to contradict the Egyptians’ other, more chaste drawings, particularly  hieroglyphs carved into cave walls. For instance, a man and woman may sit side-by-side at a table, symbolizing their marriage and union, but they rarely touch.

The Egyptians also leaned toward euphemistic symbols. A bow and arrow, used to depict “shooting,” may mean “ejaculation.” Some drawings would feature a burly man shooting his “arrow” directly at a female figure.

Aside from the erotic papyrus, the really juicy drawings were found on the cave walls where Egyptian kings were buried. While ancient Egyptians were extremely discrete about sex between mortal men and women, for the gods, life was one big orgy. Many photos of the well-endowed god of fertility, Min, grace cave walls. One would never see a human male unclothed in most Egyptian drawings.

Even between gods, however, sex between a male and female in human form was taboo. Instead, gods cavorted in animal form. The most famous example is a love scene between Osiris and Isis, in which Osiris lies aroused, face up, while Isis flies over him in the form of a bird. Apparently, for the ancient Egyptians, bestiality was okay.

But, moving back to the scrolls – one of the most interesting panels depicts an orgy, with at least three couples engaged in different sexual activities. In the center of the panel, a naked woman sits perched on a cone-like seat, as her partner’s hand gropes her. Is this evidence of the first ancient sex toy?

Perhaps the real question is, “Who cares?” We all know sex has been around as long as there were beings around to reproduce, but it’s fascinating to think about ancient civilizations enjoying the same pleasures we do — complete with friends, spirits and even sex toys!

Guide to Tantric Sex, Part 3: Penetration and Prolonged Orgasm

If you’ve been following our three-part series on tantric sex, you’re eager now to get to the “good stuff.” How do you take what you’ve learned in the art of tantra and use it to have powerful, prolonged—and even multiple–orgasms?

That’s right—this one’s for the guys. But if you can prolong the act of lovemaking and become better in tune with your partner, you will both benefit.

The book The Art of Tantric Sex, which I have used as one of many resources in putting together this series, recommends kegel exercises (for both men and women) as a way to better control your sex organs. This post explains how to do kegels and talks about the many benefits for both men and women. (Yes, men can do kegels, too!)

As you enter the final stage of tantric lovemaking, remember, tantric sex is not about a goal or endpoint, but about enjoying each moment in the process.

Slow Penetration
During the first step of penetration, it’s fun to go very slowly. Let the man slide his penis in very carefully, a centimeter at a time. Stay there for a while as you relish each other’s bodies. Kiss, talk, do whatever feels naturally to you. The woman can perform kegels, squeezing herself around his penis – and might even bring herself to orgasm this way.

Relaxation
To prevent involuntary ejaculation, the man should stay particularly relaxed, perhaps letting the woman lead in an on-top position or by making love side by side. Tantric sex is not frenzied, heated or lustful, but romantic, contemplative and extremely intimate.

Techniques to Delay Ejaculation
A number of tantric techniques permit a male partner to delay ejaculation while still experiencing the passionate throbbing of an orgasm.

1.    Mula Bandha – In addition to kegels, men can practice Mula Bandha, or anal sphincter control, a yogic technique used to delay ejaculation. Lower your head and focus your attention on your pelvis. As you inhale, constrict the muscles around your anus. Do three sets of ten repetitions. You can do these exercises anywhere to practice your technique and be prepared to stop the flow of semen during sex.
2.    Apply pressure – Apply manual pressure using a fingertip (hers or yours) to the perineum (the area between the anus and the scrotum) in the seconds before orgasm. At the same time, keep your breath steady and your mind still. You are not trying to distract yourself from cumming. The goal is to enjoy the orgasm to the fullest, being in the moment, while preventing ejaculation.
3.    Intense concentration – When you feel the climax approaching, focus on the inhaling and exhaling of your breath, in sync with your partner. You may also press your tongue against the roof of your mouth. This will help you approach orgasm in a slow, steady way, so that your orgasm doesn’t lead to depletion and exhaustion, but is merely another step along your lovemaking path.

The Art of Tantric Sex calls lovemaking “a dance of two energies.” Experiment with the different positions in the Kama Sutra, appreciating each for its different angles and the different emotions it evokes.

Don’t be disheartened if you find it difficult to delay ejaculation. If you use only a few of the tips and techniques in these articles to enhance your sex life and become closer to your partner, then you’ve succeeded in understanding the main purpose of tantric sex.  Nirvana awaits.

Delicious Desires: Top Products for Oral Sex

All that talk of kissing in my last blog got me thinking about flavored products. The right lip gloss not only makes your lips soft, smooth and succulent, but it can add a pleasant flavor to a kiss.

Likewise, Nipple Nibblers lotion not only adds a sweet, pleasant-tasting tingle to your nipples, it’s also recommended for the lips. Available in sun-ripened strawberry, this lotion from Holiday Products is a steal at only $8 for the 2 oz. container.

But let’s work our way down as we explore some of  Desiree Sweet’s favorite lubes, lotions and condoms to make oral sex even sweeter.

Sweeten’d Blow – This cleverly named pleasure gel comes in raspberry, vanilla and watermelon and has a lubricating effect for an extra smooth blow job. Vibrator.com offers plenty of different oral sex gels, but this blogger likes the unique flavors of Sweeten’d Blow and the campy container.

Boi Toyz Blow Job Drops – Just a few drops of this minty concoction on your tongue gives your partner a tingly treat. Lots of fun for the adventurous couple! Best of all, it’s available in minty combinations of spearmint, cinnamon, wintergreen and chocolate mint.

Oral Delight Couples Kit – This kit from Doc Johnson has it all: Wild cherry-flavored Good Head lotion for blow jobs, strawberry-flavored LickMe licker gel for her, plus a mini-waterproof massager and UR3 slipper tongue sleeve for the vibe. You can use this exciting foursome in any combination for a full night of oral pleasure.

