Vibrator.com’s Guide to Tantric Sex, Part 1

Quick. What’s the first thing you think of when I say the word tantric?

-    The musician Sting
-    Some weird, ritualistic prolonged sex act?
-    Romance, love and adoration leading to divine ecstasy?

When I told my husband the topic of my latest post, he reminded me of another reference: American Pie II. Any of these cultural associations and definitions are relevant, depending on your perspective.

Tantric sex is actually part of a greater group of teachings and beliefs, which considers sex an important part of self-awareness, elevating participants to a higher spiritual plane.

This special three-part blog series will explore the basics of tantric sex. You may want to incorporate aspects of tantric practices into your sexual routine, or you might want to employ full-blown tantric rituals–going all the way, in a sense.

With our guide, you can pick and choose what appeals. Even if you only use a few suggestions, such as lighting scented candles in a corner of your bedroom, you’ll experience satisfaction in adding a new element to your love life.

If you take away only one piece of knowledge from this article, remember that tantric lovemaking is about heightened awareness leading to a beautiful merging with, and appreciation for, your partner.

Preparing for Tantric Sex

1.    Create a shrine to love –

Turn your bedroom, or perhaps another room in your house if you have the space, into a sacred sanctuary for lovemaking. Red satin sheets and soft pillows help set the mood, along with incense or candles. Try some sexy scents shown to have aphrodisiac properties, such as strawberry or sandalwood.

2.    Use food –

Tantric sex employs all the senses. Add food, such as strawberries, grapes and oysters to your sacred space to feed each other ritualistically. This nurturing act of giving your lover physical sustenance should take place with the intention to feed your lover’s body and soul.

3.    Breathe –

Tantric breathing allows us to connect with ourselves and our lover. Feel your chest cavity, indeed, your whole body, filling with the breath of life as you inhale. Release tension as you exhale.

Breathe the way a singer does, not merely filling your lungs with air, but expanding your entire diaphragm. Your chest and stomach should not become concave (smaller) when you breathe in, but should enlarge with the extra air you are holding. Release your breath slowly, blowing out carefully through pursed lips.

You can practice breathing alone or with your lover everyday as a prelude to sex or simply as a means of relaxation. The ability to breathe in sync with your lover—either inhaling and exhaling together or opposite each other–as well as to focus your breathing during orgasm, is one of the secrets to the heightened pleasure of tantric sex.

4.    Foreplay –

Tantric sex does not focus on the orgasm as the “end” of sex. Tantric sex has no goal, but is for the sake of pleasure throughout the act. Therefore, “foreplay” is not so much foreplay (ie., activity preceding penetration) as it is an equally important part of the sexual act. Remember, there is as much pleasure to be had in the preparation for sex, the actions preceding sex, and sex itself, as there is in the climax.

My next post will explore some of the acts and rituals in the early stages of tantric sex.

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