Tips for Taking Care of Your Sex Toys

Afterglow Sex Toy Cleaning Wipes

Especially with how expensive sex toys can get, it’s important to take care of them.  With as much work as we put some of our toys through, and considering the sensitive places where we use those toys, we really need to work at keeping them in tip top shape.  As such, it’s important to take care of your toys; to keep them clean and store them properly between uses.

The first step in taking care of your sex toys is to keep them clean.  There are many varieties of antibacterial toy cleaners which you can use to clean any type of sex toy before and after use.  It’s important to clean toy before use, as well as after.  Before use, it’s important because the toys can collect lint, dust and other stuff that floats around in the air.  Even just rinsing the toy off first works, as we don’t want that lint and other stuff to get in our parts.  I like to use antibacterial toy wipes before I use my toys as the bathroom is very out of the way and many of many favorite toys are in my bedroom.

For cleaning after sex, it’s important to clean in all the crevices and dips you can find in toys, as fluids can get in there and then dry, which can lead to a lot of bacterial growth.  It’s important to use body safe soap as well as hot water.  For glass, pure silicone and other heat resistant toys without motors you can boil them.  5-10 minutes, depending on the size of the toy and how many you’re cleaning works just fine.  Also, a 10% bleach solution (so 1 part bleach to 10 parts water) works well also, so long as you ensure to rinse the toy completely.

It’s important to remember that unless your toy is completely non-porous, such as 100% silicone, metal or glass, your toy will never be wholly clean, as bodily fluids will get into the tiny pores and you won’t be able to clean them out.  As such, it’s always in your best interest to get totally non-porous sex toys.  Also, when it comes to toys used anally or shard, it’s imperative to get non-porous toys and then fully sterilize them before sharing or use again.  And never, ever take a sex toy from the anus to the vagina without fully sterilizing it first, or using condoms.

As for storing your toys, many toys cannot touch, or else there could be a reaction between the materials they’re made out of, which can ruin your toys.  The safest rule of thumb is to simply just store your toys so none of them touch.  Glass toys, wood or metal toys and ceramic toys are safe to touch each other and toys of the same material.  Plastics, jelly toys and silicone toys really shouldn’t touch each other or toys of the same material as a chemical reaction could occur which would damage the toys.

What I do is I keep each toy wrapped in cloth.  Sometimes I use the same piece of cloth, I just ensure that there is a couple folds of cloth between them.  Also, you can simply use the package that the toy came in, if it came in anything substantial.    Sometimes this is the best way to go, especially if the packaging is awesome and substantial, such as with Evolved toys.

Lastly for storage, it’s important to ensure your toys are safe.  Last thing you want is for them to get broken by accidentally being stepped on, or sliding off of a shelf.

So, the long and short of it is; take care of your sex toys. You spend your hard earned money on them, and you insert them into your bits and use them on your parts.  The better you take care of them, the longer they’ll last and the more you’ll be able to use them.

A breakdown of sex toys.

There’s a lot of different kinds of sex toys out there.  So I thought I’d break some of it down for you, to help separate some of the toys, what they are, what they’re typically used for, and how they’re used.

The Dildo

Perhaps the most recognizable sex toy, the dildo has been around for longer than many people realize.  Dildos come in shapes from realistic (meaning it looks very much like a real penis, typically uncircumcised) to unrealistic, possibly looking like a rose or some other, non-penile shape.

Dildos are typically used for vaginal penetration, though some are also able to be used for anal penetration.  For safety purposes, only use dildos with a flared base and that are also non-porous (so that they may be sterilized) for anal penetration.

Typically non-intimidating, a dildo is often the first sex toy a woman will purchase.  They are simple to use, don’t usually require batteries and come in a wide variety of sizes, colors and shapes.

The Vibrator

Vibrators really are more than a dildo that vibrates. For the most part, vibrating dildos are simply dildos that have a slot for a small vibrator (typically a bullet.)  They are typically realistic in shape and made of a soft material.  Actual vibrators, on the other hand, are made around the motor and vibrator, meaning that the vibrator is not removable.

Vibrators come in endless colors, shapes and sizes, as well as types.  From rabbits to g-spot vibrators to clitoral vibrators there is a vibrator made for any purpose.  As they sound, g-spot vibrators are made with a “hook” or nub at the end of it, to help the user reach and then stimulate the g-spot.  The clitoral vibrators are round and thin, without much substantial size so that one may target the clitoris.  Many clitoral vibrators can sit snugly between the labia.  Rabbits have a shaft for internal vaginal stimulation as well as a clitoral stimulator, so that both areas may be stimulated simultaneously.

Typically run on batteries, many sex toy companies are getting on the green bandwagon and making their sex toys rechargeable.

