How to Get Turned on to Ben Wa Balls

With all the horror stories on the Internet about women who get ben-wa balls stuck you know where, the ancient Eastern sex toy may seem a little intimidating.

Sit back, relax… or perhaps lie down, and let me tell you about my first experience with Ben Wa Balls.

Cool textures, smooth feel
I admit after reading the horror stories, I was a bit tentative. The idea of the ben wa balls also didn’t seem very comfortable at first. First, I added some lubricant to the balls, because, honestly, I didn’t see these going in easily without any. I began masturbating with the balls, enjoying the ridged texture and the cool smoothness of the plastic. The weighted balls had a nice — very nice — feel and I soon enjoyed banging them against myself.

I’d often watched porn where a woman enjoys having someone smack her clit — or doing it herself. The balls provided that pulsing sensation without the sting.

It wasn’t long before I was wet enough to insert them easily. And they didn’t need as much lube as I thought. (But I still hold to the adage that you can never, ever have enough lube.)

Once the ben wa balls were inside, I have to admit, they didn’t provide as much pleasure as I thought they would, immediately. Ben wa balls are not a passive sex toy, where you lie there and let them do the work. In fact, they take a bit of creativity — and knowing your body — to really get the most pleasure from them.

I started to go through my usual masturbation repertoire, while also moving the balls around by the string every so often. It was fun but I knew I was missing something.

Contrary to the balls getting stuck, they kept slipping out. Each time, I pushed them deeper, and that’s when the pleasure potential started to hit me. With the balls filling me completely, I began to imagine a lover’s cock inside me along with them. Yes… these balls had an appeal.

Believe What You Read…
I ramped up the hand motion and, as I started to come, I realized the entire purpose — or at least, one of the purposes — of ben wa balls. The ridges caressed the inside walls of my vagina as my body pulsated. The weights inside them seemed to give the balls a life of their own. I detected mild vibrations — not as strong as my favorite vibe, more like a gentle tickling sensation.

By this time, I’d become adept at moving the balls by moving my legs, and was able to manipulate them to keep the orgasm going for minutes of undulating pleasure. Each spasm created another spasm, waves of ecstasy, just as the advertisements promise.

Ben wa balls have several uses and I look forward to experimenting with them all. You can use ben wa balls:

• during masturbation
• during intercourse
• in your vagina during anal sex, to give you a full feeling at every angle
• for kegel exercises
• throughout the day — as you learn to manipulate the balls with subtle movements, you can bring yourself to orgasm anytime, anywhere.

It’s true that these toys require a little bit of knowledge about your body — and some degree of pelvic muscle control — to really enjoy them to their full potential. But once you unlock the secrets of these ancient toys, you’ll become a true afficianado. You may even begin to collect multiple sets of balls in different sizes, styles and materials.

Our Top Picks for Ben Wa Balls
Whether you’re buying your first set or adding to your collection, here are some of our favorite ben wa balls:

Doc Johnson’s Gold Ben Wa Balls – cool, classy, sexy and pthalate-free

Smartballs – my favorite for their texture unique texture and sturdy string for removal

Leopard Duotone Balls – wild and sexy

What’s been your experience with Ben Wa balls? Did they require practice, and did you like them?

How to Remove Ben Wa Balls

During a late night in front of the computer, a friend sent me this story,  about a woman with Ben Wa balls stuck in her hoo-ha. (Her words…)

Your resident blogger waits patiently as you read…

Pretty funny, no?

This got me thinking, though… Was this the best way to release those little ben wa balls? And I also couldn’t help but wonder… why didn’t she buy the ones with a string, like the popular SmartBalls. Even  their name is clever. And the strong silicone string permits easy removal.

But, for those more adventurous, who like their balls with no strings attached,  what is the best way to remove ben wa balls on the off chance that they should become stuck?

Incidentally, my experience with ben wa balls tends to agree with blogger Kat’s toy salesperson – gravity does a great job at making sure most women don’t wind up in Kat’s predicament. She truly must, as she proclaims, have a Super Hoo-ha.  I’m only slightly jealous.

