Would You Give Your Teen Daughter a Vibrator?

Sex expert Dr. Laura Berman recommends women buy vibrators for their teenage daughters.

“You’re teaching them about their own bodies and pleasuring themselves,” Dr. Berman said on a segment of Oprah this past spring. “They don’t need [a] boy – they don’t need another person — until they’re ready.”

She went on to say that using a vibrator may even make teenage girls safer, sexually-speaking, because it may encourage them to put off their sexual experience even longer.

Oprah’s best friend, Gayle King, shook her throughout the segment, arguing that it is “just too much information.” Kids are growing up fast enough, these days, she argued. Parents don’t need to add battery-operated fuel to the raging teenage hormonal fire.

The thought crossed my mind that, upon discovering how good sexual pleasure can feel with a vibrator, teenage girls may actually be more eager to find out about the real thing. (Only to be sorely disappointed by a first experience with an inexperienced boy their own age, of course… sending them running back to their vibrator… maybe Dr. Berman has the right idea?)

Dr. Berman says it’s about empowerment – teaching teens not only the basics of sex as well as how to be safe, but educating them about orgasm. Which we all know is an important part of sex. But I’m still not sure about vibrator-shopping with a teenage daughter.

Talking to Teens About Sex
I remember learning about masturbation from Judy Blume books. A few years later, I started learning about sex from Danielle Steele. We did not talk about sex in my house – at all. While my mom knew exactly what I was reading (after all, she read Danielle Steele and Nora Roberts, too) we never discussed it.

I know this is an extreme situation – the polar opposite of what today’s experts recommend. Certainly, I agree that parents should teach their teens about sex: the basic mechanics, safe sex for protection against disease and pregnancy, and the importance of not giving into peer pressure.

It’s also important to talk about the emotional connection forged after sex, which may surprise teenage girls who don’t fully understand the difference between love and lust; sometimes, those “feel-close” hormones can even throw grown women for a loop after a casual encounter.

Girls are giving blowjobs at 13 and 14 years old. (Note to the experts: Surprise! This is NOT a new phenomenon!) So it’s wise for parents to explain that STI’s can be transmitted through oral sex and condom use is important. Parents shouldn’t just pretend it’s not happening or even that it’s an atrocity.  It happens, has been happening probably since the dawn of time, and will continue to happen.  Sex education in schools, one-on-one conversations  at home, and buying sex toys for our teens won’t change that. The best we can do is educate teens on how to be safe and protect against disease and pregnancy. Well, that or chastity belts.

A Vibe for your Teen?
While I’m very much in favor of sex education and parents talking to their kids about sex, I also agree with Gayle King that to buy a teenage girl a vibrator is, indeed, “TMI.” I think discussions with teens about sex should lean toward the practical and the clinical. Of course, if a teenager has any questions, they should be answered open and honestly, and parents should make it clear that their kids can come to them with questions.

But I can imagine only one reaction if my mother ever brought up the topic of vibrators, masturbation or the specifics of orgasm: complete mortification. I can’t imagine it would be comfortable for many teenagers – or their parents. And I don’t see many benefits to it.

With all due respect, I think Dr. Berman is not giving enough consideration to the other reasons teenagers have sex, including the same reason vibrators don’t replace real-life lovers for grown-ups. Whether you’re 14 or 40, a sex toy—while fun—can never replace the intimacy of sex with someone you love (or even like a whole lot!)

Roadside Assistance: A Short Story

Some things are so hot, you just have to share…

It was a dark and stormy night. Really, it was. Stay with me here.

I braved the downpour to pick up my husband from his best friend’s bachelor party around 2 AM. When he told me the party had been fun but the strippers were “lame,” well, I figured I should do something to spice up the night for the groom-to-be.

I would have loved to take both men back to my house for sex in all sorts of fun combinations, but between the rain, the late hour, and the fact that half the attendees were still partying it up at the best man’s house, we didn’t have a lot of options. My husband could disappear without comment, but the guest of honor would surely be missed.