Vaginal Balls

Vaginal balls are small, body safe balls that typically are hollow, with another weighted ball inside of them.  Most vaginal balls are two balls, connected by a string with another retrieval string at the end of one of the balls.   A few are single balls with a retrieval string, and also you can find some which have no retrieval string, that you remove by simply using your pc muscles.  Some, like the Luna Balls offer a couple different options, working with one or two balls of different weights.

Vaginal balls are excellent for women who have had children and/or who are experiencing difficult controlling their bladder.  The reason for this is that doing regular exercises with vaginal balls (or kegel exercises without the balls) most certainly help strengthen the pc muscles.  This will increase your continence and there are many instances where this increased muscle control will also increase the pleasure you receive during sex.

The vaginal balls strengthen muscles by you holding them in.  They are weighted, so you squeeze your muscles around the balls, holding them inside your vagina.  By squeezing your muscles, holding the balls in, then releasing your muscles you exercise the muscles just like you exercise any other body part.

Anal Plug

Anal plugs are anal safe sex toys that get inserted into the rectum and then kept there.  They come in several materials, from silicone which is best for beginners as it gives, to steel which is more advanced, as there’s no give to it. Typically they do not vibrate and simply sit there.  While this may seem unexciting, there are many good reasons to use anal plugs.

First, you can work your way up from small plugs to larger ones to get your bottom used to having something larger in there.  This is a great thing to do if you wish to experiment with anal sex at some point in time.  Secondly, it can simply be enjoyable for the different sensations having something in your bottom can give.  Thirdly, using an anal plug is an awesome way to experience double penetration for women; having something both in your butt and vagina.

Anal plugs are great because you can wear them for long periods of time.  You can put an anal plug in then go do your errands!  This is a lovely and erotic way to spend some time during your day as no one else will know you’ve stuck something in your bum!  This can be a naughty secret between you and your lover, or something only you know.

Anal Probe

Basically, anal probes are anal vibrators.  They come in many shapes and sizes and are made specifically for anal use.  It’s always important to ensure that they’re non-porous so you can fully clean and sterilize them as well as ensure there’s a large flared handle so that it won’t get stuck up there; you can’t push things out of your bottom the same way a woman can push something out of her vagina.

Many anal probes are made specifically for men and thus are designed to simulate the prostate.  This is a wonderful and healthy thing for men to do as it can give a unique orgasm all of it’s own; it also does not, in any way, mean someone is bi or homosexual.

Anal Beads

Anal beads are sort of like anal plugs, but they are smaller and longer.  Anal beads are  an excellent thing to start with if you’re a beginner to anal play.  They have several beads or bumps on a body safe string or piece of silicone.  You can pop one in then after a few seconds of acclimation go ahead and put in the next one, which is a tad bit bigger.  You can then keep going (each bead/bump is a tad bit bigger than the one before) until you’ve inserted them all, or until you’ve reached the largest one you wish to use.

Also similar to anal plugs, these can be worn for extended periods of time while you are having sex, doing chores or running errands.  Anal beads are wonderful to have in while having sex.  You can experience double penetration, but also, typically, the man can feel the beads on his penis through the vaginal/anal wall which will give him unique sensations and increase the uniqueness and pleasure during sex.

The One You Can’t Live Without Contest!

Vibes!

So the other day I wrote about my favorite sex toy.  Rabbits are my favorite style, and currently the Tripler is my favorite rabbit.  And so, in the spirit of favorite sex toys and ones we just couldn’t make do without, I’d like to assist a couple of you with getting one of those awesome toys that you just can’t make do without!!

So we’re having a CONTEST!!  Yay!!

To Enter

Leave one comment, telling me about your favorite sex toy, and why you love it so much.  You’ll need to convince me that you truly love the toy!  The most passionate entry(entries, as there’ll be 3 winners) will win!!  A couple rules about this:

- Try to be tasteful and use appropriate words (eg – vagina, penis, clit).

- Don’t be afraid to tell me that it makes you squirt, or that it finds your prostate without fail.

- I wanna hear it all!!Try to make it longer than just 2 or 3 sentences.

- Include a story if you will, to illustrate why you enjoy the toy so much!!

Rules

You must be of, or above the legal age of consent where you live.  (For most places this is 18 years old.)  Also, you can only enter once.  You also must be in the United States or Canada, where Vibrator.com ships.   The contest ends Friday July 15th at Midnight, Pacific Time. I will announce the winners on Saturday July 16th.   I will then email you, and will need a response with your mailing address within 48 hours, or another winner will have to be picked.

Prizes

Grand prize – $50 gift certificate for Vibrator.com

2 Runner’s Up – 1 $25 gift certificate for Vibrator.com (each will get 1)

SO ENTER BELOW!