But in case you, too, are blessed with a Super Hoo-ha and wind up in the embarrassing situation of two ben wa balls stuck up there without a string, several methods can work to save you any embarrassing phone calls or trips to the doctor.

The most important thing to remember is to relax. In a relaxed state, you have more control over your body, so whichever method you choose to release the ben wa balls will be more effective.

Perform deep breathing exercises, count to ten slowly, or make yourself a cup of tea and go about your day. The balls will come out. It is physically impossible to permanently lose Ben Wa balls inside your body.

Jump up and down. Give gravity a hand by standing up and then jumping up and down. Most people who’ve had issues retrieving their balls noted that this worked. You may feel a bit silly jumping up and down naked (or maybe not…), but weigh the alternatives here…

“Squat and sweep.” Squatting close to the ground, reach into your vagina with one or two fingers and “sweep” the balls out.

Cough, sneeze or laugh. Many women (who haven’t been doing their kegels!) may experience mild incontinence when they cough, sneeze or laugh, because doing so relaxes the PC muscles – those same muscles holding the Ben Wa balls firmly in place. A good cough, sneeze or laugh (I know which of the three I’d choose!) may be all it takes for the Ben Wa balls to drop free.

Squat and push. Any woman who’s given birth naturally knows the way to force something out of your vagina is to “push.” If this action can work for an 8-pound human being, it will definitely work for two, tiny weighted balls. Many sources recommend this as the quickest and easiest way to remove Ben Wa balls that are stubbornly stuck.

With this knowledge, readers can relax and experience the wonder of Ben Wa balls with no worries. How to keep them in when you’re in a vertical position? That’s advice for another article.

10 Best Sex Toy Names

I’ve been writing about sex toys long enough to realize sex toys have fun names. Some are seductive, but some are so silly you have to giggle. In the interests of a good time, I thought I’d share with you, in no particular order, my favorite vibrator names.

Decadent Indulgence: The vibrator so hot California Exotics made not one, but two sequels (the Decadent Indulgence 2 and 3). The name calls to mind rich, dark chocolate. But there are no calories in this fun, feature-packed toy.

Ambitious Beaver: I admit, the name of this vibe from B.M.S. Enterprises inspired this post. A beaver vibrator is actually a variation of the famous rabbit, where a beaver tail and paws replace the dual bunny ears for a whole new level of clit-tickling pleasure. I love the idea of this “ambitious” little fella getting to work with seven different functions and ten speeds. He’s as busy as a… well, you know.

All American Whopper: We’re not talking about a burger, here, but there’s plenty of beef with this 7-inch dong. The suction cup holds it firmly in place, putting the power of plenty in your control. And what could be more American than the freedom to ride a seven-inch, realistic dildo wherever and whenever you want?

Honorable mention goes to his brother, the Chocolate Whopper with Balls. Both dildos are waterproof, as well, but I’d recommend putting those little non-skid things on the bottom of your tub before you attempt any maneuvers with these big boys.

Clone-a-Willy: Not only does the name make me giggle, but the product is… let’s call it an interesting novelty. The kit includes everything a man needs to make an exact replica of his own cock – just add water! It’s kind of like sea monkeys – but not. It also comes in chocolate and soap varieties.

Taylor Wane’s Assturbator Anal masturbation starter kit – A great play on words that evokes thoughts of a super powerful vibrator and more, Nasstoys Assturbator kit is all you need for anal play.

It’s also one of those products that makes you appreciate online sex toy sellers like Vibrator.com. I’m pretty bold, but it would be hard to go into my local adult store and ask for “the Assturbator” without smirking, blushing or both.

Tit Tax – A bachelor party favorite, Tit Tax are, you guessed it, breast-shaped breath mints. Ladies will want to offer up their counterpart, Dick Tarts, at their next girls-only gathering.

Clingon Glass Probe – You get three guesses what to do with the Clingon glass probe. If you guessed it has something to do with your bum, you’re right. But this unique glass toy also inserts about 3 inches into the vagina, resting on the PC muscles (those are the ones used for kegel exercises.) The slim butt plug adds to the pleasure while a ridged front offers g-spot stimulation. Now I understand where it got its name; the ridges kind of do look like an alien forehead – the cool kind, not the lame Klingons from the original Star Trek TV series.