I was pleased when L came out, along with my husband, to greet me. He was dressed in shorts and a t-shirt, already settled in for the night. I rolled down the car window and he planted a soft kiss just beside my lips, but in his eyes I saw a yearning for more. I heaved a sigh that told him I wanted more, too. He glanced around the front yard; no one else was outside. He leaned in again for a deeper kiss. At the same time, my husband’s hand caressed my thigh through my thin, silky pajama pants.

I bit my lip and contemplated Harley for a moment. Then my husband had an idea that made it a Much Better Night for everyone. “How about we, um, have a talk,” he said to Harley. My husband stepped out of the car, leaning over the roof. Harley stepped back for a moment to follow suit, the smile growing on his face.

I didn’t understand immediately. “So. An interesting night,” my husband said.

I looked from the driver’s side window to the passenger side. I realized what was happening as Harley lowered the waistband of his shorts and moved in closer to the car door. Then he, too, leaned over the roof of the car. I licked my lips as his cock came to life, dangling right in front of my face.

“Well, go ahead,” my husband said.

The two men made idle chatter over the roof of the car as I sucked, licked and fondled. The falling raindrops mixed with my saliva and his pre-cum for a sensual, exciting taste in my mouth unlike anything I’d ever experienced. He forced his cock through the open car window as I deep-throated him expertly.

I closed my eyes and imagined a shared fantasy, a glory–hole. “I’d recognize the taste of your cock,” I had teased him once. “But it would still be fun!”

As the rain pounded harder against the roof of the car, as well as through the window and onto my face, I increased the intensity of my sucking. I ran my mouth over his shaft faster, forcing it deeper and deeper into my mouth with each movement.

Every so often, I opened my eyes to peer outside the car, making sure no one had come out of the house, while thinking it could get even more interesting if another friend decided to join us.

I pulled his cock out of my mouth for a moment to breathe, letting my hand take over where my lips left off. With the rain coming down in heavy streams now, I jerked him off rapidly, teasing the tip of his cock with my tongue. His cock grew extremely hard, the pressure building up as I brought him closer to orgasm.

At just the right second, I wrapped my mouth around him, drawing him deep inside my mouth to swallow the warm fluids that squirted like a geyser down my throat. I swallowed the first wave, and the second, then pulled back to breathe, licking stray drops of cum from my lips.

I heard my husband breathe heavily from the other side of the car, as Harley’s knees buckled after the exhilaration of his orgasm. I blinked, smiled, wiped my lips and leaned back against the headrest. Once again, I wasn’t sure what was happening when Harley hurriedly pulled up his pants and made a random comment to my husband.

Then I heard a screen door slam shut and footsteps coming down the drive.

“Hey, what’s up?” I heard one of the groomsmen say. Not just “one of the groomsmen,” but the most attractive (aside from my husband, of course.)

“Hi,” Harley said. “Just getting ready to come in.”

“We’d better be going,” my husband said, opening the car door and climbing into the car.

I gazed out the window at the groomsman, said hi to him, then winked at my husband and wiped my mouth with satisfaction.

“Next?” I joked.

Note: The story you just read was a work of fiction. Had it been a true account, your resident swinging blogger would have insisted on a condom. Strawberry, of course.

Delicious Desires: Top Products for Oral Sex

All that talk of kissing in my last blog got me thinking about flavored products. The right lip gloss not only makes your lips soft, smooth and succulent, but it can add a pleasant flavor to a kiss.

Likewise, Nipple Nibblers lotion not only adds a sweet, pleasant-tasting tingle to your nipples, it’s also recommended for the lips. Available in sun-ripened strawberry, this lotion from Holiday Products is a steal at only $8 for the 2 oz. container.

But let’s work our way down as we explore some of  Desiree Sweet’s favorite lubes, lotions and condoms to make oral sex even sweeter.