Photo By: Twice Pix

Plus Sized Sex

So often when reading about sex and sexuality and sex toys and all that, there are many issues which are addressed.  Different sexual orientations.  Issues resulting from sexual abuse.  Transgender issues.  It’s very rare though, to see someone talking about issues surrounding being plus sized.  Sure there’s plenty of discussion of self esteem and how it’s healthy to masturbate, but how often do you see suggestions on sex toys that are easier for larger women to use?  How often do you see suggestions on sex positions that are easier for plus sized people to get into?

Personally, I’ve only seen one book where plus sizes were addressed and the only suggestions on toys for plus sized women was a post written by me quite some time ago.  So, in the interest of promoting awesome masturbation for us plus sized girls, here’s a couple of my favorite toys, and some tips for us plus sized women!

Evolved Bendable You Too —  While this vibrator, unfortunately, doesn’t have Evolved’s standard rockin’ tins to keep it in, it’s bendy nature and lengthy size make it great for reaching hard to reach places!  It’s almost 9″ long, so when you have it elongated and not bent it can easily reach around extra flesh, it can easily fit inside thick labia and can help you reach if you’re unable to reach your fingers or hands down there.  Plus, with how bendable it is you can easily shape it exactly how you want and need it.  Not to mention the long cord for the power pack, so you don’t have to worry too much about where it is or how far away it is.

Share Dildo — Now, yes.  The intended purpose of this dildo is to be inserted into one female, and then that female has sex with someone else using the dildo as it’s inserted into her vagina.  However.  Look at the size and shape of this baby! That short end makes a perfect handle!  So it’s super easy for you to lay back, hold onto it and it’s size and length makes it easy to reach around extra flesh and still make it into your vagina so you can pleasure yourself.

TIPS:

Position aids, like the Liberator Wedge are really a girls best friend.  First off then can help you (anybody really) get into positions that may otherwise be difficult to achieve.  One thing though, to try, is if you’re in doggy style slap a pillow two under your belly. This will help to not only give your upper body some support so your arms dont’ have to take all the weight but also it can help give your stomach support so it’s not all pulling on your back.

If you want to have a leg or two in the air try laying on the couch and putting one up on the back of the couch.  By hooking a foot up there you can have a leg up without having to hold it up yourself or have your partner hold it for you.  That way you either don’t have to worry about that, or you and/or your partner can hold your other leg up and you can have the variety of position with a leg or two up.  This position sort of mimics doggy style and also makes it easier to achieve g-spot stimulation.

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Do you have any tips for plus sized people wanting to masturbate and have sex?  Or, are you plus sized and would like tips?  Please, leave a comment!!

The Basics of Vibrator Storage

Where do you keep your vibrators and other sex toys? For a long time, I kept mine on the nightstand. But having a toddler in the house that is becoming increasingly aware of her surroundings has made me re-think this plan.

You can easily tuck vibrators away in dresser drawers, nestled beneath sweaters and underwear. In all likelihood, no one will find them. But lint from sweaters sticks to jelly vibes, meaning you have to clean them very well before use. (And cleaning lint from a jelly vibe that’s not waterproof can be quite a hassle!)

If you’re opting for a bedroom drawer, wrap any vibrator in a lint-free hanky or, better yet, keep it in a silk pouch designed for toy storage.

Here are some other “Dos” for vibrator storage:

• Store vibes in a dry, dark, cool place. Sunlight can fade or possibly even melt some vibes. Heat and humidity can damage the electronics and promote growth of bacteria.

• Remove batteries before storage.

• Clean vibrators after use to inhibit the growth of bacteria – and so they’re clean for next time!

Storage Boxes for your Vibrator
Vibrator.com sells storage cases for your sex toys, like this large lockable box with keyless entry from BMS Enterprises.  This case looks like a train case or storage chest, which means you can keep it on your dresser without incident, funny looks or questions from anyone who may see it. I’d still recommend storing it out of sight if you have children – unless you have an amazing but believable story prepared for the inevitable query: “What’s in that box, Mom?”

If you frequently travel with your vibes, you may opt for this faux-leather soft case from For Your Nymphomation. Measuring a foot long, it holds all but the biggest of dildos. (You won’t be able to cram Doc Johnson’s 16-inch giant cock with balls into this one easily.) This case stores unobtrusively in a closet or drawer, and has a lock with two keys.

Have a lot of large toys? The XL faux leather hard case from For Your Nymphomation measures 18 inches high and 12 inches across to hold your entire collection – even that giant cock.

The lockable case (with two keys) includes six clear pouches attached to a long Velcro strip so you can store toys separately, and six loops with Velcro to hang items (such as paddles or floggers). A lower pouch with elastic lets you stow condoms or less “personal” items.

The separate pouches for toys are great because storing toys together can damage them. For instance, metal or plastic toys can scratch if left to bang around together in a case, and jelly vibes can get stuck together. Mixing toys of different materials together can actually cause materials in some toys to break down or get stained and discolored. For best results, if you use a case without separate compartments, wrap each sex toy in a lint free cloth before placing it in your toy box.

