The Benefits of Not Sleeping Together
For the first time in over 2 weeks my boyfriend and I slept in the same bed again. Heh, if only the reason for us sleeping in different beds was exciting! Truthfully it was ‘cuz he messed up his back and needed to sleep on something else, something with a different firmness. It was really nice, sleeping with him again. He’d been out of our bed for… gosh… probably 3 weeks.
When he laid down in bed with me it was almost like the first time we slept together; it was new and exciting. I remember we turned and faced each other and joked around. We giggled, poked and tickled each other, laughed, talked and ended up holding hands with our legs and arms intertwined. It was wonderful.
It was so nice because it was like doing that was new again. Sharing a bed with someone is really quite intimate, and like everything else, once it’s something that happens every single day and you get into a routine it becomes normal, less special.
At first, while I totally understood why he needed to switch his sleeping places I was still a little irritated. No matter how much you know something there’s almost always that little voice in the back of your mind whispering negative things, eating away at your self confidence and what you know. After a couple days I got used to it and truthfully I kind of enjoyed having the whole bed to myself. There was even a small part of me a little disappointed that I would be relegated back to just my side of the bed. However, once we got back into bed together it was wonderful, intimate and has increased our sexual desire for each other again.
I’m actually thinking of after a few months, we should do this again! Whether or not it’d be him or me displaced doesn’t matter. A couple weeks separate from each other can re-set the intimacy and desire again, and really help you appreciate the joys of sharing your sleeping space with someone. If you’re stuck in one of those ruts, I highly recommend sleeping apart for a few nights. While 2-3 weeks may be a bit much unless it’s for a back problem or something, just a few nights in the spare bedroom or on a couch can really help you to appreciate the subtle romanticism and the intense intimacy sleeping in the same bed with your lover has.
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True Pleasures on Tue, 14th Jun 2011 7:59 pm
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“Absence makes the heart grow fonder.”
This seems to be true no matter what the circumstances. Being away from someone gives you the time to think about what you miss about them and how much you really love them.
Sometimes I stay up late to get reviews done. I’m a night owl, so staying up doesn’t bother me, and I’m usually still wide awake at 3am. Still, I always find myself grateful to finally snuggle in bed with my husband and think about how soft, warm, and sweet-looking he is. And, of course, he complains when I stay up late because he misses using me as a stuffed animal to hug and squeeze to sleep.