Sweeten’d Blow – This cleverly named pleasure gel comes in raspberry, vanilla and watermelon and has a lubricating effect for an extra smooth blow job. Vibrator.com offers plenty of different oral sex gels, but this blogger likes the unique flavors of Sweeten’d Blow and the campy container.

Boi Toyz Blow Job Drops – Just a few drops of this minty concoction on your tongue gives your partner a tingly treat. Lots of fun for the adventurous couple! Best of all, it’s available in minty combinations of spearmint, cinnamon, wintergreen and chocolate mint.

Oral Delight Couples Kit – This kit from Doc Johnson has it all: Wild cherry-flavored Good Head lotion for blow jobs, strawberry-flavored LickMe licker gel for her, plus a mini-waterproof massager and UR3 slipper tongue sleeve for the vibe. You can use this exciting foursome in any combination for a full night of oral pleasure.

Astroglide Sensual Strawberry – If you’re looking for an effective, light, water-based lube that is safe for use with condoms, you can’t beat the classic Astroglide. Add strawberry flavor and you have a true winner! This lubricant keeps you wet and slippery for hours while adding a light taste that’s not too sugary-sweet. Definitely a favorite of this blogger!

Four Seasons Flavored Condoms – Oral sex with a regular condom can leave a rubbery taste in your mouth; flavored condoms are the way to go. And because variety is the spice of life (and your sex life!) this four-pack gives you four different flavors: banana, strawberry, blueberry and chocolate.

The Collection – Flavored massage oils add a great taste and scent to foreplay. This kit from Kama Sutra offers five 1 oz. bottles of tasty massage oil in sensual flavors such as chocolate mint, cherry almond, raspberry kiss and vanilla crème.
It’s important to remember that not every flavor appeals to every person. (Although we’ve yet to find the individual who is turned off by chocolate!) Variety packs of condoms, flavored massage oils and drops help ensure that you are adding a pleasing taste for your partner. Before you apply a particular flavor, make sure to ask! You don’t want to be sent off to the showers with the line: “No, really, it’s not you! It’s the cherry lube!”

Inflatable Boobs and More

The economy’s in a shambles, people are getting laid off, everyone is rushing around to finish their holiday shopping with too few dollars… and it’s raining. Or possibly snowing, depending on your location. Either way, things are bleak.

But you’ll be happy to know that 130,000 missing inflatable boobs have been found, a mere 900 kilometers from their intended location.

This, and several other odd news bits, turned up on the Web this week. And because we all need a laugh (probably even more than we need a little Christmas right now), your resident blogger decided she’d share the best, most silly sex-related stories on the Web right now. (In no one’s opinion but Ms. Sweet’s, of course).

1.    The now-famous shipment of inflatable plastic breasts from China, part of a promotional giveaway for Ralph, an Australian men’s magazine, was found sitting in a port in Melbourne. The novelty items were expected to arrive in Sydney last week, but a paperwork error resulted in a Snafu. Ralph workers are now rushing to stuff the boobs in bags to go out with the December 15 issue of the magazine. The shipping error cost the magazine $30,000 but, according to an article on WAToday.com, the publication will still have the world’s record for the most boobs given away at one time, so all is not lost.

2.    Obviously, we are all for masturbation here at Vibrator.com, but there are just some things you can’t really give yourself in a relationship (or so we thought). This oddly seductive viral implores you: “’Til Death Do You Part – Marry Yourself.” You can’t make this up, and nothing I say could make this any stranger, so click here and see for yourself.

3.    My fellow Vibrator.com blogger Rick sent me a link to Natural Harvest – A Collection of Semen-Based  Recipes. And here I settled for an egg white omelette for breakfast.

I confess: I’m not sure if the book, and the ensuing comments, are a joke or not, but Lulu is a vanity press so anything is possible.  If you’ve been following this blog for a while, you know Desiree Sweet is the biggest fan of oral sex you can find, but I think I’ll continue to get my daily allowance of protein from a nice, big, juicy… steak, thank you very much.

How about you? Seen anything new and newsworthy that left you scratching your head lately?

Safer Head

It’s a telltale sign that I’m a product of Generation X, but when I saw this news report talking about a study on the dangers of oral sex, all I could think of was the line uttered by Dante in the original Clerks: “You sucked 37 dicks?!”

I’ve long believed that the 1994 Kevin Smith movie played a role in blow jobs becoming, for better or worse, the teenage equivalent of making out in recent decades. My husband often laments that the movie hadn’t been made yet when he was a teenager; I tell him to quit complaining and then I start making up for lost time.

A study from Johns Hopkins University, however, shows that unprotected oral sex, especially with multiple partners over time, may not be the “safe sex” alternative many teenagers view it as. Sure, it can’t get you pregnant, but strains of the HPV virus, shown to cause cervical cancer in women, can be transmitted orally and are linked to head, neck and throat cancer.

Anyone who is not monogamous should understand the risks associated with oral sex without a condom or dental dam. Not only can HPV be spread through unprotected oral sex, but so can gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes and HIV. Maybe this is old news, but it bears repeating.

What surprised me is the prevalence of HPV-related throat cancer. According to the Johns Hopkins report, the cancer afflicts approximately 11,000 people in the U.S. each year, making it an equal threat as cervical cancer.

To date, no study has been done regarding the effect of Gardasil, Merck’s questionable vaccine to protect against certain strains of HPV, to prevent throat cancer.

Now, I’m the first one to rail against “alarmist” studies. But I feel this is important information that should be shared. Condoms and dental dams can reduce the risk of spreading HPV, but not eliminate it entirely.

Still, with the lines of colorful and tasty condoms available today, there’s really no excuse, if you’re not in a monogamous relationship, to use a condom during oral sex.

And if you take some time and learn to put the condom on using only your mouth and tongue, I seriously doubt you’ll hear your partner complain!

Sweet Southbound Drive

Resident Vibrator.com blogger Desiree Sweet just returned from an enchanting, 18-hour road trip to Florida. How did hubby and I amuse ourselves down that nearly endless stretch of I-95? (Hint: it wasn’t by reading “Pedro’s South of the Border” billboards aloud.)

Ms. Sweet has a knack for giving road head. I sucked my first dick in a car on the side of the New Jersey Turnpike (or was it Pennsylvania?) Now, we don’t bother pulling over. Our personal record is a blow job that lasted the entire length of Connecticut.

Road head can be dangerous, but it can also be lots of fun. Follow these pointers to stay as safe as possible. Then buckle up, sit back, and enjoy the ride.

Keep your seatbelt on. This is a tricky maneuver for the giver, as she leans over her seat to reach the prize. But do the best you can. In a vehicle with a bench seat (no center shifter) it should be easy enough to move over and use the middle seatbelt. Under all circumstances, the driver should leave his seatbelt securely fastened.

No teeth! Of course, this is the rule for any good blow job, but it’s particularly important to be mindful of your molars on a bumpy road. Whenever possible, stick to smooth highways rather than stop-and-go traffic.

For safety’s sake, it’s best to give a blow job on an empty road, where the driver can set the cruise control and recline his seat just a bit; not enough to impair his vision. This gives his partner plenty of head room, so to speak.

If the car has a center console, be especially careful not to knock it into neutral. And if you have a stick shift instead of an automatic, keep the blow jobs to the parking lot—it’s just too much for the driver to think about at one time.

To keep the car’s interior clean, you’ll probably want to swallow and be done with it. But it’s nice to have some tissues or baby wipes on hand to wipe up afterward, anyway. Some water comes in handy, too. (I know I’m always parched after a good oral sex session).

While it’s uncertain if there are explicit laws against road head, a jealous cop can nail you for indecent exposure, reckless driving, or any number of other offenses. To reduce your risk of getting caught, stick to less populated areas, at night.

Make sure the driver can concentrate on the road during his BJ, without any suspicious (and dangerous) swerving. Test his concentration abilities with some dirty talk, then a hand job before moving on to the main (street) attraction. Remember, safety always comes first!

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