Finally, I can’t resist sharing this all-purpose faux leather case, again from F.Y.N. It looks like a briefcase and holds up to eight DVDs in their cases, a two-inch stack of magazines, or enough sex toys for a weekend getaway. As long as you check your luggage when you fly, no one will be the wiser about what’s inside.

Would You Give Your Teen Daughter a Vibrator?

Sex expert Dr. Laura Berman recommends women buy vibrators for their teenage daughters.

“You’re teaching them about their own bodies and pleasuring themselves,” Dr. Berman said on a segment of Oprah this past spring. “They don’t need [a] boy – they don’t need another person — until they’re ready.”

She went on to say that using a vibrator may even make teenage girls safer, sexually-speaking, because it may encourage them to put off their sexual experience even longer.

Oprah’s best friend, Gayle King, shook her throughout the segment, arguing that it is “just too much information.” Kids are growing up fast enough, these days, she argued. Parents don’t need to add battery-operated fuel to the raging teenage hormonal fire.

The thought crossed my mind that, upon discovering how good sexual pleasure can feel with a vibrator, teenage girls may actually be more eager to find out about the real thing. (Only to be sorely disappointed by a first experience with an inexperienced boy their own age, of course… sending them running back to their vibrator… maybe Dr. Berman has the right idea?)

Dr. Berman says it’s about empowerment – teaching teens not only the basics of sex as well as how to be safe, but educating them about orgasm. Which we all know is an important part of sex. But I’m still not sure about vibrator-shopping with a teenage daughter.

Talking to Teens About Sex
I remember learning about masturbation from Judy Blume books. A few years later, I started learning about sex from Danielle Steele. We did not talk about sex in my house – at all. While my mom knew exactly what I was reading (after all, she read Danielle Steele and Nora Roberts, too) we never discussed it.

I know this is an extreme situation – the polar opposite of what today’s experts recommend. Certainly, I agree that parents should teach their teens about sex: the basic mechanics, safe sex for protection against disease and pregnancy, and the importance of not giving into peer pressure.

It’s also important to talk about the emotional connection forged after sex, which may surprise teenage girls who don’t fully understand the difference between love and lust; sometimes, those “feel-close” hormones can even throw grown women for a loop after a casual encounter.

Girls are giving blowjobs at 13 and 14 years old. (Note to the experts: Surprise! This is NOT a new phenomenon!) So it’s wise for parents to explain that STI’s can be transmitted through oral sex and condom use is important. Parents shouldn’t just pretend it’s not happening or even that it’s an atrocity.  It happens, has been happening probably since the dawn of time, and will continue to happen.  Sex education in schools, one-on-one conversations  at home, and buying sex toys for our teens won’t change that. The best we can do is educate teens on how to be safe and protect against disease and pregnancy. Well, that or chastity belts.

A Vibe for your Teen?
While I’m very much in favor of sex education and parents talking to their kids about sex, I also agree with Gayle King that to buy a teenage girl a vibrator is, indeed, “TMI.” I think discussions with teens about sex should lean toward the practical and the clinical. Of course, if a teenager has any questions, they should be answered open and honestly, and parents should make it clear that their kids can come to them with questions.

But I can imagine only one reaction if my mother ever brought up the topic of vibrators, masturbation or the specifics of orgasm: complete mortification. I can’t imagine it would be comfortable for many teenagers – or their parents. And I don’t see many benefits to it.

With all due respect, I think Dr. Berman is not giving enough consideration to the other reasons teenagers have sex, including the same reason vibrators don’t replace real-life lovers for grown-ups. Whether you’re 14 or 40, a sex toy—while fun—can never replace the intimacy of sex with someone you love (or even like a whole lot!)

8 Easy Step to Introduce a Vibe to Your Man

Would you like to incorporate vibrators and other sex toys in your bedroom play, but aren’t sure how to introduce the concept to your man? Some men may feel insecure when you bring up the topic of toys, but others may be eager to use them for the first time. The only way you’ll know is to ask him.

Follow these tips to gently add a new element to your love life.

1.    Start small. We mean this literally and figuratively. The 9-inch long, extra-thick vibrating cock may intimidate your man a little. He might be less than enthused to hear it’s got 10 different speeds of vibration, pulsation and gyration. Most men only want to find that many buttons on the remote that controls their electronics equipment, not your you-know-what.

Begin with a slimline vibe that looks nothing like the real thing. Lady Calston’s Feel Good Slim Vibe can help create a great first experience for him or her.

2.    Seek the straight and narrow. Similarly, steer clear of anything that looks like a cock.

3.    Don’t let on that you’re a pro. When you first open your toy box, your man may want to know just how much action your collection has seen. Just smile seductively and say, “I use them now and then.” Deep in the back of your mind, you may know he masturbates daily, but that doesn’t mean you want to think about it. Neither does he.

4.    Demonstrate for him. If your partner seems uncomfortable or unsure what to do, give him a demo. And make it a real show. We promise you he will be so turned on, he’ll do anything you want after that.

5.    Use toys for two. Some clitoral vibes are great to use during intercourse. Your man won’t feel like he’s left out of the equation, and he’s sure to love the resonating vibrations, too. The We Vibe, for instance, is designed specifically for a man and woman to use together.

6.    Discuss it outside the bedroom. You can drop hints about toys you’d like to use by taking your man shopping – online, of course! Surf the Web with him one night and point out some of Vibrator.com’s more interesting, couple-friendly products. Chances are, he’ll be intrigued. If he seems lukewarm to the concept, start a dialogue. “I think these would be fun to use; what do you think?” During an honest discussion, he can air any misgivings and you can reassure him, or at least share your point-of-view.

7.    Toys for him. In some ways, introducing cock rings and pumps might be easier. After all, you merely have to tell him how good it will feel. What man doesn’t want more powerful orgasms and stronger sensations during sex?

8.    What about vibes for him? Once you’ve both gotten used to using vibrators together, he may get curious about experience the vibrations from a closer perspective. Or maybe you will be the one to suggest it.

Use plenty of lube for anal penetration and go slowly. Request that he communicates with you; let him set the pace.

Does color matter? If you think your guy will have hang-ups about something pink, purple or girly, go with a neutral color. On the other hand, some men won’t care at all.

Whatever toy you use, make sure to clean and sterilize it thoroughly before going from ass to vagina. It’s best to keep two separate toys on hand for these purposes if you plan to use vibes for anal and vaginal penetration during a single session. Who wants to get up and clean toys in the middle of sex?

Hitachi Magic Wand Review by Beautiful Dreamer

Hitachi Magic Wand reviewed by Beautiful Dreamer

We All Have Our Vices… Mine Takes Batteries

I didn’t plan to buy a vibrator last weekend.

In fact, our tour de adult shops focused on one very specific goal—finding thigh high leather boots for my best friend’s honeymoon.

Our quest took us to a three-story shop with an adult store on the lower level, and all manner of Wiccan, goth and “drug culture” memorabilia on the main retail floor. Looking for tarot cards, incense and a spiked collar? You’d find it here, along with an entire wall of leather boots.

In our mid-to-late 30s, my best friend and I were the oldest people in this store. And the only ones not clothed in black, with hair dyed in fluorescent colors. Imagine an X-rated video section tucked in the corner of Hot Topic, and you’ve got a pretty good description of this place. The phrase “Head shop with an identity crisis” also comes to mind.

When I spotted a Doc Johnson wireless remote control vibe for a little over $50, I couldn’t turn it down. But let me be clear: we were not in your usual adult video store, nor did the clientele represent the typical adult store demographic.

Every adult store has the resident overcoated perv in the corner ogling female customers, the quiet couple browsing the how-to videos, the twenty-something loner seeking something to keep him busy Saturday night, and the gaggle of bachelorette party babes giggling over the penis drink stirrers.

My first clue that something was amiss came right after I paid. The 19-year-old (at least, he looked 19) behind the counter put the toy in a paper bag, handed it to me and sent me on my way.

As anyone who’s purchased adult toys knows, they are non-refundable (quite understandably) and the clerk usually puts batteries in to make sure it works before you leave the store. I’m not thrilled with the idea of the fat, hairy middle-aged guy usually behind the counter in an adult store handling such an intimate item, but it’s better than being out $50 if the vibrator is defective. (Incidentally, Vibrator.com has a special, and very fair, return policy. You may write in to request a refund or exchange if your merchandise does not work… but back to our story! )

“Aren’t you going to make sure it works?” I asked the clerk.

His eyes gazed blankly at me. “Oh,” he said, slowly. Everything he did was slow. I’m not passing judgment or making assumptions, but I can’t help but think he frequently tested the “tobacco products” for sale in the store. “I suppose we should,” he said.

This isn’t your normal vibrator with a few AA batteries. Six watch batteries power the egg while a CR2, commonly used in digital cameras, powers the controller.

I tried to hide an expression that was half-smirk, half-grimace as I watched him putting six batteries smaller than my thumb into the small, egg-shaped contraption. I offered to help. Clearly uncomfortable handling the sex toy, he heaved a sigh and handed it to me.

I installed the batteries and pushed the button. Nothing.

A line has formed behind us, two twenty-something men with a question about a tobacco pipe and some kids buying rolling paper (for tobacco, of course.) Everything in the store is to be used only for tobacco, it is noted on signs taped to the wall.

I suspected one of the batteries might be facing the wrong way. I opened the egg and promptly dropped the batteries (all six) on the floor. I bent down to pick them up, knocking into the man behind me. My best friend giggled; I joined her.

Apparently, the spectacle of two women buying a vibrator became far more interesting than tobacco pipes, and everyone in the store gathered around to see if we could get the toy working.

After taking out and putting in the batteries three times—and checking the single battery in the remote, as well–we suggested to the clerk that the vibrator may be broken. Stumped, he called the manager.

The manager brought us a new vibrator, opened the package, started the process again.

“Does each remote work only on the egg it’s sold with?” I asked, my imagination running wild at the possibilities if one remote can control more than one vibrator.

“Of course,” the manager replied, giving me an odd look. “They’re all coded differently.” Adult novelty items are a recent addition to the shop, and I can tell he’s second-guessing the decision to carry them.

“That would be like a comedy skit if one remote controlled more than one vibrator!” my friend said, painting a verbal picture of women in a restaurant jumping and orgasming at sporadic intervals.

“It could make for an interesting evening!” I said, laughing.

A moment later, the egg I had in my hand—from the first, broken vibrator—began buzzing, as did the one in the manager’s hand. Letting out a girlish squeal, I dropped the toy and it fell just the right way to roll beneath the counter.

“I guess the remotes do work on more than one!” my friend observed.

Twenty minutes later, we managed to leave the store with a working vibrator and a modicum of dignity. Until we ran into the guys so amused by our antics. “Have fun with that!” they said as we walked out the door together.

Yes, from now on, I am definitely doing all my shopping for sex toys online.

How NOT to Give a Handjob

Generally, bloggers here will advise on the proper way to handle one’s self for all things sexual.  While instructions on cunnilingus, fellatio, the best vibrator, and how to fulfill your partner’s sick and intimate fantasies should certainly be what readers are looking for, there is apparently just as big of a need for detailing the WRONG way of doing things as well.  Most of us are still figuring out our own bodies and are continually discovering new sensations.  We spend much less time with someone else’s body than with our own, leaving our partners one step ahead of the self-pleasure game.  Add to that the difference in genders of heterosexual relationships and a lot of unanswered questions, and you have a recipie for confusion.  Trial and error.

This is a funny clip from the Swedish film Hip Hip Hora.  Enjoy!

Lingerie: It’s All about Confidence

I’m a lingerie junkie. I’ve always preferred black and frilly, but my husband has a penchant for white and slinky.

It took a lot for me to don a white lace teddy the first time, but as soon as I got over my lack of confidence, the idea that only basic black is flattering and slimming, I packed an entire suitcase with white or pretty pastel-colored lingerie for our honeymoon. He loved it!

Of course, I was thrilled to see that Vibrator.com has expanded its lingerie line and posted it right on the home page. It’s taking every bit of willpower I have right now to blog instead of shop!

I find it a little sad that some women aren’t comfortable enough with their bodies to enjoy the power of lingerie. Yes, power. You’re putting on a peek-a-boo show for your partner; you’re in control of what you’re wearing — and when it comes off.

Most men will drool over whatever you don, whether it’s black leather or white lace. But when you find a style that fits your body, you’ll love the way you look, you’ll feel sexier… and that will make all the difference.

Pear-shaped… If you have a figure that may be described as “hippy,” look for a style that draws the eye upward. Fun, flirty detailing or a strapless style that accentuates your bust will stimulate his senses.

Large-busted… It probably doesn’t take much to get your guy all a-quiver over your assets. If you’ve got it, show it off! Remember, you do want some support, for both comfort and looks, so don’t shy away from foam-molded cups. Fashion experts also recommend a halter top for large-chested women. Not everyone can get away with a halter style, so if you’re lucky enough to pull this off—he’ll be pulling it off you in no time!

Slim… Women with a slim or boyish figure can basically get away with any style, so get adventurous! Colors and patterns add girlish dimensions to your figure, while flirty accents, such as fringes, on the bottom draw attention to your legs while disguising straight hips.

Full-figured… Vibrator.com has a full line of lingerie for larger women, too. Look for a supportive top and a style that makes you feel great!

Whatever your size or shape, looking good in lingerie is mainly about attitude. Whether you’re small and perky or classically-figured and well-endowed, turn up those lights and flaunt what you’ve got.

Toys for Two: Using a Vibe with Your Partner

There’s a little fantasy of mine where I’m sprawled out in my tub, water from the shower cascading down onto my clit, with my vibe tucked neatly right where it belongs… and my husband walks in.

He doesn’t want to join in, just wants to watch me go through my repertoire. Other women may be mortified at the idea, but I can think of few things sexier. Besides, imagine all the tips your lover will pick up by watching you do what you’ve been doing for years?

If I’m feeling particularly imaginative, I’ll add another element to the fantasy, where he asks:  “Can I help?” There’s nothing hotter. And ladies, if you happen to walk in on your man while he’s checking out his porn collection, I encourage you to try the phrase. You may never see a bigger smile (among other things).

So what if you actually do have the opportunity to try out your sex toys with your partner? First, release your inhibitions. If you’ve been playing alone for a while, it might seem strange to have someone else involved in what used to be just you and your Pearl Lotus.

Some men may feel as if they’re in competition with the toy. After all, it might be bigger, more flexible, and it’s definitely got more functions. Make sure not to neglect his part when you bring your battery-operated friend into the bedroom.

Starting off with a toy that looks nothing like a penis may ease any trepidations he may have. You may even start with something small and basic, a standard “beginner vibe” or a small bullet vibe. With a remote control bullet, you can give him the controller, putting all the power in his hands.

Both bullets and basic vibes feel amazing rubbed on your clit during the act of sex. Doggy-style works best, but you can even use the vibe when you’re face to face. If he’s up to it, rub the vibe, on a low setting, gently against his balls. Gauge his reaction and then rev it up. Most men will love it.

If you’ve never experienced double stimulation with an anal vibe in the girl-on-top position, this is a must-try — and something you can’t really do to the same effect alone.

As you get more comfortable with gadgets, there are plenty of couple’s toys on the market, too. The Ultimate Couples Sensuous Sexual Enhancer is a cock ring and clit vibe with pleasure knobs all in one. You’ll both feel the powerful, stimulating vibes.

For powerful internal vibrations during love-making, there’s only one way to go: The unique “We Vibe” vibrator. This waterproof, rechargeable silicone vibe provides pleasure for both partners. And it looks nothing like a cock, just in case you can’t get your man to get over that particular hang-up.

So what are you waiting for? It’s time to take your toys out of the closet!

I Can’t Stop My Vibrator – Marcie

We recently came across an artist who is just perfect for Vibrator.com! Her name is Marcie, and she’s got a slammin’ dance track called “I Can’t Stop My Vibrator.”

Listen to her tracks here: http://www.myspace.com/webmarcie

And download here: https://www.beatport.com/en-US/html/content/release/detail/114873/cant_stop_my

We’ll be thinking of Marcie next time we’re out at the club!

Marcie is an Internationally Renowned Singer/Songwriter and Recording Artist with releases on various Major Electronic labels like Robbins, System Recordings, Flashover, Deepblue, Shah Music, Real Music, and more. Her tunes have had the support of likes of Tiesto, Armin van Buuren, Paul van Dyk, Oakenfold, Above & Beyond, Dave Pearce, Markus Schulz, DJ Shah, Solarstone, Gabriel & Dresden, and Aly & Fila. Marcie writes and performs in multiple genres such as Trance, House, Eurodance, Pop, and Rock, and has charted in the Top 30 worldwide. She currently resides in Boston, and her releases are available at all major record retailers.

Marcie is the producer and creator of “Marcie presents Behind The Lyric”, a show that explores the stories behind the lyrics of EDM. The show airs on Major stations like DI.FM and ETN.FM, and features interviews with well known Singer/Songwriters.

Vibrator.com at the “Sex and the City” NYC Premiere

The New York premiere of “Sex and the City” took Radio City by storm last night. Not even the scattered showers deterred the die-hard fans and Carrie wanabees. Vibrator.com was there to capture the night in full.

From mid-morning, fans lined up outside of Radio City Music Hall to catch a glimpse of the “Sex” stars and claim their seat for this year’s most sought-after ticket. At one point, the line extended from 50th Street and 6th Avenue to 51st Street and 5th Avenue – an entire city block! Fans were dressed in their best evening attire and the sheer magnitude of the evening felt more like an awards show than a movie premiere. Thousands of Swarovski crystals adorned the pink carpet, and Vibrator.com stickers, t-shirts, and postcards (coincidently of the same color scheme) decorated the lapels and pockets of the masses.

Spokesmodels Desiree and Agathe worked the crowd, spreading a sex-positive message and introducing Vibrator.com to throngs of onlookers already familiar with vibrators like the Rabbit Pearl. While some mothers shielded their daughters’ eyes, many were receptive to Desiree and Agathe and happily accepted the swag. Others couldn’t get enough!

HOT 97 were there to catch Desiree ‘in the act’ with an interview on camera. We’ll be tracking down the footage to post whenever we can get our hands on it.

Cynthia Nixon, Kristin Davis, Kim Cattral, and Sarah Jessica Parker arrived on the pink carpet for photo ops and to greet adoring fans. Celebrities and proud New York residents Donald Trump, Regis Philbin, Ashley Olsen, and Eli Manning all came out for the celebration.

Hundreds of general admission ticketholders were turned away as the 6000 seat Radio City Music Hall became full to capacity.

Two and a half hours later, the Museum of Modern Art (MoMA) hosted the premier’s afterparty, where countless A-list celebs gathered to party like they seem to do in Hollywood every other week. The “Sex and the City” series, and now the movie, depict an iconic New York in which an entire generation fantasized about living. While many of us could never afford an apartment like Carrie’s on a freelance writer’s salary, we can at least afford a movie ticket (and maybe some popcorn) when the film opens on Friday.

Sex, Toys, and Rock & Roll

Everyone is a “kind” of friend. Some people are the “supportive-buys-their-
friend-ice-cream-when-their-boyfriend-dumps-them-for-being-too-needy” kind of friend. Some people are the “party-all-night-long-and-wake-up-with- your-underwear-on-your-head” kind of friend. Turns out I’m the “ask-for-advice-on-awkward-questions-about-morning-after-pills-and- other-highly-personal-things” kind of friend. As such, it’s only natural that I am also the friend who takes my friends to the somewhat creepy 24-hour sex toy store to buy their first (desperately needed) vibrator. I’ve done it so many times that it’s starting to become a science. So – if you are having some difficulty deciding what to buy for yourself, and need a guiding hand, try this on for size: I can tell what kind of vibrator or sex toy you’re going to want or need by what kind of music you listen to. Here we go…

The Indecisive Listener

You listen to everything from Fall Out Boy to Kelly Clarkson, Snoop Dogg, and Metallica. You are passionate about music in general. You always grab the chance to go to a concert, even if you’re not familiar with the band, because what’s better than live music? But don’t get the wrong idea – just because you crave variety, doesn’t mean you go for just anything. You also have an eye for quality. To Summarize: You’re passionate about what you love, you crave variety, and you know quality when you see it.

Your Toy of Choice: The Better Sex Synergy Pleasure System

To prove my point, here’s a little bit about the Better Sex Synergy Pleasure System:”The Synergy is a massager that uses a unique oscillating action (up to 12,000 oscillations per minute) to enhance pleasure. The massager has five different heads made of soft rubber. The dual navigator can be used to cup sensitive areas or turned over and the nub can stimulate. The cup and ridges attachment can add subtle stimulation or be used as a larger cup to tantalize.” In other words, this one toy gives you a variety of ways to achieve a quality climax.

The R&B, Rap, and Hip Hop Listener

First of all, you keep it real. You don’t want to hear sweet, simpering melodies or bubblegum pop. You want a creative, driving beat, innovative lyrics, social commentary, and undiluted sexuality. You like it hard and dirty, and you don’t even bother with the censored-for-radio versions of songs. Your car’s stereo system can be felt before it is heard. You get involved in the inter-artist battles, taking sides and arguing about it with your friends. You cried when Tupac and Biggie were shot. To Summarize: Basically, you don’t fuck around – and if it doesn’t have rhythm, it’s not worth it.

Your Toy of Choice:Realistic Squirmy 6-inch Beige Rotating Cock

No fuss, no frills. This cock feels just like the real thing – except it’s always big enough and hard enough, and the strong vibrations give it an extra kick. It rotates at your will, pulsing with a heady beat. This is about as real as it gets.

The Wannabe Pop Star

You have strong opinions about which Simpson and Duff sister is cuter, and you like, totally think Jessica broke Nick Lachey’s heart (poor thing!). You are drawn to the simple, undemanding lyrics, and you like how fun and fashion-forward the singers are. You’re a big fan of best-friend sleepovers, where you both dance around like Britney in your pajamas, singing wholeheartedly into a couple of Conair brushes. You’re popular in school, but you’re still pretty shy around boys. (Oh, and by the way – definitelyAshlee and Haley!) To Summarize: You’re more into pretty and simple than complicated and kinky.

Your Toy of Choice:The Lelo NEA

This pretty little item is uncomplicated – just two discreet buttons that gradually increase or decrease the speed of vibration – but it packs a powerful punch. You’re not ready for a big nasty dildo vibrator with all sorts of attachments, but you are ready for an elegant, smooth little pebble of a vibrator. It fits snugly into the cup of your hand, and is easily manipulatable, for perfectly tailored stimulation. The delicate floral detail appeals to your aesthetic sense, and its small, sleek design allows it to be easily hidden from your parents and your little brother while you learn how take care of yourself. To top it all off, it’s quiet. Perfect, I know.

The Rocker/Alternative Girl

Torn-out magazine pictures of Angelina Jolie are taped to your wall, and lately you’ve been identifying yourself as “bi-curious” – which basically means you’re a little kinky, and a little provocative, but you’re sort of unsure about what qualifies as “sex” in a lesbian relationship (don’t worry, you’re not alone). Your hair has been several colors. You’re more interested in intelligent music played by talented artists than you are by the consumer-America style of pop. You take it as a personal affront when people like artists that don’t write their own music. You have at least one piercing, and – you know…FUCK authority. To Summarize: You’re an independent thinker who prefers counter-culture, and you’re drawn to real ideas, raw talent, and progressive music.

Your Toy of Choice:OhMiBod