Vibrating Diva Pleaser – This royal purple masterpiece tells it like it is. Designed for true divas, this scentless, water-proof, three-speed toy provides triple stimulation. Of course, a diva would desire nothing less!

I Rub My Duckie Bondage – The famous Rub My Duckie discreet vibrator has gotten a little crazier with this BDSM version. Clad all in leather, he comes with his own tiny set of handcuffs and a ball gag firmly placed in his beak. “Rubber duckie, you’re the one,” indeed.

Fleshlights – I love a good pun, and the Fleshlight line of products has a name that is both clever and descriptive. Nestled inside a flashlight case rests a Realskin pussy, mouth or ass for all your personal pleasure.

Vaginal Health and Kegel Exercises

The Pubococcygeus Muscle

The vagina—just like every other part of your body—needs regular exercise to keep it resilient, healthy and happy. Overtime, the vagina and its surrounding muscles on the pelvic floor can weaken, stretch, become torn and no longer offer support due to pregnancy, childbirth, aging, being overweight, abdominal surgery and inactivity. An important part of vaginal health is exercising a muscle called the PC muscle (pubococcygeus muscle). It is a hammock-shaped muscle that stretches from the pubic bone to the tail bone. It forms the pelvic floor and supports the pelvic organs including the bladder, urethra and vagina.

Advantages of Good PC Health

Exercising your PC muscle has numerous advantages because it strengthens the pelvic floor. Strengthening this area will help prevent prolapse (slipping or sagging of the uterus), incontinence (loss of bladder or bowel control) and constipation. For women who are pregnant, a fit PC muscle will help relax muscles during birth allowing for easier deliveries through the birthing canal. After vaginal births, working the PC muscle will benefit you by restoring vaginal muscle tone and promoting perineal healing (the area between the anus and vagina that can stretch or tear during birth).

Some women suffer from painful disorders like vaginismus (pain from vaginal insertion), dyspareunia (painful intercourse) and female sexual dysfunction (loss of sex drive or diminished sexual satisfaction). Working your PC muscles will help make your vagina and pelvic floor stronger and more elastic which means it will stretch easier during sexual intercourse. It will also help stimulate the sex drive by increasing blood flow to the pelvic region which will enhance sensitivity and arousal as well as allow you to achieve orgasm easier. It is important however to consult your doctor if you suffer from any of the above disorders, before beginning any exercise routine.

Enhancing the Sexual Experience

Training your PC muscles is not only for women who suffer from disorders. PC workouts are very beneficial for all women, regardless of your age, your vagina’s physical condition, or whether or not you have given birth. Why? Since the PC muscle also encircles the outside of the vagina, healthy PC muscles will improve sexual arousal, allow you to feel your partner more fully during intercourse and intensify your partner’s pleasure by tightening the vagina cavity, thus enhancing lovemaking for both of you. And, that’s not all. Strong PCs allow you to reach orgasm more easily, experience more powerful and pleasurable orgasms, and may even help you achieve multiple orgasms as you learn to better control and respond to your sexual arousal. Fit PC muscles also improve G-spot stimulation and can help you learn to experience G-spot orgasms and female ejaculation. Rhythmic squeezing of your PC muscles during intercourse will help increase lubrication, stimulate the clitoris, and massage your partner’s penis to take him to new heights of sexual ecstasy.

Finding your PC Muscle

It is very easy to find your PC muscle. You probably use it on a daily basis without even being aware of it. It is the muscle you use when you stop urinating mid-stream. The muscles of your pelvic floor tighten and your vaginal muscles clench when you activate this muscle. A method of locating the PC muscle is to insert a finger or two inside your vagina and squeeze until you feel the muscles gripping your fingers. So now that you’ve found it, how do you exercise it?

Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises are how you work the PC muscles, strengthen the pelvic floor and restore muscle tone to this area. Named after Dr. Arnold Kegel, kegels consist of contracting and relaxing the muscles in rhythmic intervals. There are different types of kegels and different methods for exercising them. Regularity when doing kegels is more important than how many you do in sequence. It is therefore recommended to do any of the following exercises three times a day. You can even mix them up. The exercises become easier the more often you do them. Remember to relieve your bladder first before performing kegels.

Basic Kegel

The Basic kegel is a slow, controlled squeeze of the PC muscle, as you draw upward and inward. Imagine that you are sucking water up through your vagina (you can actually do this in the bathtub when your PC muscles are strong). Each time you do this hold for a count of 3-5 seconds. Repeat 10 times.

Pulsing Kegels

Pulsing kegels involves squeezing and releasing the PC muscle rapidly in quick succession, in a pulsing tempo. It is important to maintain control during these, instead of aiming for speed. It is not a race. Work your way up 25 or 30 pulses.

Kegel Push-Outs

This exercise engages the PC muscles more thoroughly giving a great workout. Slowly squeeze in, taking a deep breath, then slowly, gently push out, releasing your breath. Continue in a slow, in-out sequence, breathing in, and then out in time with each contraction. Repeat 10-20 times.

Elevator Kegels

This is my favorite kegel and I find it really works to tighten those muscles. Imagine that your vagina is an elevator shaft with the opening at the vagina entrance. Slowly pull the muscles in starting at the vagina, continuing to tighten as you go up the shaft like an elevator going up to the top floor. Pause at the top, and then slowly lower in reverse sequence. You will feel the difference just after a few times. Repeat 10-20 times.

Kegels and Sex Toys

There are several “sex toy” products now available on the market that enhances kegel exercises. I think of them as barbells for the vagina. Just as adding weight-training to an exercise routine helps improve strength and muscle tone, adding sex toys to your kegels increases resistance and gives you something to squeeze around, adding an extra benefit to the workout. You can do this as part of your regular kegel workout, or during masturbation. Who knew that doing something so pleasurable could benefit you as well! Try using the following toys while enjoying clitoral stimulation simultaneously to enhance your enjoyment as well as the power of your orgasms.

Duo-tone, Orgasm or Ben Wa Balls

You’ve probably heard of Ben Wa Balls . These are small weighted balls (usually plastic or metallic) that are inserted into the vagina for the purpose of kegel exercises and enhanced masturbation. The balls feel like they move around inside you because of the weights as they boost sensation to the entire area. Use them by clenching and doing kegels with them.

SmartBalls by FunFactory

SmartBalls are my favorite kegel sex toy. Like everything made by FunFactory, Smartballs are both innovative and high quality. Smartballs are two small metal balls inside a coating of silicone connected by an elastomer string that make them comfortable and sleek. They are inserted into the vagina where they vibrate and titillate, giving you a targeted work out for your PC muscles. They are a little larger than most other orgasm balls as well, making them easier to clench on to.

Berman Center Isis Beginning Pelvic Exerciser

The Isis is a dildo type pelvic exerciser made of smooth glass that is bowed at the ends. One end is inserted into the vagina and acts as a resistance to squeeze your vagina and PC muscles around. Try the Isis with any of the former mentioned exercises or during masturbation for enhanced play.

Natural Contours Energie

Natural Contours has designed a great product for doing kegels called Energie. It is weighted vaginal barbell that works the same as the Isis, but even better. The Energie is made of sleek hard plastic that is ergonomically shaped for ultimate comfort. Not only will this barbell strengthen your PC muscles while doing kegels, but it is perfectly shaped for G-Spot stimulation and self-pleasure. One end is slightly larger than the other as well, giving you a bit of variety.

So there it is. An exercise that will benefit your sexual pleasure as well as your health that you can do while masturbating or having sex. Who could ask for anything more? And, don’t underestimate the power of you PC. The first time you squeeze your vagina around your partner’s penis you will be delighted by his response. Not to mention the delight you will feel by your own heightened sexual experience. So, don’t delay. Keep your vagina resilient, healthy and happy. And, as Sue Johanson says: “Use it or loose it!”