Astroglide Sensual Strawberry – If you’re looking for an effective, light, water-based lube that is safe for use with condoms, you can’t beat the classic Astroglide. Add strawberry flavor and you have a true winner! This lubricant keeps you wet and slippery for hours while adding a light taste that’s not too sugary-sweet. Definitely a favorite of this blogger!

Four Seasons Flavored Condoms – Oral sex with a regular condom can leave a rubbery taste in your mouth; flavored condoms are the way to go. And because variety is the spice of life (and your sex life!) this four-pack gives you four different flavors: banana, strawberry, blueberry and chocolate.

The Collection – Flavored massage oils add a great taste and scent to foreplay. This kit from Kama Sutra offers five 1 oz. bottles of tasty massage oil in sensual flavors such as chocolate mint, cherry almond, raspberry kiss and vanilla crème.
It’s important to remember that not every flavor appeals to every person. (Although we’ve yet to find the individual who is turned off by chocolate!) Variety packs of condoms, flavored massage oils and drops help ensure that you are adding a pleasing taste for your partner. Before you apply a particular flavor, make sure to ask! You don’t want to be sent off to the showers with the line: “No, really, it’s not you! It’s the cherry lube!”

Kryptonite Not Included

Watching Heroes last night made me think; superhero abilities are cool. Flying, super-human strength, super-healing, and every teenage boy’s favorite: x-ray vision.

But Desiree Sweet began thinking outside the phone booth to come up with her favorite Super-sex abilities.

1. Super-deep throating: Sure, this ability can be learned through practice, but wouldn’t it be great to have a superpower that erases the gag reflex?

2.    Super-flexibility: Every position in the Kama Sutra? That’s no problem for Elasti-girl. Just imagine the possibilities when you can bend, stretch and hang with no effort or fear of pulled muscles.

3.    The ability to breathe through your ears: Kevin Costner had this talent in the 1995 hit Waterworld, but he never put it to use the way we intend! This special ability would come in very handy for oral sex, making you a favorite partner of men and women alike!

I can imagine our male readers saying, “But you forgot super-size and the ability to last forever, Miss Sweet!”

While these traits may be appealing to some, if you’re going to be completely selfless and ask for a special power to please your partner, go with the ability to read minds. Wouldn’t it be great to know exactly which moves make your lover turn to jelly, and which ones leave her thinking about doing laundry?

Best of all, you don’t need to be a superhero to develop this ability. Slow down, watch, listen and communicate. Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues and vary your pace and motions based on her feedback. If you’re not sure how something feels, ask. If you have a special fantasy, share it. It may encourage her to do the same.

You don’t need to be born on a different planet to have super-sex… On the other hand, if you’re in the market for a super-fast, rocket launcher-equipped armor-plated Batmobile-style vehicle, you’re on your own.

Our Quiz Reveals the Best Gift for Your Gal

The holiday season is upon us. Yes. Really. Didn’t you know as soon as Halloween is over, it’s officially time to start decking the halls?

Fortunately, Vibrator.com is here to make all your shopping go just a little bit more smoothly. We bring you this quick quiz to help you pick out the best toy for your girl. Don’t worry, boys… you’re next.

1. It’s happy hour. Your lady is most likely to order:

A. Budweiser
B. Cosmo
C. Whiskey, straight up
D. Bahama Mama

2. Your girlfriend’s favorite reality TV show is:

A. She doesn’t watch reality TV.
B. Top Chef
C. Temptation Island
D. Drawn Together

3. It’s her turn to pick the movie. It’s…

A. Sleepless in Seattle
B. The Terminator
C. Kill Bill
D. American Pie

4. Your significant other’s dream date would be:

A. Dinner at that cozy little Italian place and a horse and carriage ride
B. Dinner and drinks at an A-list hot spot and a Cirque du Soleil show
C. Base jumping in the Rocky Mountains
D. Caroline’s Comedy Club followed by a walk through Central Park

5. Her favorite position?
A.    Missionary
B.    Just one?
C.    Girl-on-top
D.    Doggie Style

6. The superhero she most identifies with is:
A. Superman
B. Spiderman
C. Batman
D. Mrs. Incredible

7. Your girl’s favorite subject in school was
A. Math
B. English
C. Gym
D. Lunch

8. Her house is decorated in…

A. Classic contemporary
B. Only the best: solid wood floors, leather sofas and complete luxury
C. Gothic: lots of velvet, in a red and black color scheme
D. Ikea specials, with a few whimsical street fair finds thrown in

9. Her next car is most likely to be a…

A.    Toyota Camry
B.    Mercedes-Benz C Class sedan
C.    Porsche
D.    Volkswagen Beetle

10. Her favorite holiday tradition is…

A.    Decorating the tree.
B.    A sleigh ride followed by hot chocolate cuddled up in front of a roaring fire
C.    Flirting with her cubicle mate during the office party
D.    Watching the Grinch

Mostly As-
Anything beyond the basic may scare your vanilla sweetie. Try Doc Johnson’s Little Pearl and maybe one day she’ll work her way up to the Decadent Indulgence III.

Mostly Bs—
It’s all about passion for your partner. Why not try a set of massage oils and the luxurious Lelo NEA?

Mostly Cs—
Your BDSM babe deserves more than coal in her (fishnet) stockings. For the dom who has everything, try these classy, sensual and oh-so-naughty Japanese silk rope ankle cuffs and a new ball gag.

Mostly Ds—
Your lover believes laughter makes everything better—and bedroom antics are no exception. Tickle her clit with vibrating panties or try this whimsical cell phone